It’s important not to live your life by others, live it by what you believe is right for you.
Plenty of people will try to tell you what job you should be doing and how you should live your life. From now on, you must take control.
Redundancy can make you feel out of control and the way to get it back is for you to take ownership of the situation. Establish your needs and wants right now and in the future. Make a plan on paper about how you are going to get these needs me. Then, you need to start taking action. Write down each day and week, exactly what your goals are. At the end of that day or week, tick off what you have achieved or carry it forward to the next day or week until you have accomplished it. You should have 5 lists:
- Emotional needs – Upset, angry, depressed and want to feel better. Solution, see a counsellor or talk to family and friends.
- Personal needs – Raise your self-confidence. Solution, join a support group, try new things, buy new clothes.
- Professional needs – Need up-to-date skills for jobs. Solution, take a course to update skills, get work experience.
- Financial needs – No income. Solution, get benefits sorted and set a budget for shopping.
- Practical needs – To make job searches as quick and easy as possible. Solution, turn a room into an office for job hunting and visit http://www.beatredundancyblues.com and http://www.beatredundancyblues.co.uk to get access to Job Sites, Recruitment Sites and Courses Sites from within the one site.
Remember, these are your needs, nobody else’s. If you ask other people what they think you need and want, you are not in control and it defeats the purpose, that is to put you ‘back in the driving seat of your life.’
After you have ticked off each achievement, you still need to acknowledge these successes in your diary. If you do this as positive reinforcement, your subconscious will realise the progress you are making and it will be more motivated to take conscious action.
Until next time