Take Back Control Of Your Life

Hi everyone

It’s important not to live your life by others, live it by what you believe is right for you.

Plenty of people will try to tell you what job you should be doing and how you should live your life. From now on, you must take control.

Redundancy can make you feel out of control and the way to get it back is for you to take ownership of the situation. Establish your needs and wants right now and in the future. Make a plan on paper about how you are going to get these needs me. Then, you need to start taking action. Write down each day and week, exactly what your goals are. At the end of that day or week, tick off what you have achieved or carry it forward to the next day or week until you have accomplished it. You should have 5 lists:

  1. Emotional needs – Upset, angry, depressed and want to feel better. Solution, see a counsellor or talk to family and friends.
  2. Personal needs – Raise your self-confidence. Solution, join a support group, try new things, buy new clothes.
  3. Professional needs – Need up-to-date skills for jobs. Solution, take a course to update skills, get work experience.
  4. Financial needs – No income. Solution, get benefits sorted and set a budget for shopping.
  5. Practical needs – To make job searches as quick and easy as possible. Solution, turn a room into an office for job hunting and visit http://www.beatredundancyblues.com and http://www.beatredundancyblues.co.uk to get access to Job Sites, Recruitment Sites and Courses Sites from within the one site.

Remember, these are your needs, nobody else’s. If you ask other people what they think you need and want, you are not in control and it defeats the purpose, that is to put you ‘back in the driving seat of your life.’

After you have ticked off each achievement, you still need to acknowledge these successes in your diary. If you do this as positive reinforcement, your subconscious will realise the progress you are making and it will be more motivated to take conscious action.

Until next time

Stay positive

Sandra Bellamy

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About Quirky Books

Published Author of BREAK THROUGH THE BARRIERS OF REDUNDANCY TO GET BACK INTO WORK - AN A-Z 'HOW TO' GUIDE and How To Get Started With Twitter For Absolute Beginners, A Step-By-Step Guide. In a nutshell, my Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy book is a complete A-Z system for getting back into work, and a comprehensive guide about how you can recover from the devastating effects of redundancy to live the life of your dreams. Although this book is predominantly aimed at redundant workers, the content will prove equally useful to jobseekers or anyone looking to change careers for whatever reason. This book provides eighty benefits and covers twenty-six aspects of redundancy. It’s a system because each of the chapters is broken down into ‘5 components of redundancy’. You need to master all components in order to give you the best chance of success at getting back into work. Because this book takes a holistic view of redundancy, one of the key elements to master first of all is wellbeing skills, before progressing through exploring what options are available to you and later, learning the practical job skills. This book is different because it does not just focus on one element of redundancy, but on the many barriers you need to conquer if you are to successfully get back into work, I show you how to deal with the inner trauma and turmoil of being made redundant (health and wellbeing skills), before focusing on the practical elements such as job skills, and deciding on your future path. I have worked in management roles for seven years. Part of my management duties entailed interviewing, recruiting, training and coaching staff and I took part in every aspect of the recruitment process from placing the advert to completing staff inductions and training. I have also experienced the other side of the recruitment process, when I was applying for work and being interviewed for jobs whilst redundant. I have been made redundant twice and each time managed to successfully work my way back up the career ladder. It is from experience that I have gained insight into both points of view and I am able to help others. This book is the first Quirky Book that I published and it's under my own imprint of Quirky Books. It's unique and groundbreaking because it combines two genres, an A-Z Guide with a How To book. Each of its A-Z chapters is about an element of redundancy, and within each chapter it explains how to do things related to that element to break though your barriers of redundancy and beat your redundancy blues. That’s what makes it a quirky book. Buy it from Amazon UK: http://www.amazon.co.uk/BREAK-THROUGH-BARRIERS-REDUNDANCY-GUIDE-ebook/dp/B0128RWB5O Buy it from Amazon USA: http://www.amazon.co.uk/BREAK-THROUGH-BARRIERS-REDUNDANCY-GUIDE-ebook/dp/B0128RWB5O Like on Facebook www.facebook.com/BreakThroughTheBarriersOfRedundancyBook You can view my quirkybooks writing blog at http://www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com

Posted on August 16, 2013, in beat redundancy blues, beatredundancyblues, beatredundancyblues.co.uk, beatredundancyblues.com, C.V., career, Career change, job search, Job Sites, jobs, Recruitment, Recruitment Sites, redundancies, Redundancy, Redundancy Blues and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 6 Comments.

  1. Quite useful and important list and I love this, ‘Remember, these are your needs, nobody else’s.’ That encouraging too.

    Thanks for sharing, San.

    • I am very pleased that you found the lists in this post useful and important. I think the more we live by own own rules that we set for ourselves, the happier we can be. Although I love my family and friends, I live for what makes me happy now. I find I have more friends because of it and the people around me are more happier to be around me because I am happier with who I am.

  2. Where were you when I needed to know that, Lol, I am just figuring that out now. Now that I did, I am definetely going to make a big change. Thank you for sharing this.

    • Thank you Sherry, I am happy I can be of help. It doesn’t matter at what stage in your life you realise this, what is important is that you do recognise it and take action. You will feel so much better for it. I used to go by what other people thought would be good for me and when I was made redundant for the second time, I knew then that I was born to write and to help others to get into work. It was a lightbulb moment. This was what I wanted to do with my life not anyone else. I also decided to learn how to build two businesses myself. Everyone said, why don’t you pay someone to do that? Why? Because I wanted to learn those skills and knowledge for myself, to boost my self-confidence and self-esteem, to make me feel good about myself and to feel I am in control. I enjoy being quirky and I am proud of it but I didn’t always show that or shout about it, now I love being called quirky and wouldn’t have it any other way.

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