People like to think that other people are what makes up their life, their decisions and their fate – but it’s not, you are totally responsible for your own life, not God, not your parents, not your spouse and not your family – just you and it’s your choice how you lead your life! So what does that mean for you in 2018? It means your success it up to you. Just like mine is up to me, and I am going to do everything in my power to ensure I become successful in all aspects of my life. I will work hard, smart, and with care and focus. There are no guarantees of success in life, but trying is a success in and of itself, as most people won’t even give it a go or bother, but I intend to give it my best shot and turn my life around. What goals, ambitions and dreams, have you set yourself for 2018 and how do you plan to achieve them?
This video is a live stream I did on my other channel – my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel about asexuality (but this particular video talks about having a choice in your life which is very relevant to this post). Asexuality is a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction, for me, I am a heteroromantic asexual – meaning I am attracted to guys romantically, but I never get the urge to have sex with them and I am cool with that. And in case you were wondering, yes I have had sex before and my ex was good at it, but no, I would rather never have again since I discovered my sexual orientation and know there are others like me. In fact, I hold in person asexual meet-ups in my city, which is awesome.
Happy New Year and stay positive!
This was a hard ad-libbed poem for me to do!
It has been a really difficult and sad time for me lately, because on Sunday 29th of October, I had to split with my asexual boyfriend. The guy who I thought was my soulmate, and who was really kind, sweet and loving towards me, turned out not to be so nice after all, not loving me like he first did, or valuing my worth, and in fact exhibited some controlling behaviour, so I had to save myself any more heartache and split! It is hard when you think you know someone, you bring down many of your barriers to try to trust again, after previous past abusive relationships, then find out they are not the person you thought they are and turned out to be someone who would cause you more pain. He did a good job of fooling me!! I really thought he truly and deeply cared for me, but I was mistaken. I don’t think he knew the true meaning of the word love! His behaviour appeared to change so quickly!
I wrote an Asexual Newsletter which you can find here, about how his behaviour changed and about some of the signs of controlling behaviour that you may want to look out for! And about how sometimes, you have to be your own hero and save yourself and get out of a relationship that is no good for you, no matter how painful it may be: http://mailchi.mp/a50715303715/asexual-break-up-how-to-be-your-own-hero
Here is the full Asexual-Dating playlist so far, if you want to know more about my asexual dating journey!
If you are ever threatened with if you do x, y, or z, I will leave you, excluding domestic violence of course, then you are under that persons’ control and it is time to leave, however hard that may be!
You Are Stronger Than You Think And More Powerful Than You Know- Motivational/Inspirational Poem.
Inside you, is an inner strength and power, that you are probably not aware of. It can give you an ability to make the impossible possible. It is where dreams can become a reality, where you can access the other 90% of your brain, and where you will find resilience, super intelligence, and that higher level to stimulate you. Not many people know this, but those who study personal and professional development will do. I have been studying personal and professional development since 2012 and it literally changed my life, for the better forever. I was depressed up until that time, and through personal and professional development, I was able to finally feel like I mattered in this world, that I had tons of skills, knowledge and special qualities to share with others and that I was a valuable member of society and my life was worth living. Thank the Lord I found Personal and Professional development. Soon, I will be able to help you more. I will have my own Quirky Academy online training centre, for entrepreneurs, start-ups and creatives, where you can learn from some of the best experts in their field, including me. Exciting times are ahead and I plan to bring the best to you, to help you to be the best.
In the meantime, stay super positive
Have you ever come face-to-face with the old you? With the former version of yourself? What was it like? Did you battle it out to the death? Or did you learn to live with each other? Find out my experience by watching this video!!
I recorded this video about two and a half weeks ago and sharing it to both my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com blog and here. Would love to know what you think??