Monthly Archives: October 2014

Don’t be afraid to be emotional – It’s good for you!

Sandra Bellamy

Sandra Bellamy

Don’t be afraid to be emotional and to let your emotions out. There is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, being emotional, can be good for you.

When you feel an emotion, but keep it locked inside you, that is in effect, exactly what you are doing. You are embedding it deep within your soul, and that is no good for anyone.

If you talk whilst angry, it’s not good, but sometimes being angry, in the moment, gets the feeling of anger out and you can calm down quickly. Notice, I said talk.

If you need to scream, scream, just try not to scream at someone. At worse, they will never speak to you again, at best, you will need to apologise. Try saying – I feel angry right now.

If you love someone and wished you didn’t anymore, by fighting it and giving yourself a hard time about it, the feelings of love and longing for that person, can intensify and linger. In order to free yourself from the feeling of love, you must first accept that you do love, by allowing yourself to feel it, however difficult and horrid that may be.

If life is getting you down and you feel like crying, just do it. By holding your tears in, you can’t get them out and no good feelings can get in.

Allowing yourself to feel negative emotions, in the moment, such as pain, anger, hurt or grief, enables you to get over them faster and feel better quicker.

Of course, being emotional can be a positive experience. It can help you to feel other’s pain; to empathise and sympathise. It can facilitate a deep and meaningful existence and relationship with others.

Being emotional can be fantastic for a career in writing, because it lets you to get into the mind, soul and spirit, of your characters, so they can lead you to tell their story.

Being emotional, makes us human and that’s a fantastic thing.

So next time someone says to you – you are so emotional. Take it as a compliment. Say, I know it’s great. It’s wonderful to feel alive and be able to connect with others in a profound way. Don’t run from your emotions, but embrace them.

Embrace every quirky thing about you and remember how being emotional, can be good for you.

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Remember

Live life fully and with no regrets.

Remember, you only get one life, one chance, one time.

Cherish every precious moment.

Unleash Your Inner Child!

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Many a time I hear people saying, I am too old for this or that. Why?

I hear people say I can’t do that now, but I used to do that when I was younger. What’s stopping them from doing it now?

People say I did that, but now I am a grown up. Like not doing a specific thing, makes you grown up, it doesn’t. Being grown up, means different things to different people. Being grown up, in the real sense, means you have physically grown in some way. ‘Grown up’ is a concept and a state of mind.

However, being grown up also comes with stereotypes of what society generally dictates, is acceptable to do, at a certain age.
Being quirky, and embracing my own quirky, you can imagine that I break and defy most of these and I have no shame in doing so.

Having had counselling in the past for depression, I learnt a little about the concept of the inner child and parent within me. At the time, I didn’t really fully grasp the concept. It was after freeing myself from depression, with no medication, and doing a lot to help myself, that I began to understand how these played a vital role in my recovery. Nowadays,the parent and child roles within me, are crucial in maintaining my own mental health and wellbeing each and every day, so as not to fall back into a depressive state.

The parent within me, loves me and nutures me. It gives me positive self talk. It gives me comfort, hope, support and reasoning. If I ever feel down, it lets me know that things will improve and get better. It’s always there in the background should I need it.

The child within me, is no longer just within me, it is me, and I Iove it. It allows my creative mind to be unleashed, to think for itself, to be free flowing and to guide, lead and tell me what to do next. It does this in the most profound and magical way and I am blessed. It’s great for writing, coming up with creative solutions and living a quirky life that is rich with diversity, rewarding and fulfilling.

I encourage you to unleash your inner child. To let go of your inhibitions that stop you from thinking freely and creatively, and that imprison your mind.

Young children try new things, they want to do what pleases them. They like to explore new things. They express themselves freely in the moment, without worrying about what other’s think. They are a bundle of energy and life. If someone tells them they can’t do something, they want to defy the odds, go their own way and just do it. By finding and using these inner child attributes as an adult, there are no limits to what you can accomplish in your life.

By unleashing your inner child, it will free you from the restrictive thoughts and limiting beliefs of your own mindset. This will set you free on the path to success in every aspect of your life. You can be your authentic self. You can be truly unstoppable.

In my past life, as I refer to it, I was old before my time. Now, although I am older in birth certificate age, I am younger, and the authentic quirky me, who I was always born and meant to be. My time for living a young, quirky life, is now. I have unleashed my inner child. How have you unleashed yours?

Tell me your thoughts.

Stay positive and keep beating your redundancy blues.

Sandra

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