6 Steps To Letting Go: How to let go in 6 Steps: How to let go of a job due to redundancy: How to let go of a relationship!
One of my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV subscribers ask me these questions, “How to let go? What is the best way?” I thought my answers were very relevant to being made redundant and how to let go of a job due to redundancy, as well as how to let go of a relationship. So here they are, especially for you. Do they help you? Let me know in the comments below!
Step 1: Grieve and allow yourself to let it out – bottling it up never helps and will prolong the bad feeling. Many of us are taught not to this as crying is weak – but it is the opposite. Crying and letting it out takes courage, allows you to love and feel great and goodness in your heart again and far quicker.
Step 2: Believe everything happens for a reason good or bad. Letting out the pain, allows for good again and there is a reason why your circumstances change and it is so good and better stuff, or new stuff, can come your way. Positive thinking is the key to surviving and thriving!
Step 3: If it was a relationship or job that has gone, think of all the negative and bad stuff about it, and think of how you can improve your life going forward and reassess what you want from your relationships, jobs and life. If we do the same thing, we stagnate, so a change is good. Once we can see the bad and negative things we left behind, we can feel better about the present and more confident and happy about what exciting and new things are coming our way – this is the mindset you need to adopt. Shift it from thinking change is bad, to thinking change is great, otherwise life would be so very boring. Think – ‘what is coming next, if there are obstacles, I can deal with it, I believe in me, I am intelligent and will find a way!!’
Step 4: Think of a good life, a future life, and set some goals for what you want your life to be like, then take action to achieve those one by one – action is key to success.
Step 5: Take responsibility for your whole life. Believe that you and you alone are in charge of your own life and responsible for it. We cannot change others actions, we can only do the best we could do at the time, with the circumstances we allowed ourselves to be in, and that now, you see, it’s time move on and forward and keep growing.
Step 6: Put your mind, energy, effort and skills into learning personal and professional development stuff – whether that is listening or learning form me or others – it will help you grow yourself and take your mind off negative things. One you start growing yourself, you will love yourself far more.
Is this helpful? What do you do to let go? Share in the comments below!
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“Self-love is when you can say this to yourself – You just made my day!” Self-love Quote By Sandra Bellamy.
The best person to make you the happiest person alive, is yourself! If every day you can wake up and say to yourself at the end of it, you made my day, you will know you acted with self-love, compassion and care for you!! And this is the best form of love on the planet!! For when you love truly love yourself, is when you will have an abundance of love to last a lifetime and more!!
This was a hard ad-libbed poem for me to do!
It has been a really difficult and sad time for me lately, because on Sunday 29th of October, I had to split with my asexual boyfriend. The guy who I thought was my soulmate, and who was really kind, sweet and loving towards me, turned out not to be so nice after all, not loving me like he first did, or valuing my worth, and in fact exhibited some controlling behaviour, so I had to save myself any more heartache and split! It is hard when you think you know someone, you bring down many of your barriers to try to trust again, after previous past abusive relationships, then find out they are not the person you thought they are and turned out to be someone who would cause you more pain. He did a good job of fooling me!! I really thought he truly and deeply cared for me, but I was mistaken. I don’t think he knew the true meaning of the word love! His behaviour appeared to change so quickly!
I wrote an Asexual Newsletter which you can find here, about how his behaviour changed and about some of the signs of controlling behaviour that you may want to look out for! And about how sometimes, you have to be your own hero and save yourself and get out of a relationship that is no good for you, no matter how painful it may be: http://mailchi.mp/a50715303715/asexual-break-up-how-to-be-your-own-hero
Here is the full Asexual-Dating playlist so far, if you want to know more about my asexual dating journey!
If you are ever threatened with if you do x, y, or z, I will leave you, excluding domestic violence of course, then you are under that persons’ control and it is time to leave, however hard that may be!