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How To Overcome Feelings Of Depression – You Are The World’s Greatest

Hi everyone

Whilst being redundant, depression can rear it’s ugly head.

One of the ways of overcoming feelings of depression, is to lift your mood by changing your state of being. You can do this through:

  • Movement – Such as dancing or playing sport
  • Looking – Watching an action movie
  • Listening – To music
  • Touching – Stroking a pet

All of these should distract your mind and take your focus off your unwanted thoughts.

Depression is a state of mind that manifests itself into your state of being. Your being responds by harvesting unhappy emotions, feelings and thoughts. You need to pinpoint the cause of your depression and literally cut back on it or cut it out completely from your life. Metaphorically speaking – It is like mould that attacks fruit, once it gets hold, it will continue to spread.  You can either cut it out and eat the rest, which may still be infected, or you can throw it away for good and never go near it again. Obviously you would never physically cut yourself, as that is wrong and not what I am saying.

Along with changing your state of being, you need to increase your self-confidence and self-esteem. You need to counteract all of the negative comments from others and from yourself, by speaking only positive words to yourself, over and over again. You must ban yourself from using any negative words.

You need to view obstacles as challenges and be blessed for what you have.

Always tell yourself – You are the world’s greatest.

Stay positive

Sandra Bellamy

My Invitation to St James’s Palace

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Hi Everyone

As you probably know http://www.beatredundancyblues.com is your one stop resource for redundancy. As well as the practical aspects of redundancy it also covers health and wellbeing including stress, anxiety and depression.

You may like to know that I do voluntary work as a Health Buddy for CSV (Community Service Volunteers) in association with BBC Radio Devon. We promote health messages, learn from health specialists and encourage the 5 ways to wellbeing:

  1. Connect
  2. Be Active
  3. Take Notice
  4. Learn
  5. Give

On Wednesday 10th of March, I went to a CSV Health Buddy celebration of music and activities from local refugees who are being looked after by Devon and Cornwall Refugee Support.

I could not help but take notice of the variety of talent amongst the refugees. There were lots of activities including singing, sports, character making out of carrots and foods from their country. I learnt more about them and the foods they eat. People from different backgrounds connected and it was lovely of them to give up their afternoon to entertain and teach us.

At this event I was pleasantly surprised to be presented with a bouquet of flowers and a Certificate of Achievement for helping a distressed and vulnerable person as part of my role as a CSV (Community Service Volunteer) Health Buddy.

I was even more thrilled to be told that I had been chosen to represent the CSV organisation at their 50th anniversary celebration, to be held at St James’s Palace in London on Monday 15th of July 2013. In the presence of Her Majesty the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh.

This is a once in a lifetime opportunity that I feel incredibly honoured to be chosen for.

Redundancy can make you feel deflated and powerless. Take back the control in your life by discovering what you were born to do and make it happen for yourself.

I am living my dreams and I want you to be too.

Stay positive

Sandra Bellamy

B is for Breathing Space (A-Z of Redundancy)

Hi Everyone

When you enter into the world of Redundancyland it can be a hard pill to swallow. Emotions that you haven’t experienced for a long time, may rear their ugly head and if it is the first time that you have been made redundant, you may feel bewildered, anxious and all alone and that can be just for starters.

For some of you, the business where you worked may literally have collapsed overnight and redundancy will have happened so fast that you barely had time to think, let alone manage to make plans for your future or indeed for the next day. Whilst others among you, will find that there were rumours spreading that the company you worked for was in trouble over a period of months before you got officially told that there was no longer a need for your role.

Whichever is the path that took you to get here, I am here to tell you, you are not alone. I have been made redundant twice and in general, a job for life is now a thing of the past. No longer are employers looking for a person with years of experience in the same role, they are looking at how adaptable and flexible potential employees are to have been able to hold a variety of jobs and gained many transferable skills.

One of the most important things that you must do, is to allow yourself breathing space, by this I mean, time to take everything in that has happened to you, to process it in your mind and to allow yourself the time to think, what is it that I really want to do with my life? You also need time to settle into the idea of not working in that role anymore. I know some of you will be screaming at me right now, saying “I have got a job to go to, I don’t need breathing space.” To those of you who share that viewpoint, I say good on you but please give yourself time to think and reflect on if the job you have taken to replace the one that you were made redundant from, was the right job choice for you. It can be easier to take a job out of desperation than it is too allow yourself the time to think of redundancy as the opportunity of a lifetime to pursue your dreams.

My top five tips for why you need breathing space:

  1. To give yourself time to get over the initial shock of redundancy.
  2. To allow grief to run it’s course.
  3. To think about what other career you could pursue and research ways to make it happen.
  4. To make a plan of action for your future including how you are going to get your dream job.
  5. To pursue a course needed to improve your chances of getting a job in the role that you want.

When I was made redundant for the second time in 2009, I decided to pursue my dream of being a published writer and of setting up a website to help people who have been made redundant to get back into work. If I can do it, I know you can too.

Reach for the stars. They are yours for the taking.

Remember, always stay positive.

Sandra Bellamy

A is for Antidote to Beat Redundancy Blues (A-Z of Redundancy)

Hi Everyone

Redundancy can be an extremely stressful, distressing and depressing time.

When I was made redundant for the first time in 2002, it felt like the rug had been pulled from underneath my feet, bewildered, disappointed and shocked, I didn’t know how I was going to cope. I hadn’t been made redundant before and I didn’t know anyone else who had.

The second time was a different story, in 2009, much like today, it was during one of the worst economic climates and there were many others I knew and subsequently spoke to, that had been put in the same position. To speak to and be around people who understood how I was feeling, who had the same worries, the same fears and the same anxieties, really helped me to not feel so alone. I also found the following, was a good antidote, to help beat redundancy blues.

  1. In a state of panic, don’t just plunge back into the next available job, take some time out, to calm down and to reflect on was has happened to you.
  2. Go with what you are feeling. Don’t suppress the emotions but rather let yourself feel them and deal with them in a constructive way.
  3. Speak to family and friends to get their support.
  4. Do not carry on and pretend that nothing has happened. The sooner you face up to the situation, the sooner you can deal with it and move on.
  5. You need to recognise that you are grieving for your loss. Sure it is not a person that you are losing but a job is a huge part of your life and to have it taken away from you, unless you dislike the job, is often incredibly devastating.
  6. If you are feeling depressed and finding it hard to cope, then consider counselling. It can help you work through your grief and get you back into work quicker. Unless you are good at hiding your depression, a person who is blatantly depressed, will not score brownie points in an interview and you will be doing yourself a disfavour by trying to do something you are not ready for. We all need to take our own time to heal.
  7. Do things which make you feel good about yourself, if you can afford to, take a short break, socialize, be around people who make you feel good and help to get you out of your own head that is probably spinning with all sorts of thoughts, causing you confusion and to feel out of control. The sooner you start to feel in control, the sooner you will feel better.
  8. When you are feeling calmer and more in control, you need to think about what job you would like to do next. In order to do this in a beneficial way, you need to think about what you liked and disliked about your last job and your previous roles. Answer the following questions:
  • Do you prefer to work on your own or as part of a team?
  • Are you a problem solver or do you prefer someone else to do this for you?
  • Do you find it easy to communicate with staff? With Colleagues? With Customers?
  • Do you prefer to lead or to follow?
  • Do you prefer to be guided or to use your own initiative?
  • Do you enjoy talking or being quiet?
  • What environment do you feel most comfortable in?
  • Do you like working in a structured way or prefer a more relaxed approach?
  • Are you a person who likes to do things and be active or do you prefer to be an observer?
  • Do you enjoy working with figures?
  • Do you like socializing with people from work or do you want to do your job and just go home?
  • Are you flexible over hours that you can work?
  • How much money do you need to live on?

Also consider:

  • What is your dream job?
  • Could you turn any hobbies into a career?
  • What job could you realistically do?
  • Do you lack certain skills needed for a new job? If so, what can you do about it?

9. When you start asking yourself these questions, you start looking to the future, now don’t look back. Keep looking forward and focus on that.

10. As always. Stay positive and keep smiling.

Sandra Bellamy

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Thank you.  Stay positive.  Sandra Bellamy

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