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C is for Confidence A-Z of Redundancy

Hi Everyone

It’s important whilst redundant, that when applying for jobs and going for interviews, you come across as a confident person.

Confident in:

  • Yourself
  • Your character
  • Your previous job roles
  • Your skills
  • Your experience
  • Your abilities

In interviews, you need to ensure you are displaying open and positive body language:

  • No crossed arms
  • No fists made
  • No stern looks
  • No leering

You should:

  • Smile – Creates warmth and approachability
  • Have arms by your side or on your lap with palms facing upwards – Shows openness and friendliness
  • Try to relax as much as possible – Will put the interviewer at ease

When you try to relax, pay close attention to your facial muscles, are they stiff and tight or at ease? What are your shoulders doing, are they hunched over or upright? You need to be constantly thinking about being calm and a good way to feel calm is to picture a time when you felt relaxed, maybe talking to a friend, then think of how your body felt at that moment and try to replicate it. This is hard but with practice can feel more natural and help you to get the job. If you are calm, this should make your interviewer feel calm and therefore you will appeal to them.

Remember when you speak, you are talking to a potential boss, so don’t feel so relaxed that you start talking to your  prospective employer like he is your mate in the pub as this would not be well accepted and you are not likely to get the job.

In interviews:

  • Maintain eye-contact but without staring – This can take several practices before getting it right

You have to be confident that your character (personality) will fit the job. For example, if you are a quiet person and don’t like being in crowds, then working in a pub would most likely not suit your personality. If you are a bubbly and chatty person and that’s what the job requires, you need to be confident enough to show this at your interview.

You need to be confident when talking about your previous job roles. Talk up your achievements and don’t mention negatives. If the interviewer asks you questions like – “What was your biggest obstacle in your last role and how did you overcome it?” Then you need to be honest from the employer’s perspective but change the negatives into a positive. For example, if you had a customer who was unhappy with the shoes they had bought but it was more about the comfort of the shoes rather than a manufacturing fault and company policy was not to refund just on a comfort issue as you can’t resell the shoes and the company loses money. You could say that in order to maintain good relations, you decided to exchange the shoes as a gesture of good will. You need to always add a positive outcome – The customer was happy and became a weekly regular.

Whenever you talk about your skills, experience and abilities. You need to talk about them in a positive manner with the interviewer and give examples of when you have used them in your past job roles to good effect and created a positive impact on the businesses you were working for. Then go on to say how you could use those in your new role for which you are being interviewed.

Always remember, if you are confident that you can do the job, then the prospective employer will be confident that you are suitable to work for them.

Stay positive


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Are you doing your dirty bit?

Hi Everyone.

One of the most important first impressions when you attend a job interview, is personal hygiene.

If you look like you don’t care for yourself, not only is it off-putting for the interviewer, it indicates:

  1. You don’t care about the job.
  2. You don’t care about working with other people.
  3. You are not going to take pride in your job or make an effort.

It is important you clean up your act by doing the following before your interview:

  1. Shower or have a bath.
  2. Wear clean clothes, underwear and socks.
  3. Play safe.  Wear a formal shirt or blouse and a formal skirt or trousers.
  4. All clothes need to be neatly ironed and stain free.
  5. Keep colours as neutral as possible, black and white or navy and white are good options.
  6. Use deodorant.
  7. Polish shoes and ensure any laces are tied.
  8. If you suffer with bad dandruff, brush it away beforehand.
  9. Clean your teeth and freshen your breath.
  10. Clean your hair and groom it well.

Good luck.

Stay positive.

Sandra Bellamy

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Be positive, get help, get a job!

Hello Everyone.

In these tough economic times, it is extremely difficult to get work.

Thinking negatively is no good to anyone and quite frankly won’t get you anywhere fast.

Although it is a harsh thing to say and I am sorry if I have offended anyone, but no one wants to employ someone who looks and sounds depressed.  If that’s the state you are in right now, your interviewer will be thinking, what would you be like with the pressures of the job and how will customers or clients relate to you.  You can and must ensure you get help.  You have choices, you can:

  • Talk things over with family and friends.
  • Get help immediately, the sooner you get help, the sooner you will be able to get back into work.  Talk to your doctor about referring you to a counsellor and stress how your life is being affected.
  • If you can afford to pay for private counselling, then do it.  Some small local organisations require just a small donation of what you can afford, so research on the internet or ask your doctor.
  • If you are desperate, you are not alone, looking after yourself should always be your number one priority, phone the samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 (UK).  Or visit their website  –  do not wait, if your need is immediate, take immediate action.

How you come across in an interview will determine if you stand a chance of getting that job, in preference to other people.

If your depression is controllable and you have managed to work in the past, then you may be able to act like you are a positive person in the interview and by acting like it, you will be teaching yourself how to become it.

How to be positive:

  1. Smiling, says you are approachable and friendly.
  2. Talk about your strengths in terms of what you can do to increase company profits, increase productivity and increase efficiency.  (A company is only interested in what you can do for it.)
  3. Prepare your weaknesses in advance and have a positive slant prepared for each one.  Test these out on your family and friends.
  4. Highlight your skills and experience in specific relation to that particular job.  Employers only want to know about skills which will benefit them and their company.
  5. Believe you can do the job and don’t forget to tell them so.  This was a mistake made by a lot of my interviewees, they did not say, I am confident I have the skills you require, (backed up with examples.)  I can do this job.
  6. Have an answer prepared for why you want the job, based on research about that particular company.  Highlight what the benefits would be for you, if you were to work for them.  In other words, tell them what you think is good about their company.
  7. When talking, use a positive tone of voice, a slightly high tone is better than a dull tone.
  8. Use positive language and positive comments.  Such as, you have a beautiful range of products.  I understand your company is performing fantastically.  I would love to work for you.
  9. If they ask where you see yourself in the future, ensure you answer it as though you will be with their company for years.  For example, in a few years time I would like to be a supervisor for you or a top sales person.
  10. End the interview, with, I look forward to hearing from you.  Thank you for your time.  I believe it would be a wonderful opportunity to work for you and your company.
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Stay positive.
Sandra Bellamy
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