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You have a way about you, that is unique to you, and your way of being. It’s your own quirky way, no one else’s.
Don’t worry about conforming and fitting in, be concerned with your own inner being and who you are.
If this is new territory to you, to stand proudly of yourself; it may be difficult at first because you are asserting your right to be an individual and to be treated as such.
To remain strong when sometimes family, friends and even love ones are pulling you in their direction, takes guts, willpower and determination. This is especially true if you have recently experienced a loss, such as your job.
However, when you have lost something, is the best time to find you. To find your inner being, the roots of your tree, and embed them in the earth. You; your thoughts, your actions, can be controlled by you. In a time when everything else may feel out of control, this can be extremely good for you.
When you assert yourself and others aren’t used to it and don’t like it; if they love you for who you are, they will still love you, care about you, talk to you and be friends with you. They will either get used to the new you and accept it, or they have the right to go their own way. If they go their own way, remember, you have a way with you, that is called your way for a reason. You are your own person. It’s better to be you than live as others would have you live and never be truly happy.
Whatever your background, culture, race, colour, religion, sexual orientation or other, you need to be true to you.
I communicate with people from around the globe. I see the difference between people who are blending in with their society’s expectations, their familiy’s traditions and cultural expectations, when it’s not what they truly want for themselves. They sacrifice their own needs for others; even to the point where they can’t be themselves or with the ones they love, forever. So they settle for what they can get or what they get given. They think they have no choice, but there is always a choice. Compare that to those seemingly in a minority, who come out as themselves; go their own way, but feel an inner contentment and peace, after weathering the storm. They choose to start their own life, how they choose to be, and feel alive and sometimes reborn because of it.
I love my parents dearly but I am extremely different to them. For years I wanted their appproval of what I did, of what I wanted, and to be accepted for being me. I break family traditions, conventions and some expectations. It is hard, but the more I am strong and go my own way, the more they seem to understand the real me and accept it. Whether they do or they don’t, I have a quiky way about me, that’s my own. I am my authentic self, and I like me just the way I am.
That’s why you were born as you. You were given your own brain, to think, your own body to look after, your own eyes to view the world; your own ears to listen and your own voice to speak. The way you sense the world around you, will never be identical to another. You have a way about you. Don’t turn the other way, away from yourself, your needs, wants and desires, go and get them.
As you probably know http://www.beatredundancyblues.com is your one stop resource for redundancy. As well as the practical aspects of redundancy it also covers health and wellbeing including stress, anxiety and depression.
You may like to know that I do voluntary work as a Health Buddy for CSV (Community Service Volunteers) in association with BBC Radio Devon. We promote health messages, learn from health specialists and encourage the 5 ways to wellbeing:
- Be Active
- Take Notice
On Wednesday 10th of March, I went to a CSV Health Buddy celebration of music and activities from local refugees who are being looked after by Devon and Cornwall Refugee Support.
I could not help but take notice of the variety of talent amongst the refugees. There were lots of activities including singing, sports, character making out of carrots and foods from their country. I learnt more about them and the foods they eat. People from different backgrounds connected and it was lovely of them to give up their afternoon to entertain and teach us.
At this event I was pleasantly surprised to be presented with a bouquet of flowers and a Certificate of Achievement for helping a distressed and vulnerable person as part of my role as a CSV (Community Service Volunteer) Health Buddy.
I was even more thrilled to be told that I had been chosen to represent the CSV organisation at their 50th anniversary celebration, to be held at St James’s Palace in London on Monday 15th of July 2013. In the presence of Her Majesty the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh.
This is a once in a lifetime opportunity that I feel incredibly honoured to be chosen for.
Redundancy can make you feel deflated and powerless. Take back the control in your life by discovering what you were born to do and make it happen for yourself.
I am living my dreams and I want you to be too.
Whilst redundant or out of work for whatever reason, Christmas can be a struggle financially, mentally and emotionally. As the big day approaches not only are you worried about how much longer you are going to be out of work and about what the new year holds in store for you, you may feel you haven’t got a lot to celebrate.
Alternatively, you could be thinking positive about your dreams, your hopes and your aspirations for the new year, about what free courses you could attend, what new things you could learn, enjoying the company of family, friends and loved ones that you wouldn’t normally be able to do because you had to work. You can get more into the Christmas spirit because you can spend more time decorating the tree and putting decorations up. You can listen to more Christmas music and watch more Christmas films than ever before because you have the time. You can catch up with people you haven’t seen in ages, you can bake that Christmas cake that seems at times to take a lifetime to cook, you can attend Christmas Fayres and carol services, you can sit in a mound of tinsel and just enjoy the fact that you are alive and can bask in the magic of Christmas.
Whatever makes you happy, just do it whilst you have the opportunity because when you do get back into work you will be thinking to yourself, why didn’t I just enjoy those moments in my life that I may never get the time to have again.
Remember, stay positive and Happy Christmas.
It’s important whilst redundant, that when applying for jobs and going for interviews, you come across as a confident person.
- Your character
- Your previous job roles
- Your skills
- Your experience
- Your abilities
In interviews, you need to ensure you are displaying open and positive body language:
- No crossed arms
- No fists made
- No stern looks
- No leering
- Smile – Creates warmth and approachability
- Have arms by your side or on your lap with palms facing upwards – Shows openness and friendliness
- Try to relax as much as possible – Will put the interviewer at ease
When you try to relax, pay close attention to your facial muscles, are they stiff and tight or at ease? What are your shoulders doing, are they hunched over or upright? You need to be constantly thinking about being calm and a good way to feel calm is to picture a time when you felt relaxed, maybe talking to a friend, then think of how your body felt at that moment and try to replicate it. This is hard but with practice can feel more natural and help you to get the job. If you are calm, this should make your interviewer feel calm and therefore you will appeal to them.
Remember when you speak, you are talking to a potential boss, so don’t feel so relaxed that you start talking to your prospective employer like he is your mate in the pub as this would not be well accepted and you are not likely to get the job.
- Maintain eye-contact but without staring – This can take several practices before getting it right
You have to be confident that your character (personality) will fit the job. For example, if you are a quiet person and don’t like being in crowds, then working in a pub would most likely not suit your personality. If you are a bubbly and chatty person and that’s what the job requires, you need to be confident enough to show this at your interview.
You need to be confident when talking about your previous job roles. Talk up your achievements and don’t mention negatives. If the interviewer asks you questions like – “What was your biggest obstacle in your last role and how did you overcome it?” Then you need to be honest from the employer’s perspective but change the negatives into a positive. For example, if you had a customer who was unhappy with the shoes they had bought but it was more about the comfort of the shoes rather than a manufacturing fault and company policy was not to refund just on a comfort issue as you can’t resell the shoes and the company loses money. You could say that in order to maintain good relations, you decided to exchange the shoes as a gesture of good will. You need to always add a positive outcome – The customer was happy and became a weekly regular.
Whenever you talk about your skills, experience and abilities. You need to talk about them in a positive manner with the interviewer and give examples of when you have used them in your past job roles to good effect and created a positive impact on the businesses you were working for. Then go on to say how you could use those in your new role for which you are being interviewed.
Always remember, if you are confident that you can do the job, then the prospective employer will be confident that you are suitable to work for them.