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REDUNDANCY Dream Finally Comes True!! ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES Quirky Books Paperback Published!

When I was made redundant for the second time in my life, in 2009, it is then that I discovered 100% that I was born to write. I started my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com writing blog over 6 years ago and I knew back then, that I wanted to have my own publishing company called Quirky Books, and this year, that dream, finally came true. Yes, I am a registered publisher, and this Asexual Perspectives book is the first of my books going into print ( 3rd Kindle book). It was a proud moment to finally hold my printed book in my hands and even a more proud moment, that my number one fan of my Asexualise work and brand, did an unboxing video and was so excited to receive a copy of my work!! To hear him say the words, “Author Sandra Bellamy”, felt incredible. There is no better feeling in the world than the power to change lives, through the written word. As a registered publisher I have to by law, send a paperback copy to the British Library for free. It then goes down as part of English heritage, so will be there for generations to come, long after I am gone, for people to use in their research and to further their. Here is the link to get the book in a Kindle veraion http://amzn.to/2szjNJQ Or UK site is http://amzn.to/2u6vps7

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and scroll up and add to cart!

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of http://www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

The print version of my 560 page Asexual Perspectives book is now available to buy on Amazon here http://amzn.to/2u1wp0O. Or UK site http://amzn.to/2tw739A

To celebrate this book going into print, our diversity across the spectrum, and our individuality within it, I founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, 1st-31st of July 2017, #APAM. Like www.facebook.com/acexualise to join in the celebration fun and subscribe on www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to see a different video every day, for 31 days of #APAM, related to a topic from the book that matters to you and join in the conversation!!

 So grab your copy now and get educated on this often unheard of, and deeply misunderstood sexual orientation, that is asexuality, the (A)absence of sexual attraction!

COURAGE – Motivational/Inspirational Poem By Sandra Bellamy

Courage from fear.

Courage

Persistence, Patience and Inner Power!

Writing is the love of my life.

I have to confess, writing itself, brings me inner peace, such happiness, joy, and contentment, that I do not experience from anything else I regularly do. Nothing compares to the feeling. If only writing books was that simple. But as a self- published Author of non-fiction, loads of other things have to be factored into the equation besides the writing itself:

  • Research.
  • Interviewing – for this Asexual Perspectives book.
  • Asking your intervieews more questions in view of their responses. This can mean a lot of back and forth emailing.
  • Typing your handwritten book up, and your interviewee answers, or using copy and paste and re-formatting the text to fit your own font and type size.
  • Editing your intervieews grammar, spelling and punctuation, enough so that it is legible, but still kept authentic and in their own voice.
  • Editing your own writing for the book multiple times, including spelling, grammar, and punctuation.
  • Proofreading, and again, and again, and again – and even more than that.
  • Getting someone else to proof read it for you.
  • Incorporating their interviews into the book so they blend in with your own part and emphasise what you are saying in their own, natural way.
  • Writing the back matter and front matter.
  • Creating a TOC.
  • Getting a list of further resources together – where appropriate.
  • Fomatting the book correction.
  • Typsetting the book correctly.
  • Correct pagination.
  • Book cover design for Kindle and Createspace – with a blurb!
  • Hiring the right designers, proofreaders and editors, if you can’t do that yourself.
  • Purchasing ISBNs, if you want to use your own!!

And anything else I may have forgotten to mention.

So you can see that a love and passion for writing, has to be an almost obsession, to be able to give you the patience, determination and persistence, to pull off publishing your own book! You need to use your inner power to believe you will get it done, no matter what! Don’t over think it, just do it!

Can You Be More Courageous This Year?

So it is already June and time to take stock of how your year has gone so far. If you have not done as much as you wished you had, or made as much progress as you feel you should have done, maybe it is because you have not been courageous enough and got out of your comfort zone and reached for the stars. Maybe it is because you set your sights too small and need to move the needle to the bigger game. Watch this awesome video from personal development expert Brendon Burchard, and find out how you can be more courageous in 2017, to get more from life.

Sometimes You Just Have To Let Them Go!

Sometimes someone may come into your life, who is far from perfect, but you see the hidden gems in them. You see the best in them, their warm heart, their beautiful face, their young words of wisdom encased in an old soul. You think this is it! This is the awesome person that I may have been waiting for all my life, maybe as a friend or maybe more. 

But as months go by and your bond grows, your insticts are not 100% agreeing with your vision and very soon, the real person emerges, but this time these imperfections are more that that, they are an innocent and naive weapon, in the fight to control the situation and you. They are an intentional stab in the back, because you did not do what they wanted you to do. Because you weren’t there, they quickly replaced you with someone else. While you were expected to wait for them when they demanded it and ‘told’ you. And worse of all, they turned to one of your own friends, whom you know is a good person and known for years. And you are left with a feeling of betrayal, hurt and pain, all the whilst knowing that your friend although not interested in the same way, is also being used and they do not reply to you.

You toughen up and come to your senses, you feel pity for their insecurities, hurt by the redicule of your own hurt – as if it is some sort of joke, that lies seemed to have come flooding out like a volcano with multiple colours of lava flowing into the other. And you take back your own power, control and sense of calm in your life, by blocking them out from yours, as much as possible.

You feel a sense of peace, because for once in your life, you love yourself enough, to set yourself free. Free from the pain, the anguish and hurt, and not waste your life giving this person chances, but know that you can find someone else who will care about you and respect you no end. Even if they have not entered your life yet, you are confident and self-assured that they will do!

Some friends come and go – so do some loves. But the one thing I want you to remember, is to never leave your own soul. Never leave the true you. Never let yourself cry or be in pain longer than you need to be, to rid yourself from it naturally. Be there for yourself no matter what. To take the role of the father, the mother, and the child within you, when each situation calls for it. But most of all, to be the bestest ever friend to yourself, to love yourself implicitly, and to not settle for anything less than than what is good and right for you. Remember these 3 simple words to say to yourself – I LOVE YOU!

Always stay positive and be you.

Love Sandra xx

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