Category Archives: Embrace your quirky

It’s Okay To Feel Human!

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It would seem that a lot of us are conditioned to believe emotion should be contained; and being ‘over sensitive’ is seemingly a punishable offence. With this in mind, it’s no wonder that some of us are scared to feel human. If we feel it, we will usually act it, and some people don’t take kindly to showing true and raw emotion.

The best policy for them, is a zero tolerance policy, meaning, in a nutshell, don’t stand for it, be yourself quirky self no matter what.

To be able to laugh, to dance, to sing, to cry, are amazing gifts that are full of emotion and individual expression. Never give up that individually for anyone. You are super amazing just as you are. It’s okay to be human. It’s okay to be sensitive and emotional. It means you care, you feel, and you are alive. Those are amazing qualities to have and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Don’t be afraid to be emotional – It’s good for you!

Sandra Bellamy

Sandra Bellamy

Don’t be afraid to be emotional and to let your emotions out. There is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, being emotional, can be good for you.

When you feel an emotion, but keep it locked inside you, that is in effect, exactly what you are doing. You are embedding it deep within your soul, and that is no good for anyone.

If you talk whilst angry, it’s not good, but sometimes being angry, in the moment, gets the feeling of anger out and you can calm down quickly. Notice, I said talk.

If you need to scream, scream, just try not to scream at someone. At worse, they will never speak to you again, at best, you will need to apologise. Try saying – I feel angry right now.

If you love someone and wished you didn’t anymore, by fighting it and giving yourself a hard time about it, the feelings of love and longing for that person, can intensify and linger. In order to free yourself from the feeling of love, you must first accept that you do love, by allowing yourself to feel it, however difficult and horrid that may be.

If life is getting you down and you feel like crying, just do it. By holding your tears in, you can’t get them out and no good feelings can get in.

Allowing yourself to feel negative emotions, in the moment, such as pain, anger, hurt or grief, enables you to get over them faster and feel better quicker.

Of course, being emotional can be a positive experience. It can help you to feel other’s pain; to empathise and sympathise. It can facilitate a deep and meaningful existence and relationship with others.

Being emotional can be fantastic for a career in writing, because it lets you to get into the mind, soul and spirit, of your characters, so they can lead you to tell their story.

Being emotional, makes us human and that’s a fantastic thing.

So next time someone says to you – you are so emotional. Take it as a compliment. Say, I know it’s great. It’s wonderful to feel alive and be able to connect with others in a profound way. Don’t run from your emotions, but embrace them.

Embrace every quirky thing about you and remember how being emotional, can be good for you.

Unleash Your Inner Child!

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Many a time I hear people saying, I am too old for this or that. Why?

I hear people say I can’t do that now, but I used to do that when I was younger. What’s stopping them from doing it now?

People say I did that, but now I am a grown up. Like not doing a specific thing, makes you grown up, it doesn’t. Being grown up, means different things to different people. Being grown up, in the real sense, means you have physically grown in some way. ‘Grown up’ is a concept and a state of mind.

However, being grown up also comes with stereotypes of what society generally dictates, is acceptable to do, at a certain age.
Being quirky, and embracing my own quirky, you can imagine that I break and defy most of these and I have no shame in doing so.

Having had counselling in the past for depression, I learnt a little about the concept of the inner child and parent within me. At the time, I didn’t really fully grasp the concept. It was after freeing myself from depression, with no medication, and doing a lot to help myself, that I began to understand how these played a vital role in my recovery. Nowadays,the parent and child roles within me, are crucial in maintaining my own mental health and wellbeing each and every day, so as not to fall back into a depressive state.

The parent within me, loves me and nutures me. It gives me positive self talk. It gives me comfort, hope, support and reasoning. If I ever feel down, it lets me know that things will improve and get better. It’s always there in the background should I need it.

The child within me, is no longer just within me, it is me, and I Iove it. It allows my creative mind to be unleashed, to think for itself, to be free flowing and to guide, lead and tell me what to do next. It does this in the most profound and magical way and I am blessed. It’s great for writing, coming up with creative solutions and living a quirky life that is rich with diversity, rewarding and fulfilling.

I encourage you to unleash your inner child. To let go of your inhibitions that stop you from thinking freely and creatively, and that imprison your mind.

Young children try new things, they want to do what pleases them. They like to explore new things. They express themselves freely in the moment, without worrying about what other’s think. They are a bundle of energy and life. If someone tells them they can’t do something, they want to defy the odds, go their own way and just do it. By finding and using these inner child attributes as an adult, there are no limits to what you can accomplish in your life.

By unleashing your inner child, it will free you from the restrictive thoughts and limiting beliefs of your own mindset. This will set you free on the path to success in every aspect of your life. You can be your authentic self. You can be truly unstoppable.

In my past life, as I refer to it, I was old before my time. Now, although I am older in birth certificate age, I am younger, and the authentic quirky me, who I was always born and meant to be. My time for living a young, quirky life, is now. I have unleashed my inner child. How have you unleashed yours?

Tell me your thoughts.

Stay positive and keep beating your redundancy blues.

Sandra

You Have a Way About You – Your Own Quirky Way!

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You have a way about you, that is unique to you, and your way of being. It’s your own quirky way, no one else’s.

Don’t worry about conforming and fitting in, be concerned with your own inner being and who you are.

If this is new territory to you, to stand proudly of yourself; it may be difficult at first because you are asserting your right to be an individual and to be treated as such.

To remain strong when sometimes family, friends and even love ones are pulling you in their direction, takes guts, willpower and determination. This is especially true if you have recently experienced a loss, such as your job.

However, when you have lost something, is the best time to find you. To find your inner being, the roots of your tree, and embed them in the earth. You; your thoughts, your actions, can be controlled by you. In a time when everything else may feel out of control, this can be extremely good for you.

When you assert yourself and others aren’t used to it and don’t like it; if they love you for who you are, they will still love you, care about you, talk to you and be friends with you. They will either get used to the new you and accept it, or they have the right to go their own way. If they go their own way, remember, you have a way with you, that is called your way for a reason. You are your own person. It’s better to be you than live as others would have you live and never be truly happy.

Whatever your background, culture, race, colour, religion, sexual orientation or other, you need to be true to you.

I communicate with people from around the globe. I see the difference between people who are blending in with their society’s expectations, their familiy’s traditions and cultural expectations, when it’s not what they truly want for themselves. They sacrifice their own needs for others; even to the point where they can’t be themselves or with the ones they love, forever. So they settle for what they can get or what they get given. They think they have no choice, but there is always a choice. Compare that to those seemingly in a minority, who come out as themselves; go their own way, but feel an inner contentment and peace, after weathering the storm. They choose to start their own life, how they choose to be, and feel alive and sometimes reborn because of it.

I love my parents dearly but I am extremely different to them. For years I wanted their appproval of what I did, of what I wanted, and to be accepted for being me. I break family traditions, conventions and some expectations. It is hard, but the more I am strong and go my own way, the more they seem to understand the real me and accept it. Whether they do or they don’t, I have a quiky way about me, that’s my own. I am my authentic self, and I like me just the way I am.

That’s why you were born as you. You were given your own brain, to think, your own body to look after, your own eyes to view the world; your own ears to listen and your own voice to speak. The way you sense the world around you, will never be identical to another. You have a way about you. Don’t turn the other way, away from yourself, your needs, wants and desires, go and get them.

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