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In A Word Where People Criticise Others – Be Different! Be An Encourager!

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“Be an encourager, the world has plenty of critics already”.

If there is one thing that is free in life, that is to encourage others. In a world which is targeted to make us feel bad about our weaknesses and imperfections, to sell you the latest products or services to cure or fix you – be different, be an encourager, and help others to see the best in themselves and that they can achieve their dreams all the while embracing their unique qualities and accepting their imperfections, yourself with thank you for it later!

When did you last encourage someone and what happened? Write in the comments below, I love to read you!

Until next time, stay positive!

Sandra xx

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7 Year Freedom From Abuse Anniversary

Today, marks the 7 Year Anniversary of me being free from abuse, and to celebrate I went on a self-date to the cinema and saw Disney’s The Nutcracker and the Four Realms. Which was an amazing family film. It is very Christmassy, with magic, wonder, beautiful costumes and sets, and some nicely simple special effects that were great for the film. Here is the trailer:

My ex is not something I have mentioned much on this blog, but I wanted to post about my 7 year freedom from abuse anniversary, across all 3 of my blogs, including this one, to inspire others that they can break free from not only the abuser, but from that life you have become emotionally attached to, even though you KNOW it’s bad for you. You are hooked on the trance that it puts you in at the time, even when you KNOW you need to leave, but you feel you cannot get out of it. Partly because you are scared that you will find no one better and that no one will love you like they did, because that is what they will have you believe, and with a lack of self-esteem and self-love, it is hard not to cling on for dear life, even though that life is far from dear.

My ex was verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusive, and also physically threatening. Fortunately, he was not sexually abusive, and was good to me in that way.

In this video from my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel, that was live streamed, you can hear what I had to say about my past experience and how happy I am now to be free of that abuse, and living as a single, happy person.

Until next time, stay ace

Sandra xx

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How To Be Successful Inspirational Quote And Why You Must Live Your Dreams!

positive thinking and action quote

I love this how to be successful inspirational quote: “Your positive action, combined with positive thinking, results in success.”

Let’s face it, no one ever became successful from thinking negatively. And the more you think positively, the more you will take action and the more action you take, the more lessons you will learn on the path to success and happiness.

Sometimes it can feel like an uphill struggle, sometimes it can feel like you are beating your head against a brick wall, but the only thing you can do is to keep going, keep taking action, and keep following your intuition. Keep believing in yourself, and at least you know you gave it a chance and you are living and breathing your own dreams. Because when you are on your death bed, think of all those lost dreams, on all of those chances and risks you did not take because you were too scared, and now the only thing that scares you, is not living how you were meant to live because of narrow and shallow minds that made your own small. You are the boss of your own life and your are the ruler of your own kingdom, now go and be you and live the life of your dreams!

Until next time, stay positive and live the life of your dreams.

Sandra xx

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Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy Featured is Femedic Article About Asexuality Dating

From 21st – 27 of October 2018, is Asexual Awareness Week. Not many people have heard of the term asexual or asexuality. In broad terms, asexuality is a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction, meaning we don’t get the need, urge or want for partnered sexual intercourse. If you have this sexual orientation then you are known as an asexual. Asexuals make up a recorded 1% of the population, although personally I think this number could be a lot higher if more people knew about this orientation and were not afraid to let others know they are also asexual. Because we live in such a highly sexualised society many asexuals live in fear of ridicule of what others think. I am a proud asexual, attracted to guys only, romantically, but not sexually (heteroromantic). I still love kissing and cuddling but do not desire the sex ever. And yes, I had sex in the past as I thought I had to as part of a heterosexual relationship – all the while not realising my lack of actually thinking I want to do it, meant I was indeed asexual.

I discovered I am asexual in 2014 and have been educating people about asexuality on my channel since 2015 www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and I have a website www.asexualise.com and last year I published my ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 ASEXUAL STORIES: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY book, here is the link if you want to check it out, you can read my very own personal story just from the ‘look inside’ feature https://amzn.to/2OliYlY

Last month I was featured in an article on the Femedic website about what it’s like dating when you are asexual!

Here is the link to the full article https://thefemedic.com/sexual-health/what-like-dating-asexual/and Above is a video with me talking about it, that was a live stream recording!

I am really proud to be featured talking about asexuality dating. Since being a speaker at the UK Asexuality Conference, I am on the Asexuality.org (AVEN) Media and Speaker team, and so very proud of that!

As always, stay positive and make your own dreams come true.

Sandra xx

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How To Stop Procrastination Inspirational Quote

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I love this how to stop procrastination inspirational quote. “The most effective way to do it, IS TO DO IT!”

I am also guilty of worrying too much about the way to do things and if I should do them at all! I worry what if, this or that. And then I feel bad that I am even letting these negative thoughts enter my mind. I am trying to push forward in my own life, not thinking so much, not worry so much, and just do it! Sometimes when you allow yourself to flow more, you get into flow more and built momentum so you can get more done to lead you to the path of success and happiness. It is a long journey but now we must all take it if we want to feel happy, successful, and fulfilled, in our own right.

I would love to read your thoughts on this! Please comment below!

Until next time stay, stay positive and live your dreams.

Sandra xx

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How To Get Your Life Back On Track #life #hacks

August was a tough month and so was September as you know if you saw my last blog post. And even though September didn’t go according to plan, and burnout crept upon me (thank goodness I got the blu ray player), I still think this is an invaluable video to help you get your life back on track and to help you know you are not alone in your struggles! And taking time out in September to get better helped me to reflect and know what I have to do and REALLY want to do! And listening to this video again after my illness serves as a fantastic reminder of how to get and keep your mind and life on track!

To summarise how to get your life back on track:

  • Write down what you want in the future!
  • Write down what would make you happy now!
  • Write a love letter to yourself!
  • Write down your feelings and emotions!
  • Write down your passions, goals and dreams!
  • Write down your skills from your job.
  • Write down your hobbies and interests.
  • Don’t think, just do it!
  • Take action now!

Which is your best advice from the video! Comment below – I love to read you!

Until next, stay positive and work towards your dreams.

Love Sandra xx

P.S. You can find my  BREAK THROUGH THE BARRIERS OF REDUNDANCY TO GET BACK INTO WORK -AN A-Z ‘HOW TO’ GUIDE here https://amzn.to/2P1LHcu