Monthly Archives: June 2017

Persistence, Patience and Inner Power!

Writing is the love of my life.

I have to confess, writing itself, brings me inner peace, such happiness, joy, and contentment, that I do not experience from anything else I regularly do. Nothing compares to the feeling. If only writing books was that simple. But as a self- published Author of non-fiction, loads of other things have to be factored into the equation besides the writing itself:

  • Research.
  • Interviewing – for this Asexual Perspectives book.
  • Asking your intervieews more questions in view of their responses. This can mean a lot of back and forth emailing.
  • Typing your handwritten book up, and your interviewee answers, or using copy and paste and re-formatting the text to fit your own font and type size.
  • Editing your intervieews grammar, spelling and punctuation, enough so that it is legible, but still kept authentic and in their own voice.
  • Editing your own writing for the book multiple times, including spelling, grammar, and punctuation.
  • Proofreading, and again, and again, and again – and even more than that.
  • Getting someone else to proof read it for you.
  • Incorporating their interviews into the book so they blend in with your own part and emphasise what you are saying in their own, natural way.
  • Writing the back matter and front matter.
  • Creating a TOC.
  • Getting a list of further resources together – where appropriate.
  • Fomatting the book correction.
  • Typsetting the book correctly.
  • Correct pagination.
  • Book cover design for Kindle and Createspace – with a blurb!
  • Hiring the right designers, proofreaders and editors, if you can’t do that yourself.
  • Purchasing ISBNs, if you want to use your own!!

And anything else I may have forgotten to mention.

So you can see that a love and passion for writing, has to be an almost obsession, to be able to give you the patience, determination and persistence, to pull off publishing your own book! You need to use your inner power to believe you will get it done, no matter what! Don’t over think it, just do it!

Can You Be More Courageous This Year?

So it is already June and time to take stock of how your year has gone so far. If you have not done as much as you wished you had, or made as much progress as you feel you should have done, maybe it is because you have not been courageous enough and got out of your comfort zone and reached for the stars. Maybe it is because you set your sights too small and need to move the needle to the bigger game. Watch this awesome video from personal development expert Brendon Burchard, and find out how you can be more courageous in 2017, to get more from life.

Sometimes You Just Have To Let Them Go!

Sometimes someone may come into your life, who is far from perfect, but you see the hidden gems in them. You see the best in them, their warm heart, their beautiful face, their young words of wisdom encased in an old soul. You think this is it! This is the awesome person that I may have been waiting for all my life, maybe as a friend or maybe more. 

But as months go by and your bond grows, your insticts are not 100% agreeing with your vision and very soon, the real person emerges, but this time these imperfections are more that that, they are an innocent and naive weapon, in the fight to control the situation and you. They are an intentional stab in the back, because you did not do what they wanted you to do. Because you weren’t there, they quickly replaced you with someone else. While you were expected to wait for them when they demanded it and ‘told’ you. And worse of all, they turned to one of your own friends, whom you know is a good person and known for years. And you are left with a feeling of betrayal, hurt and pain, all the whilst knowing that your friend although not interested in the same way, is also being used and they do not reply to you.

You toughen up and come to your senses, you feel pity for their insecurities, hurt by the redicule of your own hurt – as if it is some sort of joke, that lies seemed to have come flooding out like a volcano with multiple colours of lava flowing into the other. And you take back your own power, control and sense of calm in your life, by blocking them out from yours, as much as possible.

You feel a sense of peace, because for once in your life, you love yourself enough, to set yourself free. Free from the pain, the anguish and hurt, and not waste your life giving this person chances, but know that you can find someone else who will care about you and respect you no end. Even if they have not entered your life yet, you are confident and self-assured that they will do!

Some friends come and go – so do some loves. But the one thing I want you to remember, is to never leave your own soul. Never leave the true you. Never let yourself cry or be in pain longer than you need to be, to rid yourself from it naturally. Be there for yourself no matter what. To take the role of the father, the mother, and the child within you, when each situation calls for it. But most of all, to be the bestest ever friend to yourself, to love yourself implicitly, and to not settle for anything less than than what is good and right for you. Remember these 3 simple words to say to yourself – I LOVE YOU!

Always stay positive and be you.

Love Sandra xx

Quit Saying Try – And Super Jump Your Success!

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So many people say they will try this or they will try that, but how many people take any action to achieve it? Be a lateral black and white thinker, and go all in! If you are going to put your time and energy into something, then you may as well make the effort to do the best job possible of it.

Worse case scenario is you learn some stuff because of it. Best case scenario is unlimited. You flourish, you fly, and the world is your oyster!! Either way it will be a success because you will have learned, developed, and grown yourself! And in much quicker time, than had you stagnated in the moment through doubt, worry, and fear! And this is how you super jump your success!!

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