This is a very revealing, open and honest post! Although I am redundant from a full-time employed job of 5 years since last Sept/Oct – I stayed on Part-time for 4 weekends, and now my money has been used up from my redundancy pay and sadly UK benefits are not enough to pay all the bills and eat, I am fortunate that my Grandma left me small amount of money in her will to be able to eat. Thanks to her I can still have food in my belly at the moment. Yes, I am a writer and T-Shirt designer and seller, but sadly don’t make much money from that at the moment. It just about covers my business insurance and my expenses are far high with domains I need to continue to renew and all the other costs associated with that, and the time factor.
However, I have had dreams and plans of what I want to do with my websites/business for a long time and invested the last 6 years of time and money into my education so I can build a successful long-term business. I used some of my redundancy money to help me buy the systems and services I need to take my goals, plans, ambitions and dreams forward, and succeed. Do I think I will do it? Yes. I don’t just think it, I believe it, categorically, that I will be 100% successful, that my current situation, does not define who I am or what my future circumstances will be. Am I scared, you bet! But I wouldn’t have my life any other way. I could stay safe and be like a mouse, but that is not going to help me, and at the moment I am in danger anyway. Danger of all the possibilities of what happens if I can’t get an employed job for some reason – I am trained in retail since leaving college and a lot of the shops in the UK and closing down – and the dangers of if I do get an employed job again, only to be made redundant quite quickly again. Between this year and the next 5, most high street shops will close down, this means if I go back into that line of work, I am doomed, in a nutshell, in the long-time. So if I had some advice to give to you, it would be to always work hard at an ‘online’ side hustle. I know people who are making hundreds of thousands of pounds and millions of pounds from businesses that are online and got offline services to compliment it. I know a lot of models about building a profitable online business. I bought some thing lasts year that should have helped, but sadly, not everything goes according to plan, and not everything works as you wish it would, so you have to change direction and go get something else that will and start-over. Entrepreneurship is not for the faint-hearted, that is for sure!
So why the poster above this! Well although I am redundant and money is very tight, I am still making absolutely sure that I used redundancy as a golden opportunity to fulfil my goals, ambitions and dreams. I have my ebooks on my own online Quirky Books e-book store now within www.quirkybooks.net and www.quirky-books.com – a dream come true, since starting my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com over 7 years ago – 8 years this November! I bought an ebook theme years ago, this year it became faulty with no way of me fixing it and the developer passing the buck – so I moved on and bought something else!
Whilst I am still actively seek work, I started to create my Ignite Your Happy course as I mentioned in a previous post, and I am still working on that one for my Quirky Academy! But in the meantime, I have been creating a short technical Kindle book for a very specific niche and my first ‘mini’ online training course for my Quirky Academy (soon to be officially launched – I have a bit more learning curve to do first – a big bit more – but I will succeed). Quirky Academy has been a dream of mine for years, but at the time I just thought it would be a personal and professional development training centre for Quirky people, with no defined niche as such, just Quirky people! But way before I was made redundant, I bought a high level course from an Entrepreneur, the most amount of money I ever spent on a course in my life to date, which I spent months going through and learning from, and I realised my niche was Entrepreneurs, Start-ups and Creatives, because we are the Quirky crazy people who aren’t normal! We live with mission and purpose and vigour. We live to be happy and please ourselves, whilst pleasing others and helping others at the same time. We can’t sit still, we have to keep moving forward with our lives, working on various projects and making our life really count and although it can be a hard slog at times – something the top entrepreneurs don’t want you to believe, as it would scupper their chances of you buying their products and services, and they are correct that you can work smarter, rather than harder, so their solutions aren’t wrong, but you still have to initially be the grinder and fuel the fire as it were, and those initial stages, could be years of your life! Are you prepared to do that? Give your life, to get a better one later on? I live for now and my future, it’s a fine balancing act. I gave up TV years ago, so my entrepreneur work can take flight. I know I was born for a special purpose, I know I am not normal and never have been. I am leader, not a follower. I think for myself – which many people in the employed sphere don’t like as I won’t conform to every bit of their ideal employee! – I have a brain and my own opinion, and I like to stand out and be outstanding. I am not a sheep, but the shepherd! I am not the robot, but the revolutioniser! I am not the norm, but the Quirky! I simply don’t fit into a box, not in my personal or professional life! I am also friends with a lot of entrepreneurs who share that vision of defining your own life and leading it by your own example and rules of life, so there will be other tutors on my Quirky Academy teaching courses in their specialist areas. I can’t wait for you to see it when it goes live. I am starting small and building big. I know the best of me, is still yet to come. Yes, I believe I was born to be a beast selling Author and I would love to write 24/7 if I could, but guess what? I actually love teaching and creating online video training courses to help people. So yeah, Quirky Academy is an all new online training centre, for entrepreneurs, start-ups and creatives, and by the 5th of June 2018, it will be live and looking good! Courses will appear one-by-one at first, and get more and more as momentum builds and I have the support in place for other tutors.
I already launched the trailer for my new Quirky Academy channel recently. Here it is and please subscribe, I would love you to support me in my journey and watch how I grow, and I can teach you a lot of stuff that I know already, so we can grow together!
So I still hear you jumping up and down and screaming at me, what has this got to do with the poster – ah! Well another dream I have had in the most recent years, is to be a speaker, specifically on stage in London. My specialist subject is Asexuality – Asexualise is my brand and I am the Author of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity. Here is the link so you can check it out and shop for it https://amzn.to/2I6ZM96
The timetable hasn’t been fixed yet, but I am down to be on the panel of speakers at the UK asexuality conference on July 8th, at Westminster University in London, tickets are free, there are 200, but 138 have already been taken. So if you live in the UK or going to be over here at that time, grab your ticket now! https://www.facebook.com/UKAceConference/ You can also register directly here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSftgl5MEF7B5y9bRTKEsgJ5mfYFwloCMMAD4viiP2XpVIgwsQ/viewform It’s a long URL!
So it would seem I am finally going to get to be a public speaker, in London, and on a topic (asexuality), that I know a lot about! So this is fabulous news. My hotel accommodation and transport are already booked and an asexual friend will be filming me and we will be hanging out together for 3 days, so that will be super cool! – You know I mentioned before about expenses being more than incomings at the moment – yeah, this is one of those times! But I will live my dream and it will be great for my career. As I have not completely got rid of my anxiety, it will be a break through boundaries personally for me!
You may not know this, but I organise Asexual (in person) meetups in my city of Exeter in the UK, and our next one is on Saturday 19th of May, but I am meeting up with two asexual guys the day before (tomorrow), as they are staying in a hotel. On Saturday we will be meeting up for food and drink and then going to the Underground Passages. Here is a video so you can have a peek.
I am a heteroromantic asexual – into guys only, and I love romance, kissing and affection. I love to meet other asexuals and it is really nice for me to be in the company of guys who enjoy my company without wanting to have sex with me – although I am attracted to guys, I never get the need, urge or want for sex, and yes, I have had that in the past and yes, my ex was good at it, and no, I don’t need it. Kissing I love, but not the sex, thanks. I would rather do the washing up and I hate washing up!
If you want to know more about asexuality you can check out my website www.asexualise.com and I have blog articles on there about it and I also have a YouTube channel www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife – I just went over 300 subscribers on there!
So yeah, in one year, this year, 2018, all of my dreams will come true! Well, I have not met my Asexual soulmate yet, that I know of, so that is the 4th dream! Yes, if I don’t get that right away, I can wait, while I build my dream career! But this is my absolute year to shine and get everything I want in terms of dreams coming true, so who knows, the year is young in this respect, with plenty more chance of me fulfilling my goals, ambitions and dreams! Of course I have more dreams to come true, like earning a full-time living from my online websites/business and never have to be in an employed job ever again, and come off benefits, and be able to eat without having to worry about money going down and not coming in – and all the potential issues with that! Which I will not think about as it just stops me from doing anything – it is paralysing. I am on a mission to be super successful and my life depends on it, and so does all the lives of those who I can impact and help with what I already know! So let’s do this together! See redundancy as an opportunity to live your purpose and live your dreams! I know I am, and I would love you to join me in my Quirky mission, take my hand and lets do this together!
Until next time, stay positive and live your purpose!