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I Love Kissing But Not Sex – How Asexuality Transformed My Life – With Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy

I was interviewed by Catana @TransformationalArtWithCatana  about how Asexuality completely transformed my life! “I love kissing but not sex.”

It all started in 2014, when I went to see a counsellor, because I was worried that I wanted a relationship and liked kissing and romance, but I didn’t like sex, and she told me, “I’m worried about you, because if you want a good guy, you will need to have sex to keep him.”

I was absolutely horrified!

This was the worst thing I could have been told…

I thought to myself, how can any guy be good for me, if they want me to do something to me, that I don’t want to do?

To me, that’s like giving a guy a license to rape me – and that’s not happening.

It meant she was telling me I can’t get love without sex, and that my only value and worth of being in a relationship with a “good” guy, is based on if I have sex with him or not!

Not only is this sending a very dangerous message to me and anyone who is counselled by her…

… it’s the equivalent of saying that anyone who doesn’t have sex, cannot get a “good” guy, so they can’t have a “good” relationship, and aren’t worthy of love.

So what happens to all the people who are not asexual, but who can’t have sex because their disability or special needs, makes it impossible to do that and too painful???

What happens to all the impotent people in the world who can’t have sex???

Do these people also, not deserved to be loved without sex?

Do the they just end up with “bad” guys, because having sex, somehow changes a bad guy into a good guy???

I don’t think so. If they are a bad guy, having sex with them is not going to make them good.

What a load of bullshit.

And if people measure how much they are loved in a relationship by the amount of sex they are or are not having, they are valuing their own worth on how much contact they have with another person’s genitals, which they can’t control, – so there’s no wonder there are high divorced rates, broken relationships, and people feeling unloved and worthless.

So I went back home and Googled “I love kissing but not sex” and this is what happened next…

Dreams ARE Real interview
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How I Became The Asexual Entrepreneur – Dreams ARE Real Podcast Reveals ALL!

Most people equate success to how much money they’re making, but REAL success is not about how much money you make.

You’re successful when you can trust yourself, be yourself, and be happy with what you’re doing.

Right now, I don’t make a ton of money, as you will hear from my interview with Dan from the Dreams ARE real podcast, but as far as I’m concerned, I’m currently living my dreams, because:

I write books that change lives – Especially about asexuality, which is a huge passion of mine.

I help asexuals, through my https://www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel and asexual blog at www.asexualise.com and various Facebook groups and pages.

I’m financially free. As I finally got my disabilities officially recognised and my incomings are now more than my outgoings. Phew!

Asexuality is a sexual orientation largely based on a lack of sexual attraction, and for people like me, who identify as asexual, it can be hard to make our own voice heard.

Especially as sexual stereotypes and societal conditioning tell everyone that it’s natural to like, want, and need sex, and that anyone who says otherwise must be lying or have something wrong with them.

People tend to discard what they don’t understand.

They tend to disregard what is considered as “not” normal.

And they tend to feel extremely uncomfortable when something doesn’t fit in with their ideology.

But I encourage you to always stand proud of who you are, and to stop listening to what other people say, that drowns out the sound of your own voice. 😍

Asexuals have as much right to speak out about how they think and feel, including if they don’t like, want, or need sex, and have the right to be taken seriously. 😍

Just because asexuality is a minority sexuality, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong and not normal.

It’s normal for SOME people to not like, want, need, or get the urge for, partnered sexual intercourse, ever. 😍

Don’t let anyone blind you into believing we are all the same – because we are not.

There ARE people who never want sex, and that’s okay. 😍

The only reason most people don’t speak out, is because other’s ridicule them and tell you, you can’t be who you are born to be.

I am here to show you, you can.

That your life is your own and that speaking up, in your own voice, is essential to live your own life dreams and no one else’s. Regardless of your sexuality.

That’s why I’m thrilled to be able to give a voice to the voiceless, and share my own asexual life journey of how I became known as The Asexual Entrepreneur and explain what it feels like to be asexual in this highly sexualised world, and how to live your asexual dreams and be your true authentic self, no matter what, on the Dreams ARE Real podcast.

Don’t miss this ACE episode by listening through either of the links below, now, and tell me what you think…

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-182-becoming-an-asexual-entrepreneur-with/id1480067188?i=1000558237426

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Ever wanted to learn how to design and sell something on eBay to make some extra cash, or start your own online business? But you don’t know where to start?

In this article you are going to learn step by step, how you can create inspirational quote posters to sell on eBay – or elsewhere, so be sure to pay attention and subscribe to this blog and my Make Money Make Cash channel here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClqfa3MRuPE28r6zu3M84OA if you find this content helpful, informative, or valuable in some way, and you want to discover more ways to make money online. And don’t forget to hit the bell icon under my YouTube subscribe button, to make sure you never miss an episode.

Watch the video above for the full step by step tutorial on how to create and sell your own inspirational quote posters to sell on eBay or Amazon. And don’t forget to subscribe to learn how to make more money and make more cash.

When you are redundant or out of work for whatever reason, instead of spending countless hours watching Netflix, soaps, flicking through social media posts, and wasting those precious hours away, why not learn a valuable skill, so you can get started making money online? Watch the video above and read through this article below, to see how you can do just that.

Step 1 – Research what “inspirational quote posters” are selling on Amazon and eBay. Try to find designs that sell well but with low competition and read the reviews to see what people liked about them and what people didn’t like.
Step 2 – Use a software like Stencil here https://getstencil.com?tap_a=9103-1801f8&tap_s=97718-f161af to create a similar design, but not the same, as the designs you noticed from your research sell well but have low competition. But make improvements to the design, based on the review feedback you read.
Step 3 – Buy a suitable printer that allows you to print on thick paper/card and gloss/photo paper, such at the Epsom ET-4750 here https://amzn.to/3upiEqB This printer is the one I have myself to print quotes, and it’s very economical, because it uses inexpensive bottles of ink rather than cartridges, and you usually get a set of these ink bottles with the printer. You can buy more ink bottles here https://amzn.to/3KtxQs6
Step 4 – Choose suitable paper to print on. Make sure it’s the right GSM thickness and type, such as 160 or 180 GSM or higher photo paper. Here https://amzn.to/3jkqUSv
Step 5 – You will need to buy hard backed envelopes to post your quote posters in, to your customers. Here https://amzn.to/3rfVnoZ
Step 6 – Create an eBay store and upload photos/file of your poster design to it.
Step 7 – Taking into account all of your eBay fees and your expenses, adverting your poster on there could get extra sales.
Step 8 – Promote your inspirational quote poster/s to your friends, family, and across your social media, with the features and benefits of why they should buy it. And voila – you are ready to sell and make money make cash.

Things you will need to start your own Inspirational Poster Quotes business, mentioned in the video and this post:

1) Stencil software – Get it here https://getstencil.com?tap_a=9103-1801f8&tap_s=97718-f161af

2) Epsom Eco Tank Printer ET-4750 – https://amzn.to/3xf76rH

OR ORDER EPSOM ECO TANK FROM AMAZON. COM HERE https://amzn.to/3upiEqB

  • Up to 2 years of ink in the box. 
  • Print up to 14,000 pgs bk/11,200 clr. 
  • Equivalent to about 30 cartridge sets . 
  • Save up to 80% on ink with replacement bottles. 
  • Uniquely keyed auto-stop ink bottles. 
  • 250-sheet paper tray. 
  • 2.4″ color touchscreen. 
  • 30-sheet Auto Doc Feeder.

Comes with printer ink bottles – please note you need number 102 Epsom Ink bottles for the model I have ET-4750 which I recommend, if you buy from UK, but 502 if you buy from the .com store. (The 104 bottles showed in this video seems to be for a different Eco Tank Model, but you can check with the seller to be sure.)

3) Here is the 102 ink bottles multipack of 4 bottles – https://amzn.to/3Kso3mk

HERE IS THE 502 INK BOTTLES IF YOU BUY FROM AMAZON. COM HERE https://amzn.to/3KtxQs6 and here for the black https://amzn.to/3JowHB2

4) Epsom Glossy Paper – https://amzn.to/3jnnRsI OR alternative paper – https://amzn.to/35ZcNPm

OR GET SUITABLE PAPER FROM AMAZON. COM HERE https://amzn.to/3jkqUSv

5) Hard Backed Envelopes – https://amzn.to/3DYZPgR

OR GET HARD BACKED (DO NOT BEND) ENVELOPES FROM AMAZON. COM HERE https://amzn.to/3rfVnoZ

Entrepreneurship isn’t easy, so do it for the journey – because it’s the journey that truly changes your life! 😍 #forthejourney

(Please note these are affiliate links, so I may get some pennies if you click through them and make a purchase, which I will greatly appreciate, thank you.)

As always, stay positive – and write your inspirational quote posters soon.

Subscribe to my Make Money Make Cash channel here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClqfa3MRuPE28r6zu3M84OA if you find this content helpful, informative, or valuable in some way, and you want to discover more ways to make money online in 2022. Don’t forget to hit the bell icon under my YouTube subscribe button, to make sure you never miss an episode.

Sandra xx

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International Asexuality Day

As you likely are aware, I am an asexual author, who also writes books about asexuality. Today is International Asexuality Day. So if you don’t have a clue what asexuality is, read on…

In broad terms, asexuality is a sexual orientation that is based on the lack of sexual attraction. This means we don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse.

Sexual attraction = being sexually attracted towards a specific person/people.

Sexual desire = desiring the sex itself.

Arousal = a feeling in your genitalia.

Asexuality is also a spectrum, ranging from those who experience zero sexual attraction, known as a “pure” asexual, to those do experience sexual attraction, only under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, or who experience it, but not enough to want to act on it – known as a “grey” asexual.

Some asexuals are sex repulsed and will never have sex and hate it, others are sex neutral and don’t care whether they have sex or not. Others are sex positive and will/do have sex.

Some asexuals hate porn and will never watch it.

Other asexuals do watch porn.

Some asexuals masturbate.

Others asexuals feel sick at the idea of masturbation and it makes them want to throw up – just like some sex repulsed asexuals want to throw up when they hear the word sex.

Some asexuals are into BDSM – even without sex.

Other asexuals can’t stand BDSM and they want to run mile even hearing those words.

Some asexuals experience arousal – others don’t.

Every asexual is valid.

Hope you found this post insightful.

I am still currently working on writing my Asexual Guide To Sex book. looking forward to publishing this one.

Sandra xx

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How To Never Give Up On YOUR Dreams

SOS can stand for Save Our Souls – and is a cry for help! SOS can also mean Shiny Object Syndrome.

Ironically, if you suffer from Shiny Object Syndrome, then you’ll probably need to shout Save Ours Souls – or in the least “Save My Own Soul”, at some point.

Shiny Object Syndrome is when you keep going from one thing to the next because it seems like the better opportunity.

If you imagine you find a number of jewels in the dessert and each jewel you find appears bigger and more valuable than the previous one, and so you go after each one of those hoping it will lead you to be rich and even richer and richer, but you forget you are in a dessert and really need more water, but the jewels could buy all the water you need, and all the food you need, and the house you need… but these jewels take you further and further away from civilisation, until eventually you realise you have ended up in a drought with only your jewels for comfort as you neglected your own basic needs, in trying to find the next best thing. In being drawn to what is glowing and sparkling, and what promises to get you the results you need, while being blinded constantly to what you really need and what your heart’s desire truly wants and needs. That’s Shiny Object Syndrome.

In my entrepreneurial journey, I came to realise that much of the time we are going after other’s dreams and not our own. Because they convince us that their product or service is better than anyone else’s, and often our own inner voice gets drown out as we feel we will be missing out (FOMO) and that there is a huge magic secret formula that would allow us to get rich super quickly. Also they make you feel like you will fail if you don’t do what they say, and no one wants to be responsible for their own failure usually, as we are had wired not to want to take risks in case we get things wrong.

But, it’s better to follow your own life path and dreams, warts and all, even if you make mistakes, rather than go after someone else’s shiny object, so that you can shine your own light in the world, and leave your own lasting legacy, rather than build other people’s, so you can leave this world knowing you did your best for yourself and you own dreams, with no regrets.

Watch this 15 second video that explains how to never give on your dreams and don’t forget to subscribe to this channel for more videos about making money by living your dreams, not other people’s.

And if you have anxiety, the video below is my number #1 Top Tip to achieving your dreams in spite of anxiety. This Sandra Bellamy channel is dedicated to helping you achieve your dreams, so please subscribe and hit the bell icon to that channel too.

As always, stay positive.

Sandra xx

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Asexual Perspectives by Sandra Bellamy (Book Review) — A Voice in the Void

Sex! Oh no! If that’s what you think, or you don’t see sex in the way that others do, then you could be asexual.

Asexuality in broad terms is a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction. If you are asexual, you can feel so lost and alone, especially when society tends to put sex on a pedastool and leads you to believe that everyone wants sex, as it’s natural. Well I can say for definite, that is isn’t natural for everyone. Some people just won’t want sex and don’t like to have it.

Check out this post below from a Voice In The Void, who not only bought a copy of my Asexual Perspectives book, but who explains the significant impact this book had on them and their life. And you can grab your copy of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book now, on Amazon here https://amzn.to/3LpCiJC

I thought that I would do a review of a book written by Sandra Bellamy regarding asexuality. She has written a few books (I’ll likely review others) and is currently writing another as I write this, which should hopefully be available soon. The book I shall discuss today is “Asexual Perspectives, 47 Asexual Stories” with […]

Asexual Perspectives by Sandra Bellamy (Book Review) — A Voice in the Void