Don’t be afraid to be emotional and to let your emotions out. There is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, being emotional, can be good for you.
When you feel an emotion, but keep it locked inside you, that is in effect, exactly what you are doing. You are embedding it deep within your soul, and that is no good for anyone.
If you talk whilst angry, it’s not good, but sometimes being angry, in the moment, gets the feeling of anger out and you can calm down quickly. Notice, I said talk.
If you need to scream, scream, just try not to scream at someone. At worse, they will never speak to you again, at best, you will need to apologise. Try saying – I feel angry right now.
If you love someone and wished you didn’t anymore, by fighting it and giving yourself a hard time about it, the feelings of love and longing for that person, can intensify and linger. In order to free yourself from the feeling of love, you must first accept that you do love, by allowing yourself to feel it, however difficult and horrid that may be.
If life is getting you down and you feel like crying, just do it. By holding your tears in, you can’t get them out and no good feelings can get in.
Allowing yourself to feel negative emotions, in the moment, such as pain, anger, hurt or grief, enables you to get over them faster and feel better quicker.
Of course, being emotional can be a positive experience. It can help you to feel other’s pain; to empathise and sympathise. It can facilitate a deep and meaningful existence and relationship with others.
Being emotional can be fantastic for a career in writing, because it lets you to get into the mind, soul and spirit, of your characters, so they can lead you to tell their story.
Being emotional, makes us human and that’s a fantastic thing.
So next time someone says to you – you are so emotional. Take it as a compliment. Say, I know it’s great. It’s wonderful to feel alive and be able to connect with others in a profound way. Don’t run from your emotions, but embrace them.
Embrace every quirky thing about you and remember how being emotional, can be good for you.
I wanted to share this with you because having been made redundant twice myself, I know how hard it can be and how depressing it can feel. Life does throw some spanners in our works and it can be difficult to see the light. In order to feel alive again, we must endevour to get back to living the life that makes us feel alive, regardless of previous circumstances or what works for others. Today is a new day, treat it as a new opportunity to feel alive.
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Thanks for all of your kind comments and support during this difficult time of my Grandma’s passing. Her funeral was yesterday and it went well considering it was a funeral. I read my entire poem without stumbling on my words. Being quirky, I made sure it was a funeral with a difference. I went around hugging everyone, including the people carrying the coffin, the guy playing the organ, the Funeral Director, the Vicar and all guests. I even had the Birdie Song playing us out of the crematorium. Me and my Grandma used to dance to that together and do the actions.
I used to suffer with depression and thankfully I have been free of it for about two and a half years. I cured myself, and still maintain a good head through sometimes very quirky, unconventional methods. I am well aware that I have to prevent myself from going back to that dreadful place ever again. I believe life is for living, to the fullest. Although my Grandma has passed, in the rest of my life, I am the happiest I have ever been and so grateful to be living a young life. In my mind, I am getting younger and I love it. I believe in order to feel alive, you must start living. Do things that make you feel fantastic, alive, enthusiastic, excited and passionate, over and over again, and never stop. I live in my own quirky magic bubble and so long as I am in that, life is beautiful.
My Grandma loved living a full and active life. Today is a new month and time for me to start living a new life. What wonderful opportunities will come my way? I wonder? After crying a lot this morning, this is the attitude I decided to take and I went to the cinema to feel alive and enjoy a part of my life in that moment.
In my usual quirky Roving Reporter style, here is my review of Maleficent. It is less that one minute long. Enjoy it and let me know what you think.
Hi everyone
Thanks for all of your kind comments and support during this difficult time of my Grandma’s passing. Her funeral was yesterday and it went well considering it was a funeral. I read my entire poem without stumbling on my words. Being quirky, I made sure it was a funeral with a difference. I went around hugging everyone, including the people carrying the coffin, the guy playing the organ, the Funeral Director, the Vicar and all guests. I even had the Birdie Song playing us out of the crematorium. Me and my Grandma used to dance to that together and do the actions.
I used to suffer with depression and thankfully I have been free of it for about two and a half years. I cured myself, and still maintain a good head through sometimes very quirky, unconventional methods. I am well aware that I have to prevent myself from going back to that dreadful place ever again. I believe life is for living, to the fullest. Although my Grandma has passed, in the rest of my life, I am the happiest I have ever been and so grateful to be living a young life. In my mind, I am getting younger and I love it. I believe in order to feel alive, you must start living. Do things that make you feel fantastic, alive, enthusiastic, excited and passionate, over and over again, and never stop. I live in my own quirky magic bubble and so long as I am in that, life is beautiful.
My Grandma loved living a full and active life. Today is a new month and time for me to start living a new life. What wonderful opportunities will come my way? I wonder? After crying a lot this morning, this is the attitude I decided to take and I went to the cinema to feel alive and enjoy a part of my life in that moment.
In my usual quirky Roving Reporter style, here is my review of Maleficent. It is less that one minute long. Enjoy it and let me know what you think.
I am currently working on reformatting the interior of my Break through the barriers of redundancy book. It would seem that the CreateSpace templates have errors in them. One template I had 5 attempts to reformat and I had to scrap each one. Self publishing is hard but I am determined to publish my book.
Whilst being redundant, depression can rear it’s ugly head.
One of the ways of overcoming feelings of depression, is to lift your mood by changing your state of being. You can do this through:
Movement – Such as dancing or playing sport
Looking – Watching an action movie
Listening – To music
Touching – Stroking a pet
All of these should distract your mind and take your focus off your unwanted thoughts.
Depression is a state of mind that manifests itself into your state of being. Your being responds by harvesting unhappy emotions, feelings and thoughts. You need to pinpoint the cause of your depression and literally cut back on it or cut it out completely from your life. Metaphorically speaking – It is like mould that attacks fruit, once it gets hold, it will continue to spread. You can either cut it out and eat the rest, which may still be infected, or you can throw it away for good and never go near it again. Obviously you would never physically cut yourself, as that is wrong and not what I am saying.
Along with changing your state of being, you need to increase your self-confidence and self-esteem. You need to counteract all of the negative comments from others and from yourself, by speaking only positive words to yourself, over and over again. You must ban yourself from using any negative words.
You need to view obstacles as challenges and be blessed for what you have.
Always tell yourself – You are the world’s greatest.
As you probably know http://www.beatredundancyblues.com is your one stop resource for redundancy. As well as the practical aspects of redundancy it also covers health and wellbeing including stress, anxiety and depression.
You may like to know that I do voluntary work as a Health Buddy for CSV (Community Service Volunteers) in association with BBC Radio Devon. We promote health messages, learn from health specialists and encourage the 5 ways to wellbeing:
Connect
Be Active
Take Notice
Learn
Give
On Wednesday 10th of March, I went to a CSV Health Buddy celebration of music and activities from local refugees who are being looked after by Devon and Cornwall Refugee Support.
I could not help but take notice of the variety of talent amongst the refugees. There were lots of activities including singing, sports, character making out of carrots and foods from their country. I learnt more about them and the foods they eat. People from different backgrounds connected and it was lovely of them to give up their afternoon to entertain and teach us.
At this event I was pleasantly surprised to be presented with a bouquet of flowers and a Certificate of Achievement for helping a distressed and vulnerable person as part of my role as a CSV (Community Service Volunteer) Health Buddy.
I was even more thrilled to be told that I had been chosen to represent the CSV organisation at their 50th anniversary celebration, to be held at St James’s Palace in London on Monday 15th of July 2013. In the presence of Her Majesty the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh.
This is a once in a lifetime opportunity that I feel incredibly honoured to be chosen for.
Redundancy can make you feel deflated and powerless. Take back the control in your life by discovering what you were born to do and make it happen for yourself.
Whilst redundant or out of work for whatever reason, Christmas can be a struggle financially, mentally and emotionally. As the big day approaches not only are you worried about how much longer you are going to be out of work and about what the new year holds in store for you, you may feel you haven’t got a lot to celebrate.
Alternatively, you could be thinking positive about your dreams, your hopes and your aspirations for the new year, about what free courses you could attend, what new things you could learn, enjoying the company of family, friends and loved ones that you wouldn’t normally be able to do because you had to work. You can get more into the Christmas spirit because you can spend more time decorating the tree and putting decorations up. You can listen to more Christmas music and watch more Christmas films than ever before because you have the time. You can catch up with people you haven’t seen in ages, you can bake that Christmas cake that seems at times to take a lifetime to cook, you can attend Christmas Fayres and carol services, you can sit in a mound of tinsel and just enjoy the fact that you are alive and can bask in the magic of Christmas.
Whatever makes you happy, just do it whilst you have the opportunity because when you do get back into work you will be thinking to yourself, why didn’t I just enjoy those moments in my life that I may never get the time to have again.
Redundancy is the perfect opportunity to take time out to discover what it is that you really want to do with your life and your career.
It is perfectly normal for you to feel a mixture of emotions during the early stages of redundancy. These can include, but are not limited to, panic, anxiety, worry, stress, depression and feelings of being overwhelmed, bewildered and fearful of what the future may hold.
However, it is also the chance of a lifetime to take stock of your situation and discover what makes you truly happy, in both your career and your personal life and then setting some goals to determine how you are going to achieve that happiness.
In order to establish makes you happy in these areas, start by:
Making a list of the things that you like to do both in and out of work.
Making a list of what you don’t like to do in and out of work.
Now, of the things you most like, number them in order of priority, what makes you the most happiest should be at the top of your list (number 1) and your least happiest down the bottom of the list. In order to determine which make you the happiest, look at yourself in the mirror and say the words of the things that you think make you the happiest – Notice your tone of voice and what your facial expressions are doing, do they show you are elated? Excited? Can’t stop smiling? By observing yourself in this way, you should be able to verify if what you think makes you happy, actually does make you happy. I know for example, that when I talk about writing, my whole face lights up, my tone of voice changes, my body language is different because I love it so much and feel comfortable being a writer. I know therefore, that I couldn’t live without writing in my life and that’s what my dream job is and that is what I need to do in order to make me happy.
Once you have concluded your priorities for being happy, you next need to decide on what steps to take in order to achieve your dream job. So for example, if you want to be a photographer, your list of steps may read something like this:
Google photography – Check out what area of photography I would like to specialise in, portrait, landscape, still life, animals.
Buy a photography book and magazine to read up about it.
Enrol on a photography course.
Buy a camera recommended by the course.
Practice, practice, practice – Try photographing a range of things.
Join some online photography groups.
Go online and find places to sell my photos.
Establish what products and services I could sell on my own website and for what prices.
Build my own photography website with an integrated shopping cart.
Advertise my products and services in the local media.
Learn to use social media to promote my business.
Sell my products and services.
= You are in your dream job.
So you can see, your dream job is only a plan away but if you don’t act on the plan, then it will always be just a paper exercise. You need to make your dream job happen because no one else can do it for you. Let me know when you have achieved it and you are welcome to do a guest blog post on this site, describing your business and your experience, thereby gaining free publicity. I am confident that together, we can beat redundancy blues.
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