How to self-love!

Me (on a self-date to Bristol).

Blue frog at Bristol Zoo.

 

 

Beautiful Butterfly.

 

If you want self-love, you need to love yourself, and that ability comes from understanding multiple aspects of your life, accepting the now in each of those and changing what you don’t like, want or need, as much as you can. It’s also about knowing and accepting that things will happen in life that you have no control over but that you are okay as you are whatever happens, and you will get through any challenge life has to offer you.

If you rush around being swept up in life, it can be tough to focus on yourself. But you need to spend some time with yourself in order to assess how life really is for you, and if you need to make any dramatic and significant changes to improve your life. This starts with understanding yourself in this moment, right now! This is called being present and mindful.

What is in the past has gone, and while it is useful to reflect and learn from it, you must not hold onto it so it consumes you in the present. If you do not change and move on, you stay stagnant and this can lead to depression. Your mind needs to be stimulated and if you don’t, all you will keep doing is going around life in circles like the clothes cycle in a washing machine, and your brain will die, even if your body is still here – this was me yeas ago. I stayed doing the normal things, because that is how I was programmed to be, then, in 2012, I woke up to a different life and a different way of being when I saw Life and Business Coach Anthony Robbins at a Success Seminar in London. He taught among others things, to change your state if you want to change your life and to get out of your comfort zone – I did both of those things and keep pushing myself to do them as much as possible, every year and often month to month, despite still having some personal anxiety at times. Why do I do this? Because I want to lead as rich and full life as possible, one that does not involve me watching countless hours of soaps and not adding any value to people’s lives. Because I know I have more to give to the world than I am currently giving and therefore, I have more to give myself. I have to give myself more confidence, more self-belief and more empowerment, and in return I will receive more self-love to cuddle up to.

So think about your life right now and think about how you would like to change it? Think about your:

  • Relationships – With family, with friends and with loved ones?
  • Health – Are you feeling good in your body?
  • Mind – Are your thoughts negative or positive?
  • Are you actively seeking work you love or are you trying to clutch at straws to get anything you can?
  • Finances – How are they right now? What do you think will improve your situation is this aspect and what are you going to do about it?
  • Life goals and mission – Do you know your purpose? Do you know what you would love to do and how are you going to achieve that?
  • Attitude – This is tied into mindset, but have you got the right attitude to get you the right mindset?

Assess how you are in each of these in a scale of 1-10. 10 being, for example, my relationships are awesome, to 1, not got any relationships, life sucks!

Then you need to find out how you are going to change what you are not happy with. Self-Love, comes from loving ones life as is, despite adversity and setbacks. But it is also about being honest with yourself.  If any of these areas are making you feel bad, you need to change that. If you hate change – welcome to the club! Even I still find change difficult, but if you want to have a richer life and feel alive, you have to move and that means changing what you do and yes, that may me changing YOU too, to be the best version of you! Life is short, time is precious, so get a move on with your life!

In order to change, self-awareness is key. When a change happens to us, like we are made redundant, we then start to question our life and think about what has happened and what may happen. But why wait for any more change to happen to you? Wouldn’t it be better to make change work for you? Find out what you love, what makes you feel great and go do that. Be your own self and love you. Love all that you are and all that you do!

And remember, I love you for being YOU!

 

 

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About Quirky Books

Published Author of BREAK THROUGH THE BARRIERS OF REDUNDANCY TO GET BACK INTO WORK - AN A-Z 'HOW TO' GUIDE and How To Get Started With Twitter For Absolute Beginners, A Step-By-Step Guide. In a nutshell, my Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy book is a complete A-Z system for getting back into work, and a comprehensive guide about how you can recover from the devastating effects of redundancy to live the life of your dreams. Although this book is predominantly aimed at redundant workers, the content will prove equally useful to jobseekers or anyone looking to change careers for whatever reason. This book provides eighty benefits and covers twenty-six aspects of redundancy. It’s a system because each of the chapters is broken down into ‘5 components of redundancy’. You need to master all components in order to give you the best chance of success at getting back into work. Because this book takes a holistic view of redundancy, one of the key elements to master first of all is wellbeing skills, before progressing through exploring what options are available to you and later, learning the practical job skills. This book is different because it does not just focus on one element of redundancy, but on the many barriers you need to conquer if you are to successfully get back into work, I show you how to deal with the inner trauma and turmoil of being made redundant (health and wellbeing skills), before focusing on the practical elements such as job skills, and deciding on your future path. I have worked in management roles for seven years. Part of my management duties entailed interviewing, recruiting, training and coaching staff and I took part in every aspect of the recruitment process from placing the advert to completing staff inductions and training. I have also experienced the other side of the recruitment process, when I was applying for work and being interviewed for jobs whilst redundant. I have been made redundant twice and each time managed to successfully work my way back up the career ladder. It is from experience that I have gained insight into both points of view and I am able to help others. This book is the first Quirky Book that I published and it's under my own imprint of Quirky Books. It's unique and groundbreaking because it combines two genres, an A-Z Guide with a How To book. Each of its A-Z chapters is about an element of redundancy, and within each chapter it explains how to do things related to that element to break though your barriers of redundancy and beat your redundancy blues. That’s what makes it a quirky book. Buy it from Amazon UK: http://www.amazon.co.uk/BREAK-THROUGH-BARRIERS-REDUNDANCY-GUIDE-ebook/dp/B0128RWB5O Buy it from Amazon USA: http://www.amazon.co.uk/BREAK-THROUGH-BARRIERS-REDUNDANCY-GUIDE-ebook/dp/B0128RWB5O Like on Facebook www.facebook.com/BreakThroughTheBarriersOfRedundancyBook You can view my quirkybooks writing blog at http://www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com

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