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Asexualise My Asexual Life – World’s First Personal Development And Self-Growth Channel For Asexuals! First Asexual Live Chat Show!

I thought I was heterosexual for years, but I just didn’t like sex, as I didn’t associate sex with love, but loved to kiss. But when I realised I could no longer have sex, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it ever again, and I nearly wet myself because I was fearful of dating sexuals because of the expectation of sex at the end of the date, I knew something had to be done about it, because I felt I was the only one in the entire world, planet and universe that felt this. So I went to see a counsellor. But… it didn’t go well at all. She said the worse thing in the world, that I really didn’t want to hear. And that was if I wanted a relationship, I must have sex in order to keep a good guy. Something seemed very flawed about this perspective. If the guy was a good guy, why would he want me to do things that were not good for me, as part of a relationship with me! To me that made no sense. It was like giving a license for rape to happen, disguised as what a ‘good guy’ would be allowed to do, in order for me to keep him! This defied all my reasonable ‘healthy-for-me’ logic! So I went home and Google “I love kissing and not sex” and that is when I came across Asexuality.org and realised there were others like me who didn’t like sex, and who didn’t need it in a romantic relationship to be happy. And that’s when I discovered I am indeed a heteroromantic asexual, not heterosexual.

That was in 2014, when I first discovered I am Asexual (I lack sexual attraction. I don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, no matter how much I love the person). Back then, I couldn’t talk about sex publicly or about my past sexual relationships publicly. I had almost given up completely on the idea of having a relationship and dating ever again. And my past relationships weren’t great, but the opposite.

In October 2015, for Asexual Awareness Week, I decided to get out of my comfort zone, open up about past sexual relationships, and announce to the world, that I am in fact, a heteroromantic asexual! On my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. It took me awhile to get used to speaking openly on my channel, but when I received comments from viewers, that they found my videos helpful and they were glad they found my channel, it made me happy to continue to create and upload videos and I decided to not copy other asexuality channels, just to become popular, but to share my own asexual life journey in order to help others, to empower asexuals to be comfortable and confident with their own Asexuality, and to educate others! Little did I know back then, how this channel would grow into the unique Asexualise My Asexual Life, Asexuality late night chat show it is today!

In 2017, I published my first ever book for Asexuals, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity, under my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books. Little did I know at the time, just how popular this book would be and continues to be, to this day. Helping asexuals, those who lack sexual attraction, and who are a recorded 1% of the population, to know there are others like them in the world, who don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, and to know it’s okay, you are not alone and that sex does not equal love, and it is possible to live, love, and be happy, without sex forever, in a loving, happy, and healthy relationship, be it romantic or platonic, or if you don’t ever want to be ‘in a relationship’ it’s okay! (I am currently working on my second book for asexuals which will be published in 2020, with 4 more books planned for asexuals. Each book focuses on different topics, within the asexual spectrum!) So if you are a writer who is struggling at the moment, know you won’t be rich overnight, you might not be rich in money terms, for a very long time, but you will be one of the wealthiest people in that world, because you can really change lives with your written words, and that is why you should be a writer and Author of books, because you love writing so much and you want too change lives for the better forever. I regularly get people private messaging me about how this book has literally change their life, for the better, forever. And also, how much my videos on www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife have really helped them, especially when they first discovered they are asexual. I get people who are not asexual watching my channel, but the respective fact I am, subscribing to it, and becoming one of my most loyal viewers. I know I can help those people too and you.

In July 2018, I wanted to do something special for Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, so I started to live stream on my channel, every day, for 31 days. But when the 31 days was over! I got the bug for live streaming. I realised how many more asexuals I could help, rather than in private message one-on-one, if I just let anyone and everyone ask me questions directly in the live stream chat. I could offer something unique, that no other asexuality channel was offering. A way to get instant answers about asexuality, about my own life experiences, and to help other asexuals to overcome depression, like I had done in 2012; lower their anxiety, and get a better mindset and a better quality of life! Fast forward to today, and I am still live streaming daily, but now it’s evolved into being an online daily late night chat show which at its heart, is a Personal Development and Personal Growth channel for Asexuals, and the world’s first of its kind.

Specialising in:

  • Asexuality
  • Surviving and Thriving as an asexual in this highly sexualised world
  • Dating and Relationships
  • Spirituality and Mindset,
  • Personal Growth and Self-Love.
  • I also do ‘no sex’ movie reviews.

These days, it’s not uncommon for many (not all), of my streams to last over an hour, sometimes two, and the odd occasion has even been over 3 hours long. All of that time has been spent helping asexuals for free, and non-asexuals who also form part of my regular viewership. So on average 7-14 hours a week! My live streams most often start after 11pm UK time.

I have been learning about personal and professional development since 2012. I have also been heavily involved in the Asexual relationships and dating scene, with being on Asexual dating sites since 2014, running 3 Asexual dating Facebook groups, and learning a lot more about healthy dating and relationships dynamics since studying a pattern changing course in 2013, and subsequently learning much more in the last couple of years. I am keen to help as many asexuals as possible to develop long-lasting healthy friendships and relationships, with life, with love, with others, and with yourself. To help grow you as an individual and realise your true potential and beauty, in your own uniqueness.

I would love you to join my channel community, if you think this is something you could benefit from, please subscribe at www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife, and hit the bell icon so you get notified whenever I go live, which is usually each and every day, unless for some reason I am staying away from home and have no access to live streaming, such as over Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year’s.

If you missed Eddy’s incredible story in the chat, about how he is heterosexual, yet been in a relationship with a sex-repulsed asexual girl for 2 years and said it’s the most purest form of love he has ever experienced, and the best relationship he has ever had, check out this show here https://youtu.be/F7T8Lzv2zoo which was recorded live! Eddy has now become one of my Asexualise community family, despite not being asexual!

This is why I created my channel, not just to help asexuals, but to help bring sexuals and asexuals together and to bring the gap of understanding between us, so that one day we can live in harmony alongside each other! And that ‘no sex’ ever relationships, can finally be accepted worldwide, as something some people enjoy and is normal for some to have! If some asexuals don’t mind having sex, and MAY like it as an activity to do like a board game. It’s logical that some sexuals may enjoy not having sex, because they enjoy that type of relationship and lifestyle!

Check out the blog post about how this channel evolved into a late night Asexuality chat show, here https://wp.me/p6MjnW-3HO  and join my channel here www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife

As always, stay positive

Sandra xx

Redundancy Inspiration

Why All I Want For Christmas Is You! Is A Dangerous Message! Proceed With Caution! #livehack

All I Want For Christmas Is You, is one of my very favourite Christmas songs! It’s a great catchy little number to bop along to, but if you take an in-depth look at the words, they send a very damaging and dangerous message! Watch this video below now from my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel to find out why it’s such a dangerous message, and what you need to do to reclaim your personal power and make getting into abusive relationships, being lonely and unhappy, a thing of the past! Make 2020, your best year yet and set the tone now, in 2019, for the best year yet to come!

And if you want a reminder of this song, here is the 2019 edition!

Here are the lyrics xx

Here is a wonderful Christmas song, which is very beautiful for your soul! When you have fun, you attract the one! It all starts with you, and you have fun and laughter regardless!

I wish you a very Happy Christmas Day and Christmas Time, and for all your dreams to come true in 2020!

As always, stay positive

Sandra xx

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Do You Want To Break Free From Past Wounds And Limiting Beliefs Even If You Don’t Know How? FREE Authenticity Summit Starts 9th Dec!

Freestyle Your Life Authenticity Summit

Fly Authenticity Summit

Sometimes in life you get stuck, stuck in the past, stuck in your life, and you just generally can’t fathom what’s going on! It’s like your life has come to a standstill and you haven’t the foggiest why!

Are Your Thoughts….?

  • …I could have done better in life
  • …I have to be popular with everyone
  • …I have to meet the expectations of others
  • …I don’t live as I thought I was going to
  • …I still regret what happened in the past
  • …I’m worried about my future
  • …I feel I’m not enough

If any of these of these thoughts have resonated with you, the Freestyle Your Life Summit can help you! It’s a must see event and unlike nothing you will have likely see before. It will help you to break free from past wounds and limiting beliefs, so you can hit the ground running in 2020! It will show you the how, not just the why, which is what makes this summit more powerful and implementable that any other on the subject. You’ll learn from real life experiences, from people who have been there and done it, and that includes me! And you get a complete ‘Authenticity Training Blueprint‘ you can follow, to break free from whatever sucks at the Status Quo, so you can finally evolve, flourish, and FLY, in your life & business.

The FLY – Freestyle Your Life Authenticity Week Online Summit 2019, from 9th-15th of Dec, is something you definitely don’t want to miss! The FLY Authenticity Week Online Summit 2019 ‘🎬 is revealing the best tips and strategies of the most amazing experts on authenticity and self-realisation and I am thrilled to be part of it – I am speaking on day 4, which is the 12th of December, make sure that date is in your diary! Nobody should be ruling your life, but YOU ❣ On the FLY – Summit, you’ll learn how to break free from limiting beliefs, past conditioning which no longer serves you, and to heal emotional wounds; and how to implement it all in your life & business! 🍀

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  • ❣Learn how to break free from whatever sucks in your life
  • Learn how to discover your WHY and live your purpose
  • Learn to become conscious and find your authentic self
  • Learn how to liberate from the curse of being not enough
  • Learn how to stop living your past life over and over again
  • Learn how to turn sacrifice into self-LOVE
  • Learn how to stop self-sabotaging thoughts & behaviour once and for all!
  • Learn how to thrive vs. just survive, and live funny and prosper
  • ❣Learn how to reduce stress and heal your emotional wounds
  • ❣Learn how to restyle your life on your own authentic terms
  • ❣Learn how to transform and turn your dream into a reality
  • ❣Learn how to tap into your genius; to thrive personally and as an entrepreneur
  • ❣Learn how to find your voice and grow and monetise your business
  • ❣Learn how to put yourself into the driver’s seat and live your purpose

And so much more!

The event is free to attend, and each session is available for free, for 24 hours only, so don’t miss out! You can view the summit by signing up at https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2 to receive the email for each day’s event. When you implement the wisdom shared by 78 amazingly authentic and highly inspirational experts & speakers, you can rise and show up as the authentic being & leader you were always born to be; owning who you truly are 🎬🔝. This is not just an interview series, but all interviews and days are built upon each other and are a summarised representation of pure wisdom and mentorship of 78 experts to transform you into the authentic self 🍀. Freestyle-Your-Life is a way of living life on your own authentic terms after pressing Reset and getting rid of all that sucks in your life, so you can truly be the real you, you were always born to be, with all your quirky individuality! 😎 You seriously don’t want to miss this! I am friends with the event organiser and host, and her own story of her battle with cancer and how she overcame it, by discovering how to be her true authentic self, and live life on her own terms, is truly inspirational and exceptional, she literally lives and breathes what she teaches. I know if anyone can help you to be your true authentic self and heal past wounds, she can.

This is the first international conference worldwide of its type, featuring 78 authentic and awesome experts and speakers, sharing their immense wisdom and best tips to guide you to becoming authentically quirky YOU. If you can’t make all the shows, no problem, you can purchase the recordings to the entire event, at a highly reduced price, before the summit even starts with the EarlyBird pricing offer (well worth it)!  78 experts, for a fraction of the cost it would be to buy their mentorship and coaching on an individual basis! Sign up here before this deal is gone for good https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2  Don’t wait, this is an amazing summit and it will help you to live a better quality of life and pursue your purpose with passion, confidence, self-motivation and self-worth, rather that self-sabotage by clinging to the past and subconsciously holding yourself back. Kickoff is this Monday, December 9, 2019, so not long to go, sign up now, or you will be kicking yourself if you don’t! Give yourself the gift this Christmas of discovering how you can be the very best of you and upgrade yourself to the next level and version of you! Sign up here 🎁https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2

As always, stay positive

Sandra xx

Redundancy Inspiration

You are the miracle!

So many people spend their whole life looking for external gratification, looking for things to happen to them to make their life better, looking for that miracle, all the while not realising, that they are the miracle and they are the only one who has the power to change their life!

This video was filmed live on my channel www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV

Until next time, stay positive friend

Sandra xx

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EVERYDAY IS A MIRACLE BECAUSE YOU’RE IN IT! INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE BY SANDRA BELLAMY!

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People are forever looking around them, searching for that one day in which a miracle will happen, not ever realising that they are a miracle, they are living and breathing in this life, when thousands of others have lost their’s.

Every day is your own for the taking, make it what you will, but please do my a huge favour and look in the mirror, and see that the miracle you have been waiting for is looking back at you, they always have been and always will be.

You are the miracle my friend, see it, feel it, believe it, live it, and love it, and move it into action to make your wildest dreams come true! And remember, I love you, just for being you xx

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What’s Your Purpose? Motivational Video!

It’s so important to use redundancy as an opportunity to find your purpose! Everyone has a purpose, they just need to find it! You can make a difference, you do matter! So what’s your purpose? If you don’t know it, while redundant, make it your full-time job to find it and do whatever it takes to achieve it!

If you want help to embrace change and break through your barriers of redundancy, I wrote a book to help you http://amzn.to/2o0XmMA