When I was made redundant for the second time in my life, in 2009, it is then that I discovered 100% that I was born to write. I started my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com writing blog over 6 years ago and I knew back then, that I wanted to have my own publishing company called Quirky Books, and this year, that dream, finally came true. Yes, I am a registered publisher, and this Asexual Perspectives book is the first of my books going into print ( 3rd Kindle book). It was a proud moment to finally hold my printed book in my hands and even a more proud moment, that my number one fan of my Asexualise work and brand, did an unboxing video and was so excited to receive a copy of my work!! To hear him say the words, “Author Sandra Bellamy”, felt incredible. There is no better feeling in the world than the power to change lives, through the written word. As a registered publisher I have to by law, send a paperback copy to the British Library for free. It then goes down as part of English heritage, so will be there for generations to come, long after I am gone, for people to use in their research and to further their. Here is the link to get the book in a Kindle veraion http://amzn.to/2szjNJQ Or UK site is http://amzn.to/2u6vps7
In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?
Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.
Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!
If you identify as asexual do you –
Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?
Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.
In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!
In this book you will:
•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.
•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.
•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!
•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.
•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.
•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.
•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.
•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.
•Uncover the positives about being asexual.
•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.
I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.
If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and scroll up and add to cart!
Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of http://www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.
To celebrate this book going into print, our diversity across the spectrum, and our individuality within it, I founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, 1st-31st of July 2017, #APAM. Like www.facebook.com/acexualise to join in the celebration fun and subscribe on www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to see a different video every day, for 31 days of #APAM, related to a topic from the book that matters to you and join in the conversation!!
So grab your copy now and get educated on this often unheard of, and deeply misunderstood sexual orientation, that is asexuality, the (A)absence of sexual attraction!
What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE. What is the hardest part of writing a book?
Redundancy is one of the best times to write that book. But now hard can the be??
Special Edition Video Series. In this video series I give you a behind the scenes look at what it is really like to be a writer and author. Part Two shows more of the making of the book and my daily routine.
I have been working tons of hours on my Asexual Perspectives book since New Year’s Day!! (Home, day job, book, home, day joy, book!)
I have finally uploaded my Asexual Perspectives book and waiting for Kindle to approve it and then I will be a self-published Author x 3 – but this book will be in print also asap!!
Stay positive and look out for part two soon!!
Love xx Sandra
Follow your dreams like guiding stars and let them lead the way.
Redundancy is the perfect opportunity to take time out to discover what it is that you really want to do with your life and your career.
It is perfectly normal for you to feel a mixture of emotions during the early stages of redundancy. These can include, but are not limited to, panic, anxiety, worry, stress, depression and feelings of being overwhelmed, bewildered and fearful of what the future may hold.
However, it is also the chance of a lifetime to take stock of your situation and discover what makes you truly happy, in both your career and your personal life and then setting some goals to determine how you are going to achieve that happiness.
In order to establish makes you happy in these areas, start by:
- Making a list of the things that you like to do both in and out of work.
- Making a list of what you don’t like to do in and out of work.
Now, of the things you most like, number them in order of priority, what makes you the most happiest should be at the top of your list (number 1) and your least happiest down the bottom of the list. In order to determine which make you the happiest, look at yourself in the mirror and say the words of the things that you think make you the happiest – Notice your tone of voice and what your facial expressions are doing, do they show you are elated? Excited? Can’t stop smiling? By observing yourself in this way, you should be able to verify if what you think makes you happy, actually does make you happy. I know for example, that when I talk about writing, my whole face lights up, my tone of voice changes, my body language is different because I love it so much and feel comfortable being a writer. I know therefore, that I couldn’t live without writing in my life and that’s what my dream job is and that is what I need to do in order to make me happy.
Once you have concluded your priorities for being happy, you next need to decide on what steps to take in order to achieve your dream job. So for example, if you want to be a photographer, your list of steps may read something like this:
- Google photography – Check out what area of photography I would like to specialise in, portrait, landscape, still life, animals.
- Buy a photography book and magazine to read up about it.
- Enrol on a photography course.
- Buy a camera recommended by the course.
- Practice, practice, practice – Try photographing a range of things.
- Join some online photography groups.
- Go online and find places to sell my photos.
- Establish what products and services I could sell on my own website and for what prices.
- Build my own photography website with an integrated shopping cart.
- Advertise my products and services in the local media.
- Learn to use social media to promote my business.
- Sell my products and services.
= You are in your dream job.
So you can see, your dream job is only a plan away but if you don’t act on the plan, then it will always be just a paper exercise. You need to make your dream job happen because no one else can do it for you. Let me know when you have achieved it and you are welcome to do a guest blog post on this site, describing your business and your experience, thereby gaining free publicity. I am confident that together, we can beat redundancy blues.
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