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Asexual Perspectives by Sandra Bellamy (Book Review) — A Voice in the Void

Sex! Oh no! If that’s what you think, or you don’t see sex in the way that others do, then you could be asexual.

Asexuality in broad terms is a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction. If you are asexual, you can feel so lost and alone, especially when society tends to put sex on a pedastool and leads you to believe that everyone wants sex, as it’s natural. Well I can say for definite, that is isn’t natural for everyone. Some people just won’t want sex and don’t like to have it.

Check out this post below from a Voice In The Void, who not only bought a copy of my Asexual Perspectives book, but who explains the significant impact this book had on them and their life. And you can grab your copy of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book now, on Amazon here https://amzn.to/3LpCiJC

I thought that I would do a review of a book written by Sandra Bellamy regarding asexuality. She has written a few books (I’ll likely review others) and is currently writing another as I write this, which should hopefully be available soon. The book I shall discuss today is “Asexual Perspectives, 47 Asexual Stories” with […]

Asexual Perspectives by Sandra Bellamy (Book Review) — A Voice in the Void
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Live, Laugh, Love, That’s Enough!

Through these dark and difficult pandemic times, we must also remember all the light we can bring to our own life and those of others. Sometimes to live, laugh and love, really is enough!

Allow me to explain:

When we live with all our heart! And follow our hopes, goals, ambitions, dreams, and passions; life is so much sweeter, happier, lighter.

When we laugh, we have joy in our heart, and it’s hard to be sad if we are joyous!

And when we give love out to others, without expecting anything in return, we often get back more love than we ever thought possible. Plus, giving love to others, just makes us feel so good. Feeling good is the antidote to feeling bad, and this is the best form of non-pharmaceutical medicine to soothe your soul.

So I encourage you each day to live, laugh, and love, to the fullest, always.

Share this with now, with someone who needs to hear it!

As always, stay positive.

Sandra xx

 

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The Best Kind Of Love – Is Self-Love! Happy International Celebrate Being Single Day!

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These are just 5 benefits of single life and being single, I can think of many more, can you?

There is nothing better than to love oneself, because we are the only one who will be with ourself, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, and if we do not have self- love, our life is going to be miserable and we are going to be a bit stuck!

All we have to do to love ourself, is to treat ourself, as we would do if we were in an ideal relationship with us. It’s that simple, or complicated, depending on which way you look at it! This means, just like in an ideal partnership, you should always:

  • Treat yourself with kindness.
  • Treat yourself with self-respect.
  • Give yourself a hug.
  • Love yourself regardless, because you just can’t help it!
  • Value your worth and the time you spend in your own company.
  • Be your best friend.
  • Help yourself in difficult times.
  • Reassure yourself that everything will be okay.
  • Know that you will get through the tough times, and encourage yourself to go for your goals, ambitions and dreams.

Happy International Celebrate Being Single Day! Today I am out on a self-date to celebrate being single on #ICBSDAY! or #ICBSD, (International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th!). Today I am going to the cinema and for a meal! And I will be even more loved up with myself than usual!

International Celebrate Being Single Day is a day I founded On February 14th, in 2015, so that no single person has to feel alone ever again on Valentine’s Day, instead, they can celebrate it as they special day! So how are you celebrating today?

Whatever you are up to, happy Valentine’s Day and International Celebrate Being Single Day, may it fill you with joy, happiness, and a lot of self-love! With much love from me, Sandra xxxx

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You Could Change In A Heartbeat If You Wanted To! A Thought-Prevoking Poem By Sandra Bellamy.

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You Could Change In A Heartbeat If You Wanted To, But I Know You Won’t Change Because It Is Too Much Hard Work For You, And That Won’t Do!

When Work Shows Up, You Flinch Away, Although You Work Hard In Your Job, Every Day.

You Never Stop To Think, About A Meaningful Life; Beyond What You Are Used To. Because To Think Like That Is Scary, And You Would Rather Live In Fear And Be Weary!

You Never Stop For One Moment And Considered, You Could Have Everything You Ever Dreamed Of, If You Hadn’t Dithered, And Gone Back To Your Old Ways, What A Waste Of Days.

It’s A Waste Of Time; Of Love, It’s A Crime!

Maybe One Day You Will Look Back At What You Did, You Will Feel Sorry That It’s Me You Went To Hid.

You Will One Day Find Out That These Other Girls Never Cared About You, Then What Will You Do?

You Will Keep Getting Older And None The Wiser, You Will Keep Being A Coward Without An Advisor.

But I Also See Braveness In You, And How Far You Have Come Too.

But The Thing You Are Most Afraid Of, The Lonliness That Will Lead To Despair, Will Be There.

Still I Wish You Well, I Wish All My Love For You Will Impress Upon Your Heart, Some New Found Meaning, Even Though You Pushed Us Apart.
I Wish For You The Best, Even Though I Find It Hard To Rest. 

I Find It Hard To Let You Go, But You’ve Already Moved On Without A Care, I Know!

Even Though You Gave Up Easily, Can’t You See, I Was So Good For You, Even Though You Weren’t For Me!

If You Actually Knew How Your Behaviour Affected Me, If You Were In My Position, Would You See?

You Could Change In A Heartbeat If You Wanted To, But I Know That Is Something You Will Never Do!

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REDUNDANCY Dream Finally Comes True!! ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES Quirky Books Paperback Published!

When I was made redundant for the second time in my life, in 2009, it is then that I discovered 100% that I was born to write. I started my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com writing blog over 6 years ago and I knew back then, that I wanted to have my own publishing company called Quirky Books, and this year, that dream, finally came true. Yes, I am a registered publisher, and this Asexual Perspectives book is the first of my books going into print ( 3rd Kindle book). It was a proud moment to finally hold my printed book in my hands and even a more proud moment, that my number one fan of my Asexualise work and brand, did an unboxing video and was so excited to receive a copy of my work!! To hear him say the words, “Author Sandra Bellamy”, felt incredible. There is no better feeling in the world than the power to change lives, through the written word. As a registered publisher I have to by law, send a paperback copy to the British Library for free. It then goes down as part of English heritage, so will be there for generations to come, long after I am gone, for people to use in their research and to further their. Here is the link to get the book in a Kindle veraion http://amzn.to/2szjNJQ Or UK site is http://amzn.to/2u6vps7

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and scroll up and add to cart!

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of http://www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

The print version of my 560 page Asexual Perspectives book is now available to buy on Amazon here http://amzn.to/2u1wp0O. Or UK site http://amzn.to/2tw739A

To celebrate this book going into print, our diversity across the spectrum, and our individuality within it, I founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, 1st-31st of July 2017, #APAM. Like www.facebook.com/acexualise to join in the celebration fun and subscribe on www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to see a different video every day, for 31 days of #APAM, related to a topic from the book that matters to you and join in the conversation!!

 So grab your copy now and get educated on this often unheard of, and deeply misunderstood sexual orientation, that is asexuality, the (A)absence of sexual attraction!