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Live, Laugh, Love, That’s Enough!

Through these dark and difficult pandemic times, we must also remember all the light we can bring to our own life and those of others. Sometimes to live, laugh and love, really is enough!

Allow me to explain:

When we live with all our heart! And follow our hopes, goals, ambitions, dreams, and passions; life is so much sweeter, happier, lighter.

When we laugh, we have joy in our heart, and it’s hard to be sad if we are joyous!

And when we give love out to others, without expecting anything in return, we often get back more love than we ever thought possible. Plus, giving love to others, just makes us feel so good. Feeling good is the antidote to feeling bad, and this is the best form of non-pharmaceutical medicine to soothe your soul.

So I encourage you each day to live, laugh, and love, to the fullest, always.

Share this with now, with someone who needs to hear it!

As always, stay positive.

Sandra xx

 

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Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook Reader Recommendation

Face Fibri Girl Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook recommendation

 

Today is my birthday and I am having a solo birthday party. To celebrate, I want to share with you this Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook reader recommendation, from someone who is my bestest asexual friend and has been virtually looking after me super well from afar. They recently bought me some very expensive health products and I am very thankful and grateful to them for doing so. This person has one of the most beautiful souls and hearts I have ever met in my life, it’s just a bonus that they love my books too, and get so impacted in a good way by them. They often say to me about their Sandra Bellamy Bookshelf on Kindle, on their computer, is waiting for the next book, and they always like to buy each of my books in both electronic Kindle format and physical form too. I was so happy to see they wrote, “I highly recommend this book”. Here is the UK link https://amzn.to/3b03ThB and elsewhere https://amzn.to/3eLBrT5 so you can buy your copy now!

I have a full day planned for my birthday today. Including watching 3 new movies I bought myself on disc, two of which I have never seen before, so it’s going to be like going to the cinema to see two new films. I have Birthday Girl Balloons and more Balloons, currently all over my bed; Happy Birthday Confetti, in every room – including the toilet, 3 presents to open from my best female friend later on this morning. I am taking myself with a tuna salad lunch, live streaming my present opening on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel and hopefully Facebook at the same time. I also have a Birthday Banner which I haven’t done much with yet, and popcorn to go with the films. My dad is dropping my presents off at 2pm – mum is self isolating until at least June 16th, (maybe until Christmas now) as she is high risk category and had a letter from her Doctor to tell her to do so. I will be talking to another best asexual friend on the phone and Sam I will Skype with later, no doubt through until the early hours of Saturday. Our last Skype session was over 15 hours!

I recently completed two online courses, that took me just over a month to do. One was about how to make money online, and the other was primary about one of the systems I will be using to do that, for my new online businesses. I am planning to launch a total of 3 new businesses this year and currently learning so much, which is one of the reasons I haven’t been around often. I have also been creating digital products to sell too. I still have to finish writing my Asexual Guide To Sex book and get that published this year, which is my top priority for next month, now I have finished my two online courses. So yeah, no rest for the good!!! But I am excited for the year ahead and to see what actually happens. Which businesses work best, which I enjoy the most. But, after all these 10 years of blogging – later this year it will be my 10 year blogging anniversary. Writing is still, and always will be, my number one passion in life, because I get messages from people who’s life has been changed or saved by one or more of my books, and that is priceless and my lasting legacy. I sell books each month, but I can’t currently live off that money, as it’s not enough, but one day I believe that will be very different, and I will also be doing other things too.

Wishing you a fabulous weekend ahead and here is the UK link https://amzn.to/3b03ThB and elsewhere https://amzn.to/3eLBrT5 so you can buy your copy of Fibromyalgia Self- Help Handbook now!

As always, stay positive

Sandra xx

 

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Use This As Your Secret Weapon Against Coronavirus! – How to help prevent yourself from getting Coronavirus!

Ace Fibro Girl

Stress causes more Fibromyalgia pain and makes you more susceptible to viruses because it lowers your immune system! 😷

👉Which is why, with the Coronavirus, it’s more important than ever to decrease your stress levels and in this post I will explain exactly how to do this. So read on 👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉

👉This is my one top tip for today, and the days to come, especially for combatting getting Coronavirus, even if you don’t have Fibromyalgia, you should still pay attention and use this information as your secret weapon to combat Coronavirus, by helping your immune system to be stronger and thus making you less susceptible to getting the infection.🤒😷

You must decrease your stress levels in multiple aspects of your life! If you want to decrease your fibro pain and decrease your likelihood of getting more sickness or disease.👇

So many people with fibro are looking for an outside cure.👀

So many people with fibro are looking for the next pill to pop to decrease their pain.👀

They don’t see that the answers are within their self. 👀🙄

And the more responsibility you take for your own life and pain, the less pain you keep locked within you! And the less pain you feel as a result! 🤗🤩🥳

Fibromyalgia is an autoimmune condition, which means now, with the Coronavirus, it’s more important than ever, to decrease our stress levels in multiple aspects of our life and focus on having fun, relaxation, and not going into panic overdrive mode! Otherwise we increase our chances of becoming sick 🤒😷

Stress is the ONE thing you really need to decrease, if you want to prevent getting more diseases, illnesses, sickness, infections. 🤧🤒

So make two lists.

One list with everything that makes you feel relaxed, happy, smiley. Such as:

🛀Taking a hot bath.

🧘‍♀️Doing meditation, or just closing your eyes to your favourite music.

👀Watching your favourite movies.

💃Dancing around your home to your favourite tunes.

💬Messaging a favourite friend.

💌Emailing a loved one.

👉Whatever it is, make your list now and make sure you are doing 1-3 of these things each and every day.

The more stress you feel you have in your life, the more of these things you should be doing to decrease your stress levels and boost your immune system back up. 3 per day minimum is what I recommend. Never go a day without doing one of them. You owe it to yourself to put your health first. The more you take care of yourself, the more you can look after others. So it’s a win, win! 🤩😍

👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉

And a second list that focuses on each of these main aspects of your life, and the stress you feel within each of them!

👉 Relationships with yourself and with others.

💏 Love relationship.

👭 Friendships.

👨‍👩‍👧 Family.

👉 Health – not only with your fibro but other things you may have, what causes you to have the most stress with your health, be honest!

👇Is it putting others first?
👇Is it a lack of exercise?
👇Is it a toxic relationship?
👇Is it you need some extra help with your shopping, or cleaning your home?
👇Or do you just need a listening ear.👂
👇Do you need to find more things to help you relax?

👉 Finances.

Are your finances in good health or is a lack of money causing you stress?🤔😖

👉 Life mission, goals, ambitions and dreams!

As humans we need to feel like we are making progress in our life, if we are not, we feel like we are stagnating, we feel lifeless, we lack that fighting spirit and the reason we need to keep going!

Let me ask you a question… what are your life goals, ambitions and dreams right now? 🤔🤔

And don’t tell me you are in too much pain to have any, because if you are in that amount of pain, it’s exactly what you need to take your mind off your pain! You need to have a focus that is off your pain, and on what you love to do, what you want to do, and what you must do! 😍 This is essential to decrease your pain 😍

If you were to be at the end of your life right now and you wanted to know you had made your mark in the world, that you have left a lasting legacy, that you had lived your life doing everything you wanted to do, what would those things be that are a must for you? 🤔

Your fibro pain makes you know you can get through anything life throws at you, so why not use this pain to push yourself to achieve as many of your goals, ambitions and dreams, as much as possible?

👉 Your spirit and soul.

What are you doing to nourish your inner spirit and soul?

What is working for your soul? 🤔💥
And what are you doing in your life that is going against it? 😥
Have you tapped into your inner intuition lately? 🤔
Or are you not trusting your own judgement and purposefully going against your own intuition and gut feeling? And ultimately causing pain and stress to your own soul and inner being, thus increasing your fibro pain? 🤔😥

👉 Mindset.

🤔 Are you self-critical?
🤔 Hard on yourself when things don’t go right?
🤔 Don’t believe in yourself?
😥 Worst still, you don’t love, or even… like yourself!

These things will cause more stress and distress in your body and ultimately more fibro pain! This is what I mean by so many people look for an outside solution to fix an internal problem. You may not be able to cure yourself completely from fibro but you CAN still decrease your fibromyalgia pain and live a better quality of life! All these things will zap your happiness and energy too. Fibromyalgia is a result of trauma, how much ‘internal’ trauma, are you currently adding to your already inflaming volcano within you. Think about it! 🤔

Look at your own life and the multiple aspects of it, and which ones you have any stress in, then try to eliminate those stresses completely and as much as possible.🤗

You want a weapon against Coronavirus? Start by de-stressing and relaxing as a top priority in your life! Go to the top of this post and take action and do the work it takes to get you feeling better. Make a list of ways that you find relaxing and ensure you do 3 each day. Then work on your stresses in these aspects: relationships, health, finances, life mission, spirit/soul, and mindset. You need to work out what your stresses are, how to decrease them, usually by a process of eliminating them or reducing them, by taking action to do so. No excuses for not taking any action. Do your very best and then some more. If you give yourself excuses, you are keeping yourself in more pain than you need to be.

Your next weapon against Coronavirus, especially if you have #fibromyalgia, is working on what to eat and not to eat to boost your immune system and decrease your pain! 🤗

👉 Check out my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook here https://amzn.to/33iDOr2 for more help with how to decrease your pain, including the full list of 25 internal/external environments, you need to examine and take action in, to decrease your pain! And HOW to do that!😍

👉 This book also covers the foods to eat and not to eat, to have less pain, more energy, feel happier, and to stop that, my-legs-feel-like-they-have-been-run-over-by-a-bus, feeling! You know the one I mean!

👉 To get your copy of this pain busting book, here is the link https://amzn.to/33iDOr2This will be the best investment you have ever made to decrease your Fibromyalgia pain, or Amazon will even give you your money back, so you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

Just remember whenever you need results in life, you need to take action and do the work it takes, but the effort will be worth it. 😍💥

— with Sandra Bellamy Aka ACE Fibro Girl.

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Calling All Content Marketers, Bloggers and Social Media Managers! FREE Expert Conference How To Pack A Social Media Punch – Improve Your SEO And Close More Sales IN 2020

Uppercase 2020 FREE Conference has finally arrived!

 

Don’t miss this FREE online conference by Missinglettr.  Dedicated to helping Bloggers, Content Marketers, and Social Media Managers reach their blogging goals in 2020, by providing valuable insights, tools, hacks and strategies from experts in the field. Sign Up Here – https://goo.gl/RNvo3L

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It’s time to get focused on the areas you need help with most, don’t delay, book today, as this expert blogging conference starts in LESS than 3 days! Sign Up Here – https://goo.gl/RNvo3L

The conference will span over 5 days, cover 9 different categories, and have 34 expert speakers in their respective fields of expertise! Unlike physical conferences where you can end up sitting through content you just don’t need, Uppercase 2020 is delivered entirely online. Dip in and watch the specific talks you need to transform your writing/blogging business, or catch them all, it’s up to you! Sign Up Here – https://goo.gl/RNvo3L

After the conference, be sure to come back to this blog and let me know in the comments below, which talk you liked the most. I love to read you.

Until next time, enjoy the conference – sign up here – https://goo.gl/RNvo3L, stay positive.

Love Sandra xx

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Asexualise My Asexual Life – World’s First Personal Development And Self-Growth Channel For Asexuals! First Asexual Live Chat Show!

I thought I was heterosexual for years, but I just didn’t like sex, as I didn’t associate sex with love, but loved to kiss. But when I realised I could no longer have sex, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it ever again, and I nearly wet myself because I was fearful of dating sexuals because of the expectation of sex at the end of the date, I knew something had to be done about it, because I felt I was the only one in the entire world, planet and universe that felt this. So I went to see a counsellor. But… it didn’t go well at all. She said the worse thing in the world, that I really didn’t want to hear. And that was if I wanted a relationship, I must have sex in order to keep a good guy. Something seemed very flawed about this perspective. If the guy was a good guy, why would he want me to do things that were not good for me, as part of a relationship with me! To me that made no sense. It was like giving a license for rape to happen, disguised as what a ‘good guy’ would be allowed to do, in order for me to keep him! This defied all my reasonable ‘healthy-for-me’ logic! So I went home and Google “I love kissing and not sex” and that is when I came across Asexuality.org and realised there were others like me who didn’t like sex, and who didn’t need it in a romantic relationship to be happy. And that’s when I discovered I am indeed a heteroromantic asexual, not heterosexual.

That was in 2014, when I first discovered I am Asexual (I lack sexual attraction. I don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, no matter how much I love the person). Back then, I couldn’t talk about sex publicly or about my past sexual relationships publicly. I had almost given up completely on the idea of having a relationship and dating ever again. And my past relationships weren’t great, but the opposite.

In October 2015, for Asexual Awareness Week, I decided to get out of my comfort zone, open up about past sexual relationships, and announce to the world, that I am in fact, a heteroromantic asexual! On my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. It took me awhile to get used to speaking openly on my channel, but when I received comments from viewers, that they found my videos helpful and they were glad they found my channel, it made me happy to continue to create and upload videos and I decided to not copy other asexuality channels, just to become popular, but to share my own asexual life journey in order to help others, to empower asexuals to be comfortable and confident with their own Asexuality, and to educate others! Little did I know back then, how this channel would grow into the unique Asexualise My Asexual Life, Asexuality late night chat show it is today!

In 2017, I published my first ever book for Asexuals, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity, under my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books. Little did I know at the time, just how popular this book would be and continues to be, to this day. Helping asexuals, those who lack sexual attraction, and who are a recorded 1% of the population, to know there are others like them in the world, who don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, and to know it’s okay, you are not alone and that sex does not equal love, and it is possible to live, love, and be happy, without sex forever, in a loving, happy, and healthy relationship, be it romantic or platonic, or if you don’t ever want to be ‘in a relationship’ it’s okay! (I am currently working on my second book for asexuals which will be published in 2020, with 4 more books planned for asexuals. Each book focuses on different topics, within the asexual spectrum!) So if you are a writer who is struggling at the moment, know you won’t be rich overnight, you might not be rich in money terms, for a very long time, but you will be one of the wealthiest people in that world, because you can really change lives with your written words, and that is why you should be a writer and Author of books, because you love writing so much and you want too change lives for the better forever. I regularly get people private messaging me about how this book has literally change their life, for the better, forever. And also, how much my videos on www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife have really helped them, especially when they first discovered they are asexual. I get people who are not asexual watching my channel, but the respective fact I am, subscribing to it, and becoming one of my most loyal viewers. I know I can help those people too and you.

In July 2018, I wanted to do something special for Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, so I started to live stream on my channel, every day, for 31 days. But when the 31 days was over! I got the bug for live streaming. I realised how many more asexuals I could help, rather than in private message one-on-one, if I just let anyone and everyone ask me questions directly in the live stream chat. I could offer something unique, that no other asexuality channel was offering. A way to get instant answers about asexuality, about my own life experiences, and to help other asexuals to overcome depression, like I had done in 2012; lower their anxiety, and get a better mindset and a better quality of life! Fast forward to today, and I am still live streaming daily, but now it’s evolved into being an online daily late night chat show which at its heart, is a Personal Development and Personal Growth channel for Asexuals, and the world’s first of its kind.

Specialising in:

  • Asexuality
  • Surviving and Thriving as an asexual in this highly sexualised world
  • Dating and Relationships
  • Spirituality and Mindset,
  • Personal Growth and Self-Love.
  • I also do ‘no sex’ movie reviews.

These days, it’s not uncommon for many (not all), of my streams to last over an hour, sometimes two, and the odd occasion has even been over 3 hours long. All of that time has been spent helping asexuals for free, and non-asexuals who also form part of my regular viewership. So on average 7-14 hours a week! My live streams most often start after 11pm UK time.

I have been learning about personal and professional development since 2012. I have also been heavily involved in the Asexual relationships and dating scene, with being on Asexual dating sites since 2014, running 3 Asexual dating Facebook groups, and learning a lot more about healthy dating and relationships dynamics since studying a pattern changing course in 2013, and subsequently learning much more in the last couple of years. I am keen to help as many asexuals as possible to develop long-lasting healthy friendships and relationships, with life, with love, with others, and with yourself. To help grow you as an individual and realise your true potential and beauty, in your own uniqueness.

I would love you to join my channel community, if you think this is something you could benefit from, please subscribe at www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife, and hit the bell icon so you get notified whenever I go live, which is usually each and every day, unless for some reason I am staying away from home and have no access to live streaming, such as over Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year’s.

If you missed Eddy’s incredible story in the chat, about how he is heterosexual, yet been in a relationship with a sex-repulsed asexual girl for 2 years and said it’s the most purest form of love he has ever experienced, and the best relationship he has ever had, check out this show here https://youtu.be/F7T8Lzv2zoo which was recorded live! Eddy has now become one of my Asexualise community family, despite not being asexual!

This is why I created my channel, not just to help asexuals, but to help bring sexuals and asexuals together and to bring the gap of understanding between us, so that one day we can live in harmony alongside each other! And that ‘no sex’ ever relationships, can finally be accepted worldwide, as something some people enjoy and is normal for some to have! If some asexuals don’t mind having sex, and MAY like it as an activity to do like a board game. It’s logical that some sexuals may enjoy not having sex, because they enjoy that type of relationship and lifestyle!

Check out the blog post about how this channel evolved into a late night Asexuality chat show, here https://wp.me/p6MjnW-3HO  and join my channel here www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife

As always, stay positive

Sandra xx

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Why All I Want For Christmas Is You! Is A Dangerous Message! Proceed With Caution! #livehack

All I Want For Christmas Is You, is one of my very favourite Christmas songs! It’s a great catchy little number to bop along to, but if you take an in-depth look at the words, they send a very damaging and dangerous message! Watch this video below now from my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel to find out why it’s such a dangerous message, and what you need to do to reclaim your personal power and make getting into abusive relationships, being lonely and unhappy, a thing of the past! Make 2020, your best year yet and set the tone now, in 2019, for the best year yet to come!

And if you want a reminder of this song, here is the 2019 edition!

Here are the lyrics xx

Here is a wonderful Christmas song, which is very beautiful for your soul! When you have fun, you attract the one! It all starts with you, and you have fun and laughter regardless!

I wish you a very Happy Christmas Day and Christmas Time, and for all your dreams to come true in 2020!

As always, stay positive

Sandra xx