6 Steps To Letting Go: How to let go in 6 Steps: How to let go of a job due to redundancy: How to let go of a relationship!

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One of my subscribers ask me these questions, “How to let go? What is the best way?” I thought my answers were very relevant to being made redundant and how to let go of a job due to redundancy, as well as how to let go of a relationship. So here they are, especially for you. Do they help you? Let me know in the comments below!

Step 1: Grieve and allow yourself to let it out – bottling it up never helps and will prolong the bad feeling. Many of us are taught not to this as crying is weak – but it is the opposite. Crying and letting it out takes courage, allows you to love and feel great and goodness in your heart again and far quicker.

Step 2: Believe everything happens for a reason good or bad. Letting out the pain, allows for good again and there is a reason why your circumstances change and it is so good and better stuff, or new stuff, can come your way. Positive thinking is the key to surviving and thriving!

Step 3: If it was a relationship or job that has gone, think of all the negative and bad stuff about it, and think of how you can improve your life going forward and reassess what you want from your relationships, jobs and life. If we do the same thing, we stagnate, so a change is good. Once we can see the bad and negative things we left behind, we can feel better about the present and more confident and happy about what exciting and new things are coming our way – this is the mindset you need to adopt. Shift it from thinking change is bad, to thinking change is great, otherwise life would be so very boring. Think – ‘what is coming next, if there are obstacles, I can deal with it, I believe in me, I am intelligent and will find a way!!’

Step 4: Think of a good life, a future life, and set some goals for what you want your life to be like, then take action to achieve those one by one – action is key to success.

Step 5: Take responsibility for your whole life. Believe that you and you alone are in charge of your own life and responsible for it. We cannot change others actions, we can only do the best we could do at the time, with the circumstances we allowed ourselves to be in, and that now, you see, it’s time move on and forward and keep growing.

Step 6: Put your mind, energy, effort and skills into learning personal and professional development stuff – whether that is listening or learning form me or others – it will help you grow yourself and take your mind off negative things. One you start growing yourself, you will love yourself far more.

Is this helpful? What do you do to let go? Share in the comments below!


You Could Change In A Heartbeat If You Wanted To! A Thought-Prevoking Poem By Sandra Bellamy.

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You Could Change In A Heartbeat If You Wanted To, But I Know You Won’t Change Because It Is Too Much Hard Work For You, And That Won’t Do!

When Work Shows Up, You Flinch Away, Although You Work Hard In Your Job, Every Day.

You Never Stop To Think, About A Meaningful Life; Beyond What You Are Used To. Because To Think Like That Is Scary, And You Would Rather Live In Fear And Be Weary!

You Never Stop For One Moment And Considered, You Could Have Everything You Ever Dreamed Of, If You Hadn’t Dithered, And Gone Back To Your Old Ways, What A Waste Of Days.

It’s A Waste Of Time; Of Love, It’s A Crime!

Maybe One Day You Will Look Back At What You Did, You Will Feel Sorry That It’s Me You Went To Hid.

You Will One Day Find Out That These Other Girls Never Cared About You, Then What Will You Do?

You Will Keep Getting Older And None The Wiser, You Will Keep Being A Coward Without An Advisor.

But I Also See Braveness In You, And How Far You Have Come Too.

But The Thing You Are Most Afraid Of, The Lonliness That Will Lead To Despair, Will Be There.

Still I Wish You Well, I Wish All My Love For You Will Impress Upon Your Heart, Some New Found Meaning, Even Though You Pushed Us Apart.
I Wish For You The Best, Even Though I Find It Hard To Rest. 

I Find It Hard To Let You Go, But You’ve Already Moved On Without A Care, I Know!

Even Though You Gave Up Easily, Can’t You See, I Was So Good For You, Even Though You Weren’t For Me!

If You Actually Knew How Your Behaviour Affected Me, If You Were In My Position, Would You See?

You Could Change In A Heartbeat If You Wanted To, But I Know That Is Something You Will Never Do!


Sometimes You Just Have To Let Them Go!

Sometimes someone may come into your life, who is far from perfect, but you see the hidden gems in them. You see the best in them, their warm heart, their beautiful face, their young words of wisdom encased in an old soul. You think this is it! This is the awesome person that I may have been waiting for all my life, maybe as a friend or maybe more. 

But as months go by and your bond grows, your insticts are not 100% agreeing with your vision and very soon, the real person emerges, but this time these imperfections are more that that, they are an innocent and naive weapon, in the fight to control the situation and you. They are an intentional stab in the back, because you did not do what they wanted you to do. Because you weren’t there, they quickly replaced you with someone else. While you were expected to wait for them when they demanded it and ‘told’ you. And worse of all, they turned to one of your own friends, whom you know is a good person and known for years. And you are left with a feeling of betrayal, hurt and pain, all the whilst knowing that your friend although not interested in the same way, is also being used and they do not reply to you.

You toughen up and come to your senses, you feel pity for their insecurities, hurt by the redicule of your own hurt – as if it is some sort of joke, that lies seemed to have come flooding out like a volcano with multiple colours of lava flowing into the other. And you take back your own power, control and sense of calm in your life, by blocking them out from yours, as much as possible.

You feel a sense of peace, because for once in your life, you love yourself enough, to set yourself free. Free from the pain, the anguish and hurt, and not waste your life giving this person chances, but know that you can find someone else who will care about you and respect you no end. Even if they have not entered your life yet, you are confident and self-assured that they will do!

Some friends come and go – so do some loves. But the one thing I want you to remember, is to never leave your own soul. Never leave the true you. Never let yourself cry or be in pain longer than you need to be, to rid yourself from it naturally. Be there for yourself no matter what. To take the role of the father, the mother, and the child within you, when each situation calls for it. But most of all, to be the bestest ever friend to yourself, to love yourself implicitly, and to not settle for anything less than than what is good and right for you. Remember these 3 simple words to say to yourself – I LOVE YOU!

Always stay positive and be you.

Love Sandra xx