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International Asexuality Day

As you likely are aware, I am an asexual author, who also writes books about asexuality. Today is International Asexuality Day. So if you don’t have a clue what asexuality is, read on…

In broad terms, asexuality is a sexual orientation that is based on the lack of sexual attraction. This means we don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse.

Sexual attraction = being sexually attracted towards a specific person/people.

Sexual desire = desiring the sex itself.

Arousal = a feeling in your genitalia.

Asexuality is also a spectrum, ranging from those who experience zero sexual attraction, known as a “pure” asexual, to those do experience sexual attraction, only under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, or who experience it, but not enough to want to act on it – known as a “grey” asexual.

Some asexuals are sex repulsed and will never have sex and hate it, others are sex neutral and don’t care whether they have sex or not. Others are sex positive and will/do have sex.

Some asexuals hate porn and will never watch it.

Other asexuals do watch porn.

Some asexuals masturbate.

Others asexuals feel sick at the idea of masturbation and it makes them want to throw up – just like some sex repulsed asexuals want to throw up when they hear the word sex.

Some asexuals are into BDSM – even without sex.

Other asexuals can’t stand BDSM and they want to run mile even hearing those words.

Some asexuals experience arousal – others don’t.

Every asexual is valid.

Hope you found this post insightful.

I am still currently working on writing my Asexual Guide To Sex book. looking forward to publishing this one.

Sandra xx

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What Is Asexuality? Asexual Awareness #aceweek

If you are new to this beat redundancy blues blog, you might not be aware that in 2009, was the first time I was made redundant. Which is when I discovered my life purpose of writing. And now I write non-fiction books that change lives from pain to gain, under my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books. I specialise in writing books for asexuals, about many different aspects of asexuality. This week is asexual awareness week, known as #aceweek, from Sunday 24th of October to 30th October 2021.

So you may be asking, what is asexuality?

Watch the What Is Asexuality – YouTube #shorts video above and read the asexual flags below, to find out…

What is asexuality?
A lack of sexual attraction
You don't get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse
Asexuals form an asexuality spectrum of nuanced identities
From those who experience no sexual attraction, to those who experience it only under limited, rare, or specific circumstances.
Asexuality spectrum from pure asexuals to grey asexuals

If you are new to asexuality, or you want more help understanding the asexual spectrum, and how to navigate dating, relationships, and life, as an asexual, in a highly sexualised world, I have been helping asexual for over 6 years now on my Asexualise channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife that you can subscribe to, which will help you with many aspects about asexuality, and especially dating and relationships. I usual live stream daily and you can ask me anything you want in chat there.

If you are still discovering about asexuality and more about the asexual spectrum, I have a Free Asexuality Basics For Beginners course that you can sign up to here that also shows you what the asexual spectrum is www.asexualiseacademy.com

I also wrote a book and interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe and across the asexual spectrum for it, https://amzn.to/2Lk5en3 What is good about this book, is it does not just give text book definitions of orientations across the asexual spectrum, it shows you them, through their answers and the personal details they share. It answers most questions you could think of about love, life, and sex, from an asexual point of view, including those you feel afraid to ask!!