Category Archives: Sandra Bellamy
It would seem that a lot of us are conditioned to believe emotion should be contained; and being ‘over sensitive’ is seemingly a punishable offence. With this in mind, it’s no wonder that some of us are scared to feel human. If we feel it, we will usually act it, and some people don’t take kindly to showing true and raw emotion.
The best policy for them, is a zero tolerance policy, meaning, in a nutshell, don’t stand for it, be yourself quirky self no matter what.
To be able to laugh, to dance, to sing, to cry, are amazing gifts that are full of emotion and individual expression. Never give up that individually for anyone. You are super amazing just as you are. It’s okay to be human. It’s okay to be sensitive and emotional. It means you care, you feel, and you are alive. Those are amazing qualities to have and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Many a time I hear people saying, I am too old for this or that. Why?
I hear people say I can’t do that now, but I used to do that when I was younger. What’s stopping them from doing it now?
People say I did that, but now I am a grown up. Like not doing a specific thing, makes you grown up, it doesn’t. Being grown up, means different things to different people. Being grown up, in the real sense, means you have physically grown in some way. ‘Grown up’ is a concept and a state of mind.
However, being grown up also comes with stereotypes of what society generally dictates, is acceptable to do, at a certain age.
Being quirky, and embracing my own quirky, you can imagine that I break and defy most of these and I have no shame in doing so.
Having had counselling in the past for depression, I learnt a little about the concept of the inner child and parent within me. At the time, I didn’t really fully grasp the concept. It was after freeing myself from depression, with no medication, and doing a lot to help myself, that I began to understand how these played a vital role in my recovery. Nowadays,the parent and child roles within me, are crucial in maintaining my own mental health and wellbeing each and every day, so as not to fall back into a depressive state.
The parent within me, loves me and nutures me. It gives me positive self talk. It gives me comfort, hope, support and reasoning. If I ever feel down, it lets me know that things will improve and get better. It’s always there in the background should I need it.
The child within me, is no longer just within me, it is me, and I Iove it. It allows my creative mind to be unleashed, to think for itself, to be free flowing and to guide, lead and tell me what to do next. It does this in the most profound and magical way and I am blessed. It’s great for writing, coming up with creative solutions and living a quirky life that is rich with diversity, rewarding and fulfilling.
I encourage you to unleash your inner child. To let go of your inhibitions that stop you from thinking freely and creatively, and that imprison your mind.
Young children try new things, they want to do what pleases them. They like to explore new things. They express themselves freely in the moment, without worrying about what other’s think. They are a bundle of energy and life. If someone tells them they can’t do something, they want to defy the odds, go their own way and just do it. By finding and using these inner child attributes as an adult, there are no limits to what you can accomplish in your life.
By unleashing your inner child, it will free you from the restrictive thoughts and limiting beliefs of your own mindset. This will set you free on the path to success in every aspect of your life. You can be your authentic self. You can be truly unstoppable.
In my past life, as I refer to it, I was old before my time. Now, although I am older in birth certificate age, I am younger, and the authentic quirky me, who I was always born and meant to be. My time for living a young, quirky life, is now. I have unleashed my inner child. How have you unleashed yours?
Tell me your thoughts.
Stay positive and keep beating your redundancy blues.
I am off to London tomorrow with my cousin, and staying overnight. Then we are off to Disneyland Paris for 3 days, from the 1st-3rd of October. Staying overnight in London again on the 3rd. We have got a ton of excitement coming our way, and a lot of energy driven things to do. I am extremely excited. It’s the first holiday I have had in 3 years that won’t involve any work.
Therefore, my aim is to be completely work free and I won’t be able to answer your comments or check in with you, until after my holiday.
Bon voyage for now. For the continued journey of your life. I will see you when I get back.
Write, write, and write some more.
I would like to announce the launch of sandrabellamy.co.uk
This is a sample taken from the About Sandra Bellamy/Home page.
Welcome to the website of Sandra Bellamy.
A Writer and Redundancy Breakthrough and Employment Success Specialist by night, a part-time Tutor for the Recovery Learning Community, a full-time Fitted Bedroom Specialist in John Lewis by day and a volunteer Health Buddy. Sandra Bellamy has a range of skills, experience, knowledge and expertise that she loves sharing with others to advance their own career and their own learning.
Sandra’s life changing moment came when she was made redundant for the second time in 2009.
“When I was made redundant for the second time in my career, it changed my life. At first I felt my gut was wrenched from me, worried about my future, concerned about finances, bewildered and lost, I just didn’t know what I was going to do.
A couple of weeks later I began to feel relieved that it was over. I thought about the negative aspects of the job I had just left and focused on what I could change about my life and my future career to make me happy. Rather than just being in a job that I was good at, I began to see and understand what job I was meant to be doing. I assessed –
What I was passionate about?
What made me happy?
What did I ultimately want to do with my life?
I came up with two answers:
- To be a writer
- To help people
I now do both of these.
I have had:
- An article published in Country Small Holding.
- A Star letter published in Freelance Market news.
- Two articles published in the Be Involved Devon newsletter
- A blog article published on the Sage One website: Have you got the guts to run your own business?
- A blog article published on the Pay Justice website: How can women make men pay for injustices -16 warning signs of constructive dismissal
- A blog article published on the HR company Exclusive website, that got a mention in The New York Times: Manager, Leader, Teacher or Coach?
I have written the course content for ‘Blogging as an aid to recovery – How to start a WordPress.com blog’ that I am teaching for the Recovery Learning Community.
My blog about writing is at quirkybooks.wordpress.com. I write all of the content for beatredundancyblues.com and beatredundancyblues.co.uk. and beatredundancyublues.wordpress.com. I have my own author website at quirkybooks.net that is currently under construction and I am working on my first two e-Books.
I help people who are redundant to get back into work via my two websites beatredundancyblues.com and beatredundancyblues.co.uk. These are free to use resources, that have access to lots of job sites, recruitment sites and courses sites from within the one site. They have a wealth of other useful information, help and advice. Including about job interviews, time management and health and wellbeing. beatredundancyblues likes to take a holistic approach to redundancy and getting back into work.
Redundancy changed my whole outlook on life and now I am a much happier and more fulfilled person, who believes in myself and what I was born to do. I do not profess to be the best, just to enjoy what I do and to help others as best as I can.”
Keep smiling, keep being positive, believe in yourself and that good things can happen for you.
- Launch of beatredundancyblues.co.uk (beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com)
- Launch of beatredundancyblues.com (beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com)
- When Opportunity Knocks – Don’t Close The Door (beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com)
- Special Recognition Award beatredundancyblues – It’s official (beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com)
- Guest Blogger Sandra Bellamy On Sage One (quirkybooks.wordpress.com)
- Recognition for beating redundancy blues (beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com)