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The choice is yours!

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People like to think that other people are what makes up their life, their decisions and their fate – but it’s not, you are totally responsible for your own life, not God, not your parents, not your spouse and not your family – just you and it’s your choice how you lead your life! So what does that mean for you in 2018? It means your success it up to you. Just like mine is up to me, and I am going to do everything in my power to ensure I become successful in all aspects of my life. I will work hard, smart, and with care and focus. There are no guarantees of success in life, but trying is a success in and of itself, as most people won’t even give it a go or bother, but I intend to give it my best shot and turn my life around. What goals, ambitions and dreams, have you set yourself for 2018 and how do you plan to achieve them?

This video is a live stream I did on my other channel – my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel about asexuality (but this particular video talks about having a choice in your life which is very relevant to this post). Asexuality is a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction, for me, I am a heteroromantic asexual – meaning I am attracted to guys romantically, but I never get the urge to have sex with them and I am cool with that. And in case you were wondering, yes I have had sex before and my ex was good at it, but no, I would rather never have again since I discovered my sexual orientation and know there are others like me. In fact, I hold in person asexual meet-ups in my city, which is awesome.

Happy New Year and stay positive!

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Broken Love – Let Me Be Me!

Heartbreak

This was a hard ad-libbed poem for me to do!

It has been a really difficult and sad time for me lately, because on Sunday 29th of October, I had to split with my asexual boyfriend. The guy who I thought was my soulmate, and who was really kind, sweet and loving towards me, turned out not to be so nice after all, not loving me like he first did, or valuing my worth, and in fact exhibited some controlling behaviour, so I had to save myself any more heartache and split! It is hard when you think you know someone, you bring down many of your barriers to try to trust again, after previous past abusive relationships, then find out they are not the person you thought they are and turned out to be someone who would cause you more pain. He did a good job of fooling me!! I really thought he truly and deeply cared for me, but I was mistaken. I don’t think he knew the true meaning of the word love! His behaviour appeared to change so quickly!

I wrote an Asexual Newsletter which you can find here, about how his behaviour changed and about some of the signs of controlling behaviour that you may want to look out for! And about how sometimes, you have to be your own hero and save yourself and get out of a relationship that is no good for you, no matter how painful it may be: http://mailchi.mp/a50715303715/asexual-break-up-how-to-be-your-own-hero

Here is the full Asexual-Dating playlist so far, if you want to know more about my asexual dating journey!

If you are ever threatened with if you do x, y, or z, I will leave you, excluding domestic violence of course, then you are under that persons’ control and it is time to leave, however hard that may be!

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You Are Stronger Than You Think And More Powerful Than You Know – Motivational/Inspirational Poem.

You Are Stronger Than You Think And More Powerful Than You Know- Motivational/Inspirational Poem.

Inside you, is an inner strength and power, that you are probably not aware of. It can give you an ability to make the impossible possible. It is where dreams can become a reality, where you can access the other 90% of your brain, and where you will find resilience, super intelligence, and that higher level to stimulate you. Not many people know this, but those who study personal and professional development will do. I have been studying personal and professional development since 2012 and it literally changed my life, for the better forever. I was depressed up until that time, and through personal and professional development, I was able to finally feel like I mattered in this world, that I had tons of skills, knowledge and special qualities to share with others and that I was a valuable member of society and my life was worth living. Thank the Lord I found Personal and Professional development. Soon, I will be able to help you more. I will have my own Quirky Academy online training centre, for entrepreneurs, start-ups and creatives, where you can learn from some of the best experts in their field, including me. Exciting times are ahead and I plan to bring the best to you, to help you to be the best.

In the meantime, stay super positive

Sandra xx

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OLD YOU VS NEW YOU!! – Who will win??

Have you ever come face-to-face with the old you? With the former version of yourself? What was it like? Did you battle it out to the death? Or did you learn to live with each other? Find out my experience by watching this video!!

I recorded this video about two and a half weeks ago and sharing it to both my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com blog and here. Would love to know what you think??

Sandra

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Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy Book Pre-Launch Excitement!

The moment has finally arrived when I am going to be a published Author very soon. I am so excited! I just launched a new Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy Book – Author Sandra Bellamy Facebook page. It would be amazing if you could Like it as I haven’t secured the page name yet – I need at least 25 Likes to get the name, sometimes it’s more, and I want to put the page name in my book, so the race is on. I believe this book is life changing for me and I hope it will be for a ton of others too. Here is the Facebook link www.facebook.com/pages/Break-Through-The-Barriers-Of-Redundancy-Book-Author-Sandra-Bellamy Although my book is aimed at redundant workers, because it takes a holistic view of redundancy and getting back into work, it really does tackle a lot of well-being, confidence building and self-love issues, before dealing with the practicalities of job-hunting.

I have to check all of my hyperlinks work and then convert the manuscript to HTML for Kindle. Then -oooohhhhhh!!! It will be published Author time!!! So in these next few days/week – I should be able to proudly say that Sandra Bellamy is a published Author of Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back Into Work: – An A-Z ‘How to’ guide.

For those of you who don’t like to watch videos or who can’t for some reason, here is a translation of my Quirky Books TV Video excitement:

Hi, it’s Sandra from http://www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com. I am going to be a published Author soon and I cannot wait! I spent four nights trying to reformat my book for Kindle and had no joy, and I think I have finally cracked it with the Table Of Content hyperlinks .. and I am so excited because I am just day, hours, away from being a published Author and it’s my dream. After two and a half years of making this book – Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back In To Work – An A-Z How To Guide, I shall be finally there. Wow! It’s going to be incredible. I cannot wait! I am just so excited! It’s going to change my life, it’s going to help a ton of people and I just love it! I love helping people. I love writing. Oh my gosh to just be writing all the time again, was amazing. I took some time out of my day job – holiday – to do my writing of my book and I was spending ten hour shifts doing my writing and editing and amending, and it’s really hard work, really really hard work, but it’s so beautiful, I felt so at peace and at one with life and it’s absolutely fantastic! I have just been doing Facebook training with someone for their business, because I do Facebook and Twitter and Blogging training for business and that’s all great too, so you may see some books in the future, or a book about one or more of those subjects. More Quirky Books on the way. This Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy book is incredible, it’s a complete A-Z guide for getting back into work and it takes a holistic view of redundancy. It’s all about going back to your inner being to the roots of who you are and what you were born to do before all the noise got in the way, the kids, the mortgage, marriage. Or just when life take it’s ups and downs and doesn’t quite go to plan, how you would want it too. But it’s amazing. It’s a really good book, even though I’ve written it and I say so myself and I look at it and think – ‘Did I really write that?’ But yeah I’m really proud of it. I love it and I hope you’ll love it too. So Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy book will be out soon and I am so excited. Thank you for being on this journey with me. I have a ton of Bloggers, Facebookers and Tweeters, who have followed my journey for quite some time now on getting this thing published. Love to you all X. I really appreciate it. Until next time, Embrace Your Quirky and each others. Bye.

Keep embracing your quirky and believing that your dreams can come true.

Thanks for all of your love and support during my journey into print – Well into a Kindle at the very least!

Write soon

Sandra

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Embraceyourquirky.com is now live and launched!

Embrace Your Quirky Launch
Embrace Your Quirky Launch

I am thrilled to announce that my final (for now) website embraceyourquirky.com, is now officially live and launched! It showcases some of my videos from my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel and takes the form of a video blog format, rather than traditional website – How quirky! Along with my videos, I post inspirational and informative posts on how to embrace your quirky, in your life and business to live a happy,successful and fulfilling existence. Welcome to my World Of Quirky. If you want to subscribe to my channel that would be awesome to have you as part of my quirky TV community. Thanks to those of you who are already subscribed.

It’s gone 5.30am and I need to sleep and get up at 7.34 for my day job – Yes,  I am a mad, crazy girl – At least now my websites are done, I can focus on publishing my Break through the barriers of redundancy book, uploading more videos and creating my other products to compliment my book.

Keep embracing your quirky, stay positive and write soon

Sandra