Writing is the love of my life.
I have to confess, writing itself, brings me inner peace, such happiness, joy, and contentment, that I do not experience from anything else I regularly do. Nothing compares to the feeling. If only writing books was that simple. But as a self- published Author of non-fiction, loads of other things have to be factored into the equation besides the writing itself:
- Interviewing – for this Asexual Perspectives book.
- Asking your intervieews more questions in view of their responses. This can mean a lot of back and forth emailing.
- Typing your handwritten book up, and your interviewee answers, or using copy and paste and re-formatting the text to fit your own font and type size.
- Editing your intervieews grammar, spelling and punctuation, enough so that it is legible, but still kept authentic and in their own voice.
- Editing your own writing for the book multiple times, including spelling, grammar, and punctuation.
- Proofreading, and again, and again, and again – and even more than that.
- Getting someone else to proof read it for you.
- Incorporating their interviews into the book so they blend in with your own part and emphasise what you are saying in their own, natural way.
- Writing the back matter and front matter.
- Creating a TOC.
- Getting a list of further resources together – where appropriate.
- Fomatting the book correction.
- Typsetting the book correctly.
- Correct pagination.
- Book cover design for Kindle and Createspace – with a blurb!
- Hiring the right designers, proofreaders and editors, if you can’t do that yourself.
- Purchasing ISBNs, if you want to use your own!!
And anything else I may have forgotten to mention.
So you can see that a love and passion for writing, has to be an almost obsession, to be able to give you the patience, determination and persistence, to pull off publishing your own book! You need to use your inner power to believe you will get it done, no matter what! Don’t over think it, just do it!
So you may have read about my Asexual Perspectives book being published, but just what is Asexuality and what does it mean to be asexual? Watch this video to find out more and read my book description below. Asexual Perspectives is currently available to read for free on Amazon for ‘Kindle Unlimited’ readers, so what have you got to lose by finding out more?
In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?
Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.
Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!
If you identify as asexual do you –
Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?
Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.
In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!
In this book you will:
•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.
•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.
•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!
•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.
•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.
•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.
•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.
•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.
•Uncover the positives about being asexual.
•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.
I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.
Heteroromantic Author Sandra Bellamy, is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.
What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE. What is the hardest part of writing a book?
Redundancy is one of the best times to write that book. But now hard can the be??
Special Edition Video Series. In this video series I give you a behind the scenes look at what it is really like to be a writer and author. Part Two shows more of the making of the book and my daily routine.
I have been working tons of hours on my Asexual Perspectives book since New Year’s Day!! (Home, day job, book, home, day joy, book!)
I have finally uploaded my Asexual Perspectives book and waiting for Kindle to approve it and then I will be a self-published Author x 3 – but this book will be in print also asap!!
Stay positive and look out for part two soon!!
Love xx Sandra
If you are redundant it can be a great time to take stock of your life and start writing that book that is within you.
Many people don’t know where to start when writing a book and they procrastinate and never get started, here is my number one tip for getting started with writing your book – it’s called my ‘creative writing explosion’ technique, and in this video I explain how to start writing a book using my creative writing explosion technique, that is about ad-libbing and creating free-flowing stories on the hop. Try it out and leave your comments below – don’t forget to subscribe!
Happy Christmas xx
Thanks for sticking with me of another awesome quirky year – there are many more to come!! And keep believing in you xx