It would seem that a lot of us are conditioned to believe emotion should be contained; and being ‘over sensitive’ is seemingly a punishable offence. With this in mind, it’s no wonder that some of us are scared to feel human. If we feel it, we will usually act it, and some people don’t take kindly to showing true and raw emotion.
The best policy for them, is a zero tolerance policy, meaning, in a nutshell, don’t stand for it, be yourself quirky self no matter what.
To be able to laugh, to dance, to sing, to cry, are amazing gifts that are full of emotion and individual expression. Never give up that individually for anyone. You are super amazing just as you are. It’s okay to be human. It’s okay to be sensitive and emotional. It means you care, you feel, and you are alive. Those are amazing qualities to have and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Don’t be afraid to be emotional and to let your emotions out. There is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, being emotional, can be good for you.
When you feel an emotion, but keep it locked inside you, that is in effect, exactly what you are doing. You are embedding it deep within your soul, and that is no good for anyone.
If you talk whilst angry, it’s not good, but sometimes being angry, in the moment, gets the feeling of anger out and you can calm down quickly. Notice, I said talk.
If you need to scream, scream, just try not to scream at someone. At worse, they will never speak to you again, at best, you will need to apologise. Try saying – I feel angry right now.
If you love someone and wished you didn’t anymore, by fighting it and giving yourself a hard time about it, the feelings of love and longing for that person, can intensify and linger. In order to free yourself from the feeling of love, you must first accept that you do love, by allowing yourself to feel it, however difficult and horrid that may be.
If life is getting you down and you feel like crying, just do it. By holding your tears in, you can’t get them out and no good feelings can get in.
Allowing yourself to feel negative emotions, in the moment, such as pain, anger, hurt or grief, enables you to get over them faster and feel better quicker.
Of course, being emotional can be a positive experience. It can help you to feel other’s pain; to empathise and sympathise. It can facilitate a deep and meaningful existence and relationship with others.
Being emotional can be fantastic for a career in writing, because it lets you to get into the mind, soul and spirit, of your characters, so they can lead you to tell their story.
Being emotional, makes us human and that’s a fantastic thing.
So next time someone says to you – you are so emotional. Take it as a compliment. Say, I know it’s great. It’s wonderful to feel alive and be able to connect with others in a profound way. Don’t run from your emotions, but embrace them.
Embrace every quirky thing about you and remember how being emotional, can be good for you.