Category Archives: Strength
You have a way about you, that is unique to you, and your way of being. It’s your own quirky way, no one else’s.
Don’t worry about conforming and fitting in, be concerned with your own inner being and who you are.
If this is new territory to you, to stand proudly of yourself; it may be difficult at first because you are asserting your right to be an individual and to be treated as such.
To remain strong when sometimes family, friends and even love ones are pulling you in their direction, takes guts, willpower and determination. This is especially true if you have recently experienced a loss, such as your job.
However, when you have lost something, is the best time to find you. To find your inner being, the roots of your tree, and embed them in the earth. You; your thoughts, your actions, can be controlled by you. In a time when everything else may feel out of control, this can be extremely good for you.
When you assert yourself and others aren’t used to it and don’t like it; if they love you for who you are, they will still love you, care about you, talk to you and be friends with you. They will either get used to the new you and accept it, or they have the right to go their own way. If they go their own way, remember, you have a way with you, that is called your way for a reason. You are your own person. It’s better to be you than live as others would have you live and never be truly happy.
Whatever your background, culture, race, colour, religion, sexual orientation or other, you need to be true to you.
I communicate with people from around the globe. I see the difference between people who are blending in with their society’s expectations, their familiy’s traditions and cultural expectations, when it’s not what they truly want for themselves. They sacrifice their own needs for others; even to the point where they can’t be themselves or with the ones they love, forever. So they settle for what they can get or what they get given. They think they have no choice, but there is always a choice. Compare that to those seemingly in a minority, who come out as themselves; go their own way, but feel an inner contentment and peace, after weathering the storm. They choose to start their own life, how they choose to be, and feel alive and sometimes reborn because of it.
I love my parents dearly but I am extremely different to them. For years I wanted their appproval of what I did, of what I wanted, and to be accepted for being me. I break family traditions, conventions and some expectations. It is hard, but the more I am strong and go my own way, the more they seem to understand the real me and accept it. Whether they do or they don’t, I have a quiky way about me, that’s my own. I am my authentic self, and I like me just the way I am.
That’s why you were born as you. You were given your own brain, to think, your own body to look after, your own eyes to view the world; your own ears to listen and your own voice to speak. The way you sense the world around you, will never be identical to another. You have a way about you. Don’t turn the other way, away from yourself, your needs, wants and desires, go and get them.
It can be really hard to stay strong in life. Especially when other people try to persuade you that their way, is the right way. That what they are asking you to do, is what you should be doing. That if you don’t do what they ask, you have failed in life or let them down. This is bad thinking.
It is made increasingly harder when you are more vulnerable. Such as when you are made redundant, you split up from a long term relationship or you have a low self esteem and feel depressed.
What you have to do, is to stay strong, and ask yourself some important questions:
●Is it the right way for me?
●Is what they are asking me to do, going to make me feel good?
●Am I going to benefit as a result?
●What are the consequences going to be for me?
● Am I happy or comfortable with what is being asked?
If you answered no to any of these questions and the consequences won’t be good, don’t do it, and certainly not their way. It’s your life and you have ultimate control over what you do or don’t do, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Stay strong and tell them it’s not the right thing for you to do, and it’s not your way. We are blessed with individuality, and that’s why you must choose what is right for you.