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Asexualise My Asexual Life – World’s First Personal Development And Self-Growth Channel For Asexuals! First Asexual Live Chat Show!

I thought I was heterosexual for years, but I just didn’t like sex, as I didn’t associate sex with love, but loved to kiss. But when I realised I could no longer have sex, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it ever again, and I nearly wet myself because I was fearful of dating sexuals because of the expectation of sex at the end of the date, I knew something had to be done about it, because I felt I was the only one in the entire world, planet and universe that felt this. So I went to see a counsellor. But… it didn’t go well at all. She said the worse thing in the world, that I really didn’t want to hear. And that was if I wanted a relationship, I must have sex in order to keep a good guy. Something seemed very flawed about this perspective. If the guy was a good guy, why would he want me to do things that were not good for me, as part of a relationship with me! To me that made no sense. It was like giving a license for rape to happen, disguised as what a ‘good guy’ would be allowed to do, in order for me to keep him! This defied all my reasonable ‘healthy-for-me’ logic! So I went home and Google “I love kissing and not sex” and that is when I came across Asexuality.org and realised there were others like me who didn’t like sex, and who didn’t need it in a romantic relationship to be happy. And that’s when I discovered I am indeed a heteroromantic asexual, not heterosexual.

That was in 2014, when I first discovered I am Asexual (I lack sexual attraction. I don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, no matter how much I love the person). Back then, I couldn’t talk about sex publicly or about my past sexual relationships publicly. I had almost given up completely on the idea of having a relationship and dating ever again. And my past relationships weren’t great, but the opposite.

In October 2015, for Asexual Awareness Week, I decided to get out of my comfort zone, open up about past sexual relationships, and announce to the world, that I am in fact, a heteroromantic asexual! On my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. It took me awhile to get used to speaking openly on my channel, but when I received comments from viewers, that they found my videos helpful and they were glad they found my channel, it made me happy to continue to create and upload videos and I decided to not copy other asexuality channels, just to become popular, but to share my own asexual life journey in order to help others, to empower asexuals to be comfortable and confident with their own Asexuality, and to educate others! Little did I know back then, how this channel would grow into the unique Asexualise My Asexual Life, Asexuality late night chat show it is today!

In 2017, I published my first ever book for Asexuals, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity, under my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books. Little did I know at the time, just how popular this book would be and continues to be, to this day. Helping asexuals, those who lack sexual attraction, and who are a recorded 1% of the population, to know there are others like them in the world, who don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, and to know it’s okay, you are not alone and that sex does not equal love, and it is possible to live, love, and be happy, without sex forever, in a loving, happy, and healthy relationship, be it romantic or platonic, or if you don’t ever want to be ‘in a relationship’ it’s okay! (I am currently working on my second book for asexuals which will be published in 2020, with 4 more books planned for asexuals. Each book focuses on different topics, within the asexual spectrum!) So if you are a writer who is struggling at the moment, know you won’t be rich overnight, you might not be rich in money terms, for a very long time, but you will be one of the wealthiest people in that world, because you can really change lives with your written words, and that is why you should be a writer and Author of books, because you love writing so much and you want too change lives for the better forever. I regularly get people private messaging me about how this book has literally change their life, for the better, forever. And also, how much my videos on www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife have really helped them, especially when they first discovered they are asexual. I get people who are not asexual watching my channel, but the respective fact I am, subscribing to it, and becoming one of my most loyal viewers. I know I can help those people too and you.

In July 2018, I wanted to do something special for Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, so I started to live stream on my channel, every day, for 31 days. But when the 31 days was over! I got the bug for live streaming. I realised how many more asexuals I could help, rather than in private message one-on-one, if I just let anyone and everyone ask me questions directly in the live stream chat. I could offer something unique, that no other asexuality channel was offering. A way to get instant answers about asexuality, about my own life experiences, and to help other asexuals to overcome depression, like I had done in 2012; lower their anxiety, and get a better mindset and a better quality of life! Fast forward to today, and I am still live streaming daily, but now it’s evolved into being an online daily late night chat show which at its heart, is a Personal Development and Personal Growth channel for Asexuals, and the world’s first of its kind.

Specialising in:

  • Asexuality
  • Surviving and Thriving as an asexual in this highly sexualised world
  • Dating and Relationships
  • Spirituality and Mindset,
  • Personal Growth and Self-Love.
  • I also do ‘no sex’ movie reviews.

These days, it’s not uncommon for many (not all), of my streams to last over an hour, sometimes two, and the odd occasion has even been over 3 hours long. All of that time has been spent helping asexuals for free, and non-asexuals who also form part of my regular viewership. So on average 7-14 hours a week! My live streams most often start after 11pm UK time.

I have been learning about personal and professional development since 2012. I have also been heavily involved in the Asexual relationships and dating scene, with being on Asexual dating sites since 2014, running 3 Asexual dating Facebook groups, and learning a lot more about healthy dating and relationships dynamics since studying a pattern changing course in 2013, and subsequently learning much more in the last couple of years. I am keen to help as many asexuals as possible to develop long-lasting healthy friendships and relationships, with life, with love, with others, and with yourself. To help grow you as an individual and realise your true potential and beauty, in your own uniqueness.

I would love you to join my channel community, if you think this is something you could benefit from, please subscribe at www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife, and hit the bell icon so you get notified whenever I go live, which is usually each and every day, unless for some reason I am staying away from home and have no access to live streaming, such as over Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year’s.

If you missed Eddy’s incredible story in the chat, about how he is heterosexual, yet been in a relationship with a sex-repulsed asexual girl for 2 years and said it’s the most purest form of love he has ever experienced, and the best relationship he has ever had, check out this show here https://youtu.be/F7T8Lzv2zoo which was recorded live! Eddy has now become one of my Asexualise community family, despite not being asexual!

This is why I created my channel, not just to help asexuals, but to help bring sexuals and asexuals together and to bring the gap of understanding between us, so that one day we can live in harmony alongside each other! And that ‘no sex’ ever relationships, can finally be accepted worldwide, as something some people enjoy and is normal for some to have! If some asexuals don’t mind having sex, and MAY like it as an activity to do like a board game. It’s logical that some sexuals may enjoy not having sex, because they enjoy that type of relationship and lifestyle!

Check out the blog post about how this channel evolved into a late night Asexuality chat show, here https://wp.me/p6MjnW-3HO  and join my channel here www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife

As always, stay positive

Sandra xx

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Want to have less pain, more energy, and feel happier? For a fraction of the cost of a therapist!

 

FIBROMYALGIA SELF-HELP HANDBOOK: HOW TO MANAGE YOUR FIBROMYALGIA, HAVE LESS PAIN, MORE ENERGY, FEEL HAPPIER, LIKE A SUPERHERO ROCKSTAR

Want to have less pain, more energy, and feel happier? For a fraction of the cost of a therapist! I just launched my www.acefibrogirl.com site so you can read more about my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook, or go directly to amazon and buy it now, here https://amzn.to/2OZMFr1  Even if you don’t have fibromyalgia, this book will give you the formula for how to have a more positive and happier life, and show you how to increase your energy. It helps you to overcome depression and decrease anxiety, and is an autobiographical book too, so it’s helpful, and gives valuable insight and guidance on how to live your best life, and thrive and flourish, not just survive, but to truly come alive!

You may have been wondering lately, where have I been? I have busy with course creation and getting well as I had two back-to-back infections and lost my voice and had to have lots of rest. Still playing catch up! I have lots of exciting projects I am working on, including one which will help others to make money online and to cut their time and learning curve short, to make money fast! Yep, finally found out what works, and it’s likely not what you think! So watch this space for more details about that!

This year, I am working flat out to finish off as many of my outstanding projects as possible, before the new year arrives. Next year I will be launching 3 new brands, on top of everything else I do. In fact, 2 of them would be launched before the new year, if I could get the others finished sooner, rather than later. Right now, it’s one step at a time. So that is why I have not blogged on here as much and as often as I usually do, and it’s likely to be that way for some time to come, as I have to block out time and turn off distractions and focus hard on narrowing down exactly what I need to do to succeed in my businesses. I have let go of 7 domains this year and gained 5 new ones. But, the good news is, the upcoming brands will help you a lot, especially the ones involving making money. I am also working on my second book for asexuals, which is ironically called Asexual Guide To Sex, and will be like no other book you have ever read on the topic of sex, in your life before, and is more like an immersive experience than just a book. It’s insightful, helpful, and gives the real truth about what it’s like to have sex when you are asexual, with sex help, sex advice and sex guidance, from asexuals who have had sex before, I am super excited for this book!

Until next time, stay positive

Sandra xx

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Sex Is Not What You Think! Don’t Believe Me? Tune In Tonight At 7pm, LIVE!

You may have thought I had disappeared off planet earth. The fact is, I was never on it in the first place, lol! I was on planet Quirky Books and that is pretty much where I have been and working a lot on my publication of my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook, which is now out in both Kindle AND print, as well as writing and working with my asexual interviewees for my second book for Asexuals, which is called Asexual Guide To Sex and will literally be the best book on sex ever written and literally change your understanding of sex as you know it, it will be a MUST read book! I also haven’t been too well and had an infection that I was treated for, as well as low blood pressure. I had to have a blood test yesterday for further investigation of why I kept feeling dizzy, and I have a fear of needles and blood so that was difficult for me to do that.

This week is Asexual Awareness Week in case you didn’t already know, and on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel I have been doing a series of videos about asexuality to raise awareness and understanding of this sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction. Tonight, at 7pm UK time GMT, I have a live interview with my Asexual best friend who identifies as Non-binary. So I will be talking to them about how they first discovered they are asexual and about gender identity, particularly what is means to be non-binary! Make sure you subscribe to my channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and hit the bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video on my Asexualise channel. I try to live stream every day usually after 11pm at night and you can catch up with it afterwards if you miss an episode. Tonight’s episode is at the much earlier time of 7pm. Even if you are not asexual, supporters and those taking a genuine interest in what asexuality is, are always welcome to join in the live chat.

If you are questioning as to whether you may be asexual or you want to know more about asexuality, please watch this video about signs you may be asexual!

If you have any questions about asexuality after watching these videos, please comment below!

I am with my Asexual best friend from today for 5 days in total and doing lots of fun stuff, including going to the Disney on Ice show on Saturday and it’s their birthday on Monday, so we are having a pre-birthday asexual group meetup on Sunday and going to Plymouth Aquarium on Monday, to see the new Terminator movie and eating in Nandos. In effect it’s 5 days of birthday fun for them and me, because I feel like it’s my birthday too! They are one of the bestest friends I have ever had in my life! So pleased I met them, they make the world a more special and precious place, just by being in it!

If you want to read more about asexuality, you can get a copy of my first book for asexuals, ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 Asexual Stories: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY, here https://amzn.to/31OkTlA

Until next time, always stay positive.

Lots of love

Sandra xx

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Author Sandra Bellamy Asexuality Interview On Freestyle Your Life Podcast

Freestyle Your Life Podcast Interview

I am so happy to have been interviewed on the Freestyle Your Life (FLY) Podcast about my personal asexual journey and about asexuality. In case you didn’t already know, in March/April 2014 I discovered I am a heteroromantic asexual. I am attracted to guys romantically not sexually. I don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse. I love kissing especially and cuddling, but not sex. Yes, I had sex in the past because I thought I had to as part of a ‘normal’ relationship, as we are all conditioned to believe since birth. Yes, I did say conditioned, but sex is not for everyone. Love without sex, does exist. One of my asexual friends is getting married to his asexual partner next month and I couldn’t be more happy for them.

If you didn’t already know, I am the Author of this beautifully insightful book about Asexuality, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity. So if you want to read more about my personal asexual story you can read about it in my book here https://amzn.to/2YEGD2y Or here if you live in the USA https://amzn.to/30nTarT Or worldwide at https://www.sellfy.com/quirkybooks.net or you can order the paperback version from all good book shops around the globe under Quirky Books – yes, that’s my own publishing imprint.

Asexual Perspectives print book
Author Sandra Bellamy With Her Asexual Perspectives Paperback Book

I am also the founder of www.asexualise.com and www.asexualiseacademy.com and I design and sell merchandise for asexuals on Amazon and Redbubble I also live stream daily on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel.

My podcast interview with Freestyle Your Life, goes live on Tuesday 9th July 2019 on ITunes, Stitcher and Spotify. It will be available to listen to from midnight on 8th of July, so you can listen to it on the 9th, no matter what country you are in. I had a lot of synergy with this presenter as she is all about being your true authentic self, no matter what, and has a hugely powerful personal story of overcoming adversity herself.

These are the links where my episode, (episode 26), will be live to listen to from the 9th of July 2019!

This is the exact link to my specific episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep026-how-to-embrace-your-quirky-asexuality-sandra/id1458343184?i=1000443926237

https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/freestyleyourlife-podcast

You can find my episode on Spotify at number 26!

https://open.spotify.com/show/7pABZtAGxl4XqjPovRzUQg

https://freestyle-your-life.com/podcast/

I also blog on www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com for over 8 years and you will currently see this almost identical post there. On that blog is where I started my Author journey and it took me 7 years to get the Quirky Books name as my very own registered publishing imprint in the UK, so you can buy this book globally as well as find it in 6 UK libraries. I want to inspire you to never give-up on your dreams and to be your true, authentic self, always.

I hope you enjoy listening to my interview.

As always, stay positive.

Sandra xx

 

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Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy Featured is Femedic Article About Asexuality Dating

From 21st – 27 of October 2018, is Asexual Awareness Week. Not many people have heard of the term asexual or asexuality. In broad terms, asexuality is a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction, meaning we don’t get the need, urge or want for partnered sexual intercourse. If you have this sexual orientation then you are known as an asexual. Asexuals make up a recorded 1% of the population, although personally I think this number could be a lot higher if more people knew about this orientation and were not afraid to let others know they are also asexual. Because we live in such a highly sexualised society many asexuals live in fear of ridicule of what others think. I am a proud asexual, attracted to guys only, romantically, but not sexually (heteroromantic). I still love kissing and cuddling but do not desire the sex ever. And yes, I had sex in the past as I thought I had to as part of a heterosexual relationship – all the while not realising my lack of actually thinking I want to do it, meant I was indeed asexual.

I discovered I am asexual in 2014 and have been educating people about asexuality on my channel since 2015 www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and I have a website www.asexualise.com and last year I published my ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 ASEXUAL STORIES: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY book, here is the link if you want to check it out, you can read my very own personal story just from the ‘look inside’ feature https://amzn.to/2OliYlY

Last month I was featured in an article on the Femedic website about what it’s like dating when you are asexual!

Here is the link to the full article https://thefemedic.com/sexual-health/what-like-dating-asexual/and Above is a video with me talking about it, that was a live stream recording!

I am really proud to be featured talking about asexuality dating. Since being a speaker at the UK Asexuality Conference, I am on the Asexuality.org (AVEN) Media and Speaker team, and so very proud of that!

As always, stay positive and make your own dreams come true.

Sandra xx

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ASEXUALITY UK CONFERENCE 2018 ASEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS DISCUSSION: WITH ASEXUALISE’S SANDRA BELLAMY

If you did not already know, I am known as The Asexual Entrepreneur and have been educating people about Asexuality since 2015 on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. Asexuality is a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction and a recorded 1% of the population is asexual. I am also one of those 1%. I am only attracted to guys, but romantically, not sexually. So I like kissing, cuddling, and holding hands, but no sex.

On 8th July 2018,  I was a speaker at the UK Asexuality Conference, in London, which was a dream come true for me. I took part in a panel discussion about Asexual Relationships and was also an individual speaker with a talk about “How to arrange an Asexual Meetup” aimed at those who are just starting out holding in person Asexual meetups. I hold asexual meetups in my city of Exeter but people come from all over the UK to them and I am currently planning the next one for September, which we should be doing VR gaming for.

Here is the first video (Asexual Relationships) from the UK Asexuality Conference. I was in a team 3 for this panel discussion and it is interesting to hear the varying viewpoints, and my short talk about Asexual Relationships starts about 03.48. My friend recorded this for me, and edited it for me. The person who introduces us did not want to be filmed, so you can only hear their voice and they have been cut out of any visuals.

At part of this team, I give a short talk and later answer some of the questions from the audience, hope you enjoy it and let me know what you think?