When you don’t fit into a box and are somewhat different to the thought leaders of today, how do you go about finding your own peace and happiness?
I am predominantly an extrovert and naturally a hyper person. I love noise, getting out and about, I love music, lights, camera, action. I love talking and doing stuff. But what happens when it would seem that most people I know, are introverts? Including thought leaders? If I follow their way to peace and happiness, do you think it will lead to my own? Sure there may be, and indeed is, stuff that I can learn, use, and incorporate into my own life and businesses, but their end game of peace and happiness, may not be mine.
I am not a yoga or meditative type of person, I get bored very easily and I appreciate the energy and vibrancy that noise gives to my state. It makes me feel elated, great and alive! Most introverts would not feel at peace with noise, lights, camera, and action, but as an extrovert I do.
Last week I was in Disneyland Paris for my 21st Mindset Birthday Celebration. I had the best time of my life, as it was completely at one with my soul. The noise from the beautiful Disney music constantly playing in the background; the constant availability of rides and going on them throughout each day; the awesomeness of being around others, while contemplating my own thoughts, the vibrancy, the magic and wonder – and the energy! I was at total peace and happiness with my soul. I could have lived there. This is not what the majority seems to think, but the majority, isn’t who I am. So I think it is best to always create your own recipe for success and happiness, because everyone is different. Just remember, most therapists, experts, counsellors, doctors, marketeers etc, are trained by others that have devised a set of rules, procedures and practises. But if the original source in the chain, is not coming from the same angle and/or mindset as you, and you have different likes, needs, wants and beliefs, their ideology of what peace and happiness is, may not be your ideal. So don’t be afraid to follow your own path in life, and don’t feel bad about it. Love yourself and your own happiness implicitly.
On my way home a few days ago, I saw the moon was full. It was a beautiful glowing orange. And although it is really hard to see any such colour in these photos, I still believe it lights up the sky like beauty’s delight. Do you agree?
Life is too short to let those special moments pass you by. So make sure to see the beauty in the most simplest of things, as well as the most complex of things.
It’s those little moments that make all the difference in life!
Those moments when you look and think how cute!
Those moments when you feel blessed in that moment and for every breath you take!
Those moments when you feel thankful and grateful for all that you have and all that you will acquire.
Those moments when you feel loved, happiness, and supported.
Those moments when you feel blessed that you have risen from the darkness and into the light.
Those moments you are thankful for all the good in your life!
Those moments you are grateful to be you.
Those moments when you can look in the mirror and truly say, I love you x
If you want self-love, you need to love yourself, and that ability comes from understanding multiple aspects of your life, accepting the now in each of those and changing what you don’t like, want or need, as much as you can. It’s also about knowing and accepting that things will happen in life that you have no control over but that you are okay as you are whatever happens, and you will get through any challenge life has to offer you.
If you rush around being swept up in life, it can be tough to focus on yourself. But you need to spend some time with yourself in order to assess how life really is for you, and if you need to make any dramatic and significant changes to improve your life. This starts with understanding yourself in this moment, right now! This is called being present and mindful.
What is in the past has gone, and while it is useful to reflect and learn from it, you must not hold onto it so it consumes you in the present. If you do not change and move on, you stay stagnant and this can lead to depression. Your mind needs to be stimulated and if you don’t, all you will keep doing is going around life in circles like the clothes cycle in a washing machine, and your brain will die, even if your body is still here – this was me yeas ago. I stayed doing the normal things, because that is how I was programmed to be, then, in 2012, I woke up to a different life and a different way of being when I saw Life and Business Coach Anthony Robbins at a Success Seminar in London. He taught among others things, to change your state if you want to change your life and to get out of your comfort zone – I did both of those things and keep pushing myself to do them as much as possible, every year and often month to month, despite still having some personal anxiety at times. Why do I do this? Because I want to lead as rich and full life as possible, one that does not involve me watching countless hours of soaps and not adding any value to people’s lives. Because I know I have more to give to the world than I am currently giving and therefore, I have more to give myself. I have to give myself more confidence, more self-belief and more empowerment, and in return I will receive more self-love to cuddle up to.
So think about your life right now and think about how you would like to change it? Think about your:
- Relationships – With family, with friends and with loved ones?
- Health – Are you feeling good in your body?
- Mind – Are your thoughts negative or positive?
- Are you actively seeking work you love or are you trying to clutch at straws to get anything you can?
- Finances – How are they right now? What do you think will improve your situation is this aspect and what are you going to do about it?
- Life goals and mission – Do you know your purpose? Do you know what you would love to do and how are you going to achieve that?
- Attitude – This is tied into mindset, but have you got the right attitude to get you the right mindset?
Assess how you are in each of these in a scale of 1-10. 10 being, for example, my relationships are awesome, to 1, not got any relationships, life sucks!
Then you need to find out how you are going to change what you are not happy with. Self-Love, comes from loving ones life as is, despite adversity and setbacks. But it is also about being honest with yourself. If any of these areas are making you feel bad, you need to change that. If you hate change – welcome to the club! Even I still find change difficult, but if you want to have a richer life and feel alive, you have to move and that means changing what you do and yes, that may me changing YOU too, to be the best version of you! Life is short, time is precious, so get a move on with your life!
In order to change, self-awareness is key. When a change happens to us, like we are made redundant, we then start to question our life and think about what has happened and what may happen. But why wait for any more change to happen to you? Wouldn’t it be better to make change work for you? Find out what you love, what makes you feel great and go do that. Be your own self and love you. Love all that you are and all that you do!
Be your own miracle. Be the sparkle and the magic in your own life. Love yourself and be your own best friend. Love you for you and do what you want to do. Create your destiny and make it happen. Set goals and take action to fufil your wildest dreams. Keep believing in you xx
Happy New Year 2017.