Don’t be afraid to be emotional and to let your emotions out. There is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, being emotional, can be good for you.
When you feel an emotion, but keep it locked inside you, that is in effect, exactly what you are doing. You are embedding it deep within your soul, and that is no good for anyone.
If you talk whilst angry, it’s not good, but sometimes being angry, in the moment, gets the feeling of anger out and you can calm down quickly. Notice, I said talk.
If you need to scream, scream, just try not to scream at someone. At worse, they will never speak to you again, at best, you will need to apologise. Try saying – I feel angry right now.
If you love someone and wished you didn’t anymore, by fighting it and giving yourself a hard time about it, the feelings of love and longing for that person, can intensify and linger. In order to free yourself from the feeling of love, you must first accept that you do love, by allowing yourself to feel it, however difficult and horrid that may be.
If life is getting you down and you feel like crying, just do it. By holding your tears in, you can’t get them out and no good feelings can get in.
Allowing yourself to feel negative emotions, in the moment, such as pain, anger, hurt or grief, enables you to get over them faster and feel better quicker.
Of course, being emotional can be a positive experience. It can help you to feel other’s pain; to empathise and sympathise. It can facilitate a deep and meaningful existence and relationship with others.
Being emotional can be fantastic for a career in writing, because it lets you to get into the mind, soul and spirit, of your characters, so they can lead you to tell their story.
Being emotional, makes us human and that’s a fantastic thing.
So next time someone says to you – you are so emotional. Take it as a compliment. Say, I know it’s great. It’s wonderful to feel alive and be able to connect with others in a profound way. Don’t run from your emotions, but embrace them.
Embrace every quirky thing about you and remember how being emotional, can be good for you.
Every so often, I like to share with you, one of my posts from my http://www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com blog, that I think is relevant to you.
I wanted to share this with you because having been made redundant twice myself, I know how hard it can be and how depressing it can feel. Life does throw some spanners in our works and it can be difficult to see the light. In order to feel alive again, we must endevour to get back to living the life that makes us feel alive, regardless of previous circumstances or what works for others. Today is a new day, treat it as a new opportunity to feel alive.
Here is the post:-
Thanks for all of your kind comments and support during this difficult time of my Grandma’s passing. Her funeral was yesterday and it went well considering it was a funeral. I read my entire poem without stumbling on my words. Being quirky, I made sure it was a funeral with a difference. I went around hugging everyone, including the people carrying the coffin, the guy playing the organ, the Funeral Director, the Vicar and all guests. I even had the Birdie Song playing us out of the crematorium. Me and my Grandma used to dance to that together and do the actions.
I used to suffer with depression and thankfully I have been free of it for about two and a half years. I cured myself, and still maintain a good head through sometimes very quirky, unconventional methods. I am well aware that I have to prevent myself from going back to that dreadful place ever again. I believe life is for living, to the fullest. Although my Grandma has passed, in the rest of my life, I am the happiest I have ever been and so grateful to be living a young life. In my mind, I am getting younger and I love it. I believe in order to feel alive, you must start living. Do things that make you feel fantastic, alive, enthusiastic, excited and passionate, over and over again, and never stop. I live in my own quirky magic bubble and so long as I am in that, life is beautiful.
My Grandma loved living a full and active life. Today is a new month and time for me to start living a new life. What wonderful opportunities will come my way? I wonder? After crying a lot this morning, this is the attitude I decided to take and I went to the cinema to feel alive and enjoy a part of my life in that moment.
In my usual quirky Roving Reporter style, here is my review of Maleficent. It is less that one minute long. Enjoy it and let me know what you think.
I am currently working on reformatting the interior of my Break through the barriers of redundancy book. It would seem that the CreateSpace templates have errors in them. One template I had 5 attempts to reformat and I had to scrap each one. Self publishing is hard but I am determined to publish my book.
Write when I can
Whilst being redundant, depression can rear it’s ugly head.
One of the ways of overcoming feelings of depression, is to lift your mood by changing your state of being. You can do this through:
- Movement – Such as dancing or playing sport
- Looking – Watching an action movie
- Listening – To music
- Touching – Stroking a pet
All of these should distract your mind and take your focus off your unwanted thoughts.
Depression is a state of mind that manifests itself into your state of being. Your being responds by harvesting unhappy emotions, feelings and thoughts. You need to pinpoint the cause of your depression and literally cut back on it or cut it out completely from your life. Metaphorically speaking – It is like mould that attacks fruit, once it gets hold, it will continue to spread. You can either cut it out and eat the rest, which may still be infected, or you can throw it away for good and never go near it again. Obviously you would never physically cut yourself, as that is wrong and not what I am saying.
Along with changing your state of being, you need to increase your self-confidence and self-esteem. You need to counteract all of the negative comments from others and from yourself, by speaking only positive words to yourself, over and over again. You must ban yourself from using any negative words.
You need to view obstacles as challenges and be blessed for what you have.
Always tell yourself – You are the world’s greatest.
Success comes in all forms, shapes and sizes.
In order to be successful, you have to first work out:
- What success means to you?
- What success will do for you?
- What you envisage success to look like?
Only when you are able to answer these 3 questions, will you be able to map out your own path to success.
To you, success could mean:
- Owning your own home
- Being able to put food on the table
- Running your own business
- Writing your life story
- Having a family of your own
- Having a good network of friends for support
- Working in your dream job
- Fulfilling your ambitions
- Getting up in the morning pain-free
- Being able to create things
Or it could be a combination of all, or some, of the above.
Whilst you are redundant, it is a great time to discover what success means to you, because if you don’t, you will never feel satisfied but feel like there is something missing from your life or that you are a failure.
Knowing what success means to you, is the first step on your path to achieving it.
Don’t waste any more time feeling like a failure but instead put your time and energy into writing a list of what success means to you and then prioritise them in the order of most importance and set goals to achieve each and every one of them. As you do this, you will be growing into your own success and moving along the path to lead a more fulfilling existence and a happier you.
So what are you waiting for?
Until next time, stay positive.
- How to keep winning – The road to success (beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com)
- The Top 10 Must Know Traits of Successful Entrepreneurs (rasmussen.edu)
Redundancy can leave you feeling lost, lonely and hurt. Just like when you break up from a familiar relationship, it can be hard to find the motivation to go on with your life because of the pain you feel inside. You need to recognise this as part of the grieving process and start to think of ways that you can make yourself feel better. It is imperative you focus your mind on looking after you.
Write a list of a minimum of 10 things that make you smile, happy, laugh or simply feel good. It could be:
- Taking a hot bath
- Going for a walk
- Speaking to a friend
- Stroking a pet
- Cooking a meal
- Lighting candles around your home
- Going to the cinema
- Playing sport
- Reading a book
- Renting a movie at home
- Eating a food treat
Whatever it is, make time for yourself to do as many of those things as often as possible, at least once a week. The more frequent you do things from your feel good list , the more you will feel positive about yourself, your life and your future.
Until next time, stay positive.