“Self-love is when you can say this to yourself – You just made my day!” Self-love Quote By Sandra Bellamy.
The best person to make you the happiest person alive, is yourself! If every day you can wake up and say to yourself at the end of it, you made my day, you will know you acted with self-love, compassion and care for you!! And this is the best form of love on the planet!! For when you love truly love yourself, is when you will have an abundance of love to last a lifetime and more!!
This was a hard ad-libbed poem for me to do!
It has been a really difficult and sad time for me lately, because on Sunday 29th of October, I had to split with my asexual boyfriend. The guy who I thought was my soulmate, and who was really kind, sweet and loving towards me, turned out not to be so nice after all, not loving me like he first did, or valuing my worth, and in fact exhibited some controlling behaviour, so I had to save myself any more heartache and split! It is hard when you think you know someone, you bring down many of your barriers to try to trust again, after previous past abusive relationships, then find out they are not the person you thought they are and turned out to be someone who would cause you more pain. He did a good job of fooling me!! I really thought he truly and deeply cared for me, but I was mistaken. I don’t think he knew the true meaning of the word love! His behaviour appeared to change so quickly!
I wrote an Asexual Newsletter which you can find here, about how his behaviour changed and about some of the signs of controlling behaviour that you may want to look out for! And about how sometimes, you have to be your own hero and save yourself and get out of a relationship that is no good for you, no matter how painful it may be: http://mailchi.mp/a50715303715/asexual-break-up-how-to-be-your-own-hero
Here is the full Asexual-Dating playlist so far, if you want to know more about my asexual dating journey!
If you are ever threatened with if you do x, y, or z, I will leave you, excluding domestic violence of course, then you are under that persons’ control and it is time to leave, however hard that may be!
I love this video from the personal and professional development coach Brendon Burchard!
My takeaways from this video, in order to fix doubts, you must:
- Have faith
- Trust in your abilities
- Trust that you will figure it out
- Trust that you can build it
- Trust that you can get some help
- Have courage
- Face your fears and doubts head on and go for it inspire of them
- Take lots of action
Sometimes in life, challenges will come your way and you have to be brave to push through those challenges, face your fears, and come out the other side.